I used to work with a lesbian and hearing her talk casually about having a wife made me think "why aren't you ashamed of yourself for talking about this and being open about being a freak?"Used to have some gay guy acquaintances and was always just uncomfortable around them.Same with trans women. I die of cringe whenever I see them on tv or social media and feel viscerally uncomfortable whenever I see one in public.For context I am a manmoder with no intention of ever socially transitioning.
>>42579923Try chilling out, hater
>>42579923quit being a jealous bitch of them living their lives while you're a coward wimp duh
>>42580011I'm not a coward. I manmode because I know how masculine I look and don't want to make others uncomfortable.
>>42580005How?
>>42580037so you're just very jealous cuz you very uglyyeah, hate comes from there
>>42579923To get the obvious out of the way, you are projecting your own insecurities and internalized phobias on to others."Noticing" is the first step in most cognitive therapy, where you just try to *notice* when you are doing something.So start by noticing and to the maximum extent feasible do so without judgement or self criticism. Hating yourself for being homophobic/transphobic will not make you less homophobic/transphobic, instead it will only further internalize the shame you feel.From noticing you then work towards developing a neutral response instead of a negative one. There are many ways to condition yourself towards neutrality and entirely distinct fields of therapy around this. But I would say be gentle to yourself and expect resistance, your reactions aren't abnormal or wrong, they are conditioned into you over years and there is no shortcut to conditioning them away. Patience, awareness, and neutrality.
>>42580084thanks for an actual answer. have you dealt with the same thing?
>>42579923Dont, they are freaks. People who fuck dogs and shit lmfao They are just as big of fucked up losers now as they were in k-12. They werent outcasted cuz suck cocks or rug munch or whatever, it is because they are fucking weird ass fucking losers.Best trans women are ones who stealth with cishet normies and get away from the freakshow.
>>42580157Yes it's common among trans and gay people to project their own pain and insecurity outwardly as homophobia/transphobia. For me it lead me down a path to deep seated shame. I am still working on that part of myself.
