Hello, I am an average, normal, post-transition, passing trans woman. I used to hang out here, but I'm 30 years old now and my life is much better than it was. i left, made some friends, dated, got laid. just living a normal life. i got srs, i got a boyfriend, i got a job. i'm fine and everything is going ok for me. i've caught up. i want u to know that while you are here you are immersed in a group of people that is deeply abnormal. you may realize that, but you don't realize just how abnormal they are. you'll never quite realize it until you make good normie friends. which you will do. i didn't think i would make it here, but i did. 1. insurance paid, it's not that hard. it's just paperwork and ~20-30 stressful phone calls. in total, over a few years. starbucks it. it's 100% worth it. you can do it. ya gotta work anyway lol 2. it's kinda crazy what the difference between 3 years hrt is and 10 years. all that shit about 3 being the end are complete horseshit. i look a LOT better. 3. it will help to just be older. trust me. it gets easier. u will be ok
>>42567345Im also 30, pass, married, surgeries, blah blah blah. I just come here to shitpost when Im at work.
Thank u. Im 3 years in and sometimes worry that this is it, while I pass Im not at my goal. I know this place is weird. I at least quit posting in passgen.
>>42567345>i want u to know that while you are here you are immersed in a group of people that is deeply abnormalyeah i know, i'm so fucking abnormal that more often than not most of the time i try post anything anywhere im 100% ignored by everyone
>>42567366<3>>42567811<3 i get it. it's important to be more normal. it's not compromising yourself, it's literally just socializing. you're also adapting to the environment here, you just prefer it because it's self destructive adaptation and being self destructive feels better i'm not really talking about posting, though. i'm talking about people. real people.
>>42567345>1. insurance paid, it's not that hard.american, what a surprise
>>42567345can u explain how u got srs step by step? wdym by 20-30 phone calls why that much?i wanna get it but i dont think im capable of doing something that bureaucratic so please fill me in
that’s crazy and im happy for you but i got raped into repression when i was 18 and missed the window of hip growth i would have needed to ever pass and now i have to pretend to be a man for the rest of my life.
>>42567345stfu ratina you don't pass
>>42568135basically it depends, your first step is to call the doctor you want to do the surgery, and they'll walk you through the rest. that's it! ask lots of questions. >>42568114where r u from?>>42568162i'm really sorry that happened. i know better than most what that means. and if you wanna mope for the rest of your life, be my guest. but it's bo-ring. seriously. go make some friends and suddenly life will light up and be worth living. it's wild. you have no idea how good it can be. all the shit you're worried about now is unnecessary. you can be happy. >>42568171not me
>>42568273what did you say when u called? How long did it take from ur first call to the day of surgery
>>42568571i went to a famous one so it took like a year. i just said hey, my name is ______, i'm calling regarding srs with dr ______? and everything else was obvious.
>>42567345>i want u to know that while you are here you are immersed in a group of people that is deeply abnormal. you may realize that, but you don't realize just how abnormal they are. you'll never quite realize it until you make good normie friends.I know you say this out of kindness but I think you're underestimating how isolating it can be living as a tranny in magaland or worse (like rural eastern Europe) where you'll be ostracized at best and persecuted at worst. You might as well be a space alien to themPosters here treat being trans as relatively normal which is a massive step up over that, even with how much nonsense gets postedI do agree that being older and on HRT for longer helps with everything (and "my canthal tilt is wrong so I'll never pass" is just silly), but it won't e.g. help me learn to dress myself better, change normies' opinions of trannies as a whole, or cure my autism
>>42568805i grew up as a homeschooled tranny kid in the deep south. i never had friends until i was well into adulthood. i was INCREDIBLY isolated. like. i relate more to those kids who got like locked in basements than people who like, went to a normal american high school. i've been through a lot of shit, in other words. and i get it. i'm not underestimating anything. the only person who can teach you how to dress better is you. the only person who can change people's perception of you is you. the only person who can cure your social dysfunction (which is the thing you're actually worried about and what you actually want to work on) is you, practicing!and it's all possible.
Im not going to make any friends bro im a ugly black hon and no one's going to want to engage with my worthless tranny self
>>42568273the uk. if you aren't rich you can't pass
>>42567345im almost 30, repped for 10 years, feel barely human, have made no progress in life. its over
>>42568849;_; i have black trans girl friends and they are doing rly well. the one constant i have with every single tran i've ever met is they're not nearly as ugly as they say they are on this fuckass website lol>>42568854unironically it's time to sell some ass girl. that's how we do it.
>>42568917Except i actually am ugly and I never will have friends
>>42568917telling hons to prostitute themselves when you're a make it passoid that never had to do that is pretty funny
>>42568941Yeah like who's going to pay for a hon lol
>>42568879sounds like it's about time to start living, slowpoke.if it were really over, you wouldn't be talking about what you want for the future (that's what being a repper means), you wouldn't be telling me how you still have hold of part of your humanity (that's what "barely human" means), you wouldn't be telling me about your frustration with your progress (which is ambition), and you sure as shit wouldn't be telling me it's over. so fuck all that. try something new. give yourself a chance to live. it sounds like corny advice, but tomorrow, talk to someone. maybe set up a therapy appointment if you can afford it. get the ball rolling.2 years from now, your life could be completely unrecognizable. all you gotta do is take all that miserable Want and turn it into action. think about it this way. if you're gonna be around tomorrow, you might as well be headed in the right direction. imagine that. what if every day was a little better than the day before? wouldn't that feel good? why not stick around for another day of being slightly closer to the life you want? and those steps add up, too. good luck, girl. i know it's rough. i'm sorry you're going through this. if you've got the strength to make it this far, you've done the hard part. every step from now on out is easier.
>>42568932ever met an ugly person with friends? i have too! i've met ugly people with successful careers, spouses, kids, everything. you can do it too. >>42568941there u go with the assumptions lol>>42568976i'm just telling you how it is, that's the way the tranny financial world is structured. you're not privileged in any of the ways you thought you were. and you don't have to be pretty, you just have to be willing to do the whole costume. this is the kind of advice you get from irl trans friends who aren't shut-in doomers or suburban kids.
>>42569097Dawg anyone that tells you to do sexwork to make money isn't your friend especially if they know you're also a hon. They just want you to get hate crimed lol
>>42568832Is it really just a matter of getting more time practicing? I looked like a turbo hon early in my transition and other transwomen that were further along treated me like a second class citizen. If I had tried to socially calibrate off that I would have messed myself up.
>>42568941this. OP has pretty privledge and is not understanding how much that changed things for her
>>42567345i will never make normie friendsthey can tell
>>42567345this post is spiritually a kahoot party night
>>42569146>>42569192wrong :) eat shit>>42569180yeah. it's part of it. it can be pretty hard to be friends with other trans people, but the good ones aren't too bad. but you should befriend cis people. if they're real ones, they're going to be just as important in the long run. you need both. >>42569411are you saying this because that's your touch point for "the experience of interacting with someone without significant mental illness"
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