update: I sat next to her in class and it went so well that we even got lunch afterwards! And I got her phone number! How exciting!But I don't know where to go from here; I was thinking of inviting her for a date this weekend, is that moving to fast? Should I ask if she has a partner?I think she's older than I first though, she mentioned having already gotten her AA, and even that she served in the navy or smth, so I'm guessing she's mid 20s to late 30s? Would she be off put by my being 19? How should I continue?
>>42404507nah that's not too fast to ask, just don't be horny about it. go for it and report back
>>42404532I know not to be horny, but isn't it making my intentions obvious to soon?
>>42405444depends how you want to play it. you could just exist near her for a little bit and let her attraction grow, or you could go for it from the get-go. normally i would do wait-and-see but with other trans ppl its a bit easier to have a whirlwind romance
>>42405510I do want her in that way... but I don't know if I'm ready for that type of relationship yet; she's probably more experienced then me, but I want to be the one to take the initiative. How exactly should I pace myself when it comes to romance or "intimacy"
>>42404507im a 30s tranny and being asked out by a 19 yr old would be extremely off-putting
>>42405547why is that the case? Should I lie abt my age? How could I present myself in a way that's less "off-putting"?
>>42404507she probably will enjoy the age gap so go for it, dont need to ask if she has a partner, if shes cool she will tell you, and you wil stays as friends otherwise bullet avoided i guess :3
>>42405557i mean you're literally still a teenager. you can't even drink legally yet. dont lie about your age.i mean do you even know if she's dating anyone or even gay/into trannies?
>>4240450720 year olds should not date 30 year olds unless its a sugar daddy/mommy situationship and you understand it will not be representative of what a real relationship with an equal partner is like. most 20 year olds dating 30-40s are basically just being wow'd by basic amenities like food and hygiene products and thats not really equal to be sexually exploited.if someone says you are mature for your age RUN
>>42405634>i mean you're literally still a teenagerI'm literally an adult, so what's your point>i mean do you even know if she's dating anyone or even gay/into trannies?No, that's what I'm asking if I should ask about>>42405659I've been told I'm 'mature for my age' a few times when I was 17 (lying about being 18), but anyways I don't really care about the age gap; she's beautiful & I want to be with her>>42405567you sound like you're only experience is e-dating
>>42405444no. asking for a date with someone you just met and find attractive is a pretty normal adult thing to do. can't promise she'll go for the age gap but this would not be bad
>>4240571519 year olds are mentally kidst. 19
>>42405724what if I ask her on a date, but I don't call it a "date"; it's just getting coffee, and I ask to hold her hand during it, is that weird?>>42405778by your own logic this is a childish judgement, but it's absurd either way, because adult is necessarily not a kid, and they cannot have the mind of a child, no matter how childish they may act
>>42405715>I'm literally an adult, so what's your pointyes you're an adult. still, it would be weird to me to date because we would lack common life experiences, and i personally want to date someone on equal footing. there's also material differences in terms of finances and stuff that can lead to power differentials. also, being a tranny i'm sensitive to not wanting to look like a creep and dating someone a little over half my age is creepy af.if a 19 yo classmate befriended me i would not even expect to be asked out. i would assume she wants to be friends.that being said, you don't even know her actual age and like, if she's 24 then that's less of an issue anyway.just ask her out, sooner rather than later, its good to get your intentions known early i guess
>>42404507I disagree with the others in the thread. Be her friend first. Get to know her, see how compatible you are. Perhaps more importantly, sus out how old she is and how she would feel about dating someone younger (or dating someone trans, or dating a woman, or dating someone like you)!But I get it, it is VERY hard not to fall for someone quickly. Have not personally learned how to. I'm rooting for you nona!
>>42405944>>42405980how should I approch the topic of age? straight up ask "hey how old r u lol im 19 by the way"? Or should I say my age first, or should I signal romantic interest and then ask about age? What order should I bring these issues up?
>>42406009what >>42405980 said is better desuif you're in a 4 yr university i assume she would think you're the same age as most other students. idk get to know her the normal way, text or coffee or lunch, if you don't even know the basics of her life then how do you know if you really want to date
>>42406009Wow you are adorably autistic. Can you date me instead.When she's talking about her accomplishments or etc., that's usually a good time because it's a reasonable thought process to go "waow lots of accomplishments" -> "hmm what was the timeline of them".I would avoid bringing up romantic interest for a while. (You probably need me to specify: like at least one week, preferably three or more. As long as you can let the crush marinate without going insane.)
>>42406047>>42406054ok ill try to bring the topic of age up naturally, and otherwise progress slowlyalso I made a typo in the OP, I think she's mid 20s to EARLY 30s, not late 30s. But Idk for sure.anyways im going to sleep, ill update le board in a few days maybe
>>42404507>More transbianshitYou are a pornsick cis straight man and your lady sounds malebrained enough to be one too, so yeah it should work
