>>42574810
you need to be medicated and commit yourself to doing DBT. otherwise i strongly advise you stop trying to date and leave people alone until you fix your shit with intensive therapy

>>42574826
Also, move. When I did DBT I started to finally realize how fucked up I had treated people. Some of them I absolutely traumatized and I completely destroyed my social reputation. It wasn’t recoverable and I couldn’t deal with the shame, because those people never forgave me, since every time I apologized I did the exact same shit or worse. It made me so suicidal to come to grips with the damage I had done to people who cared about me, and for no good reason. A clean slate is kind of necessary.

Meditate every day and take kratom / 7-hydroxy when you feel like cutting or killing yourself. 90% of BPD girls ignore the first step however and become drug addicts.

>>42574826
where do i start with DBT it seems scary

>>42574911
well if you have a BPD diagnosis then go see a psychotherapist who specializes in DBT. it’s a lot of work though. you really need to commit to it. but it absolutely works if you commit to it.

>>42574826
>>42574862

good posts

>>42574862
>A clean slate is kind of necessary
It's not. Self control is necessary.
>Since every time I apologized I did the exact same shit or worse
This proves the dbt wasn't working. You need to be able to take personal accountability for your actions. Identifying with a blank slate is cope you use to justify your shitty behavior.

You're not a bad person, you just have different emotional needs and you've done some bad things to have them met. If you think you can get away with those things then you will do them again, but you actually can't and your inability to recognize that is a problem that dbt / mindfulness / whatever you do should help with.

>>42574888
i used to meditate when i was repping like a decade ago i haven't really considered doing it since starting hrt i'll try it out again thank you

>>42574911
You can find dbt workbooks on libgen

>>42574929
You don’t know what you’re talking about. So first of all, yes it was necessary. I became persona non grata in the social scene. Second, I kept making the same mistakes before doing DBT, not during it or after it.
>Identifying with a blank slate is cope you use to justify your shitty behavior.
If people don’t forgive you and your social reputation is trashed it’s completely valid to move and start fresh. How is it avoiding accountability if the people you harmed aren’t interested in repairing a relationship and don’t make space for you to make amends? Just go elsewhere. What exactly is your idea of “accountability”?