by ''autist'' i actually mean autistic(technically aspergers but whatevr). i yearn for physical contact very often but i never really had the chance to have any because i dont have irl friends and ive never had a partner. in the not too far future though i will get the chance to be intimate with someone(not in a sexual way at all, i just dont know what other word i could use to describe it) and i dont want to ruin it for them or for myself.even hugs feel awkward for me. i did get 2 or 3 hugs in my life that i actually enjoyed a lot but thats it. i dont know why but my brain just refuses to accept touch or something. i really do want cuddles and hugs and hand holding and all that, i mean it, i want nothing more than to feel comfortale enough around someone to do those things but im so scared of accidentally making it weird and in turn making every interaction after that awkward.please please please give advice if you have dealt with this before, esp if ur also autistic but anything helps.
>>42566803Start out small with holding hands / hand shakes / high fives and have your partner give you a treat each time
>>42566839last i heard you cant pavlov humans
>>42566929you definitely can
sorry for bumping i was hoping for more replies lol
>>42566803I have autism as well and get bad sensory issues with touch. But I have a person. My girlfriend is the only person I touch and I love touching them, I can’t touch them enough. I still get a lot of sensory stuff but it’s in a really enjoyable way and sends all these signals through my body. You’ll eventually find your person, just start small and work your way up to full hugging and holding hands. Because when you find your person you won’t be able to touch them enough :) hope that helps
>>42566803I don't know it's gotten bad lately. :(
>>42566803The hypersexuality and mental illness overpowered the autism in my case. I constantly crave physical attention, and feel worthless and unattractive if I dont get enough. Sex, being held, petted, choked, slapped, pinched, punched in the tummy, hair pulled, hugs, kisses, and being bitten, all of that. Need it constantly or the bad thoughts come back and I spiral mentally and end up having a meltdown of some kind over something stupid.Maybe youre just not horny enough to overcome the awkward/anxious feelings? Tho I guess its possible that wouldnt work for everybody, and im just a dumb bitch
>>42569293Yeah idk about that one chief
>>42569433Enjoy not getting touched then, autismo
