ITT posts from cis women about their husbands trooning out and destroying their families. Reppers beware this is your future>We’re getting a divorce…>When my partner came out as trans three years ago, I believed love would be stronger than my sexuality and any change or challenge we faced. I (40F) believed she (39MTF) was my soulmate… and my best friend. So what couldn't we overcome, right? Our daughter accepted and embraced Dadma, and at first I thought, we could make our marriage work. We would be okay. We all, my daughter included, went to individual therapy, couples therapy, and family therapy to help navigate it all. But as my partner began transitioning, we lost a lot of the romantic and intimate connection we once had. In the last three years we were only intimate once, despite repeated attempts. There were rough patches and difficult moments but overall our friendship remained strong.>We have chosen to separate and divorce amicably. I am still protecting myself (just in case) and we are in the process of putting everything in writing. She is being more than generous in the process and I am grateful for that, but still, I feel so shattered and heartbroken. I’m 40 with an eight‑year‑old. We had a home and a life together. As her best friend I support her decision to continue her transition, but the reality of it all makes everything feel that much more final. Outwardly I remain supportive and told her I’ll always be here for her, but inside I feel like my whole life has fallen apart. I'm grieving, our daughter is too. I feel so alone. I know there's life after divorce. I just have to get through it first…
>>42682774A reply to the above post(1/2):> You and I (F) are in very similar boats.My STBX (MTF) came out to me as trans a few weeks after my grandpa passed away and at the tail end of a very stressful Bachelor degree program when I was in my final semester and trying really hard not to have a mental breakdown already. When she told me I asked her what that meant to her, (ie non-binary, MTF, etc) she said she didn't know yet but was figuring it all out. At the time she had been in therapy for a few months, and I told her point blank that I absolutely supported her and wanted her to keep talking about it with me as she explored her trans identity, but that I was already beyond my emotional capacity from life events and just generally being the only person in the marriage for the past 5 years who was handling everything from real-world problems to completely managing the entire household and finances so she would have to come to me with updates as I also needed to take care of my own mental health.She agreed and throughout the following year I finished my degree, and started healing myself and preparing to look for a job. Except not long after she came out to me, she also quit therapy completely, started HRT and instead found a group of friends in the trans community that I was not allowed to meet because she "wanted to keep the two parts of her life separate". Then a few months after that she told me she wanted to end things because she didn't love me anymore, wasn't attracted to me, and "just can't be bothered to care anymore."
>>42682777(2/2) also fuck i didnt greentext it>The past year has been a frantic search of me attempting to find a job in the IT industry that's gone to pot because of AI and she's grown more self-centered and narcissistic the entire time. I've learned to just think of her as two separate people, my ex husband who had flaws but wanted to grow with me, and this new person who is shady, cowardly, lies constantly, and can't stand facing the consequences of her own actions that she keeps thrusting upon me and tries to treat me like I'm still available to be her stay at home wife and manage her life while she goes out and parties all the time.>I really try not to be resentful and blame it on the fact that she's trans, but it's hard to convince my brain that the extreme changes to her personality didn't start at the same time as the HRT. So, it's either the drugs or the friends, but here we are. Thankfully we don't have any children but she's informed me that she's planning on trying to have the judge give her my dog that I had for years way before I ever even met her.
>>42682774You need to learn how to take screenshots grandma
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>>42682774My last boss/mentor was a lateshit (35ish, 38 when I met her), she was a complete fuckup...so was I, but I was a messy adult teenager, she was a Reddit stereotype personified. Horny polycule transbian with anger issues, tacky hyperfem makeup, low-effort voice training, firmly dedicated to dressing for a much smaller and younger body and not like a normal woman.I got live insight into her divorce as it happened, through our 1:1s. She forced her (sick & severely autistic) wife to open the relationship, then started dating romantically immediately after, effectively cheating, and was shocked when the divorce came by the end of the year.By the end I'd almost entirely cut ties with her, seeing her more as tragically pitiable than as a coworker. I knew her for three years...in that time she completely destroyed her life, I got most of my surgeries and became an entirely different person.She sicced HR on me for calling her a man on Discord, they gave me the book and the choice between a torturous amelioration process and quitting. I took the exit. I'm not really a tech person anyway, and that place hated me almost since I started. Too ketamine, too autistic, too conservative, too dysphoric...not sterile, woke, or nerdy enough. Fuck 'em. I'd rather make art or go into HFT than stay in games indefinitely anyway.
Only good thread rn. Bump.
