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Just came out to my ex gf. She told me to never text her again. I guess im all in on being a tranny now. What am i in for?

background:
> im a cis male transitioning to be a woman because im bored and just want to be a woman. Probably midlife crisis too

This board is dead tonight and threads suck.

Thoughts?
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ye
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>>42755927
Me when i have to transition cause im bored
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>>42755927
Why would you tell your ex shit?
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>>42756113
buddy she became their ex gf AFTER they told they wanna be a woman now
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>>42756125
Oooh
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>>42756138
>>42756113
>>42756125
What? No she broke up with me, because no job. I just waited to tell her, because I wanted to make sure we were done, then I started on HRT, THEN i told her. No one really believes someone till they get some time on HRT and surgeries.
Till then its like "so your gay?" "Your crazy" "so you have sex with men!" "You need to see a doctor!" "No a real doctor!"

Ah i loved that girl. Thought we were gonna have kids ones day too. No job. No family. And trooning out was probably inevitable. So best I did it now, before conceiving.
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>>42756234
Um do you have a job now?
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>>42755927
Don't shoot up any hockey games you crusty old cavehon
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>>42755927
You might publicly announce that you do it out of boredom, but no one cis actually goes through and maintains transition just “on a whim”. So if you manage to stick it out, then you’re a tranny who probably feels shame in pursuing her identity.

>What am I in for?
YMMV. If you have a supportive community or live in a city that’s trans accepting, you’ll likely have mild difficulties during transition. If not, you’re at risk of not just harassment, but any level of physical abuse up to and including murder. Possibility of being denied employment at every avenue, and falling into the common pitfall for poor trannies that end up doing sex work/drugs. If you’re able to quietly transition with family for a year or two as to progress somewhat enough to possibly blend in with society (but mainly just to ride out the initial flux of 2nd puberty hormone shenanigans), it would do wonders for your transition.

>>42756234
>no job, no family
You’re in for a hellish ride if you have no support group, or stability in terms of shelter, and food.
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>>42756254
No.
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>>42756276
Maybe you should wait to troon out
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>>42756234
Wait, are you on hrt now? For how long? And how long ago did you break up with this ex?
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>>42755927
aren't you people supposed to get into hiking or meditation to cope with your feelings of listlessness? you're probably gonna be ugly and not get any work, and you're going to be looked down on by normal people and by actual trannies if you let it slip that you're cis. so basically the only people who'll be nice to you are crackhead chasers on grindr who want to give you super aids.
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>>42756256
No kids produced. No late-term abortions needed. Im doing the right thing finally by taking myself out of the equation in society and genetics.

>>42756270
Naw im just bored and sick of dating and competing, and having to do things for others. Trooning seems more fun then just cutting my balls off alone. Im just going to live with my parents till they die. I put my all into living alone and getting job/family. I failed. Theres no starting over in that regard at 40. Ill never be able to provide for anyone. Barely will be able to take care of myself. My parents keep me company. Idk what theyll do after they go from old age, but at this point im just filling time till I die. So why not troon? No one will date me, no chance of affording a family, no chance of being a man, its stress i dont want anymore.
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>>42756285
No.

>>42756289
She broke up with me end of last year. Actually just before my grandma died. It was pretty awful. I told her i had been applying and had several interviews. 2 I really thought I had them. None hired me. I have a 4.0GPA. 3 certs. Nearly a master degree in compsci. No projects on github, but tons of personal projects. I just never post them becuase theyre all hacky and nothing complete. It doesnt matter. None were going to hire me anyways. Im an old ugly failure. And everyone who sits near me can smell a loser undesireable not worth reproducing.
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>>42756289
Oh started hrt this month. So 1 week ago.
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congratulations on committing socialsuicide!!!
welcome to the club, you're gonna hate it
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>>42756312
Everything you said is either something ive done and tried or is my current situation regardless of trooning. Except the super aides. I dont plan on ever dating anyone again. Ive been keeping track of how long it takes me to find a gf after last one dumps me, and its about doubles every time. So last one was about 8 years, meaning id unlikely find another women willing to date me for 16 years from now which would make me 54. Far too old to start a family unless I magically got rich by then. Im not falling for this bullshit gamble anymore. Im dropping out of it all. Done with this.
> **hands over testcles**
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>>42756451
Social? Jokes on you, I dont have a social life to suicide
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>>42756234
You need to stop taking HRT and go back. You aren't trans nor do you have a single feminine trait
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>>42756503
Why? Theres nothing for me there. You dont need to be fem to be trans. Thats what the HRT is for.
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>>42756518
>You dont need to be fem to be trans.
They're waiting for you on the other side. Go join them
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>>42756530
Who? Go join who?
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>>42756547
The people that love and accept you. Cuz it aint us
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when this guy inevitably goes on a stabbing spree because he "got bored", i'm gonna have to suffer the consequences, sigh...
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>>42756765
most cis men don't "just want to be women" and get on hrt like that
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>>42756792
You're right, only weirdos and fetishists do that.
Actual trannies feel an innate desire from an early age to be the opposite sex and do so as early as possible
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>transitioning into a woman
transitioning into a transwoman*
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>>42756750
My parents love me and support my transition. Everyone else has left me. And its thats obvious you hate and dont accept me, and why I also hate this board and 80% of "people" here in general.

>>42756869
>>42756765
Bigotted and hatful

>>42757067
Correct
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>>42756256
but that is a rightoid past time?
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>>42755927
what is your age?
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>>42758539
37
Current me, so no transitional steps taken yet:
https://litter.catbox.moe/bd3pmed8dt1k8op6.jpeg
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>>42758258
>Bigotted and hatful
Fuck off with your bullshit about accept everyone. Life was better when transition was gatekept. It kept gross fetishists out. All you're doing is making life harder on the rest of us cuz when you're out there being an obvious weirdo that's all people see all trannies as. You are directly affecting me. When they make laws to directly harm us, it will be your fault. See you on the train to camp
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>>42758592
>37
lmao
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>>42756503
Being a failed male is feminine
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>>42755927
What is your history with autogynephilia and/or desire to transition?
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>>42761686
Started at 22. Dunno where childhood connection would be. Tbh, i didnt know what transexuals were till 25. If you had said I was back then, id told you I was NOT born with a penis and vagina! I think i thought it meant being born with extra or missing parts. Strongly AGP. Desire was fetish or free time, kept it to the closet, but daily would get triggers. I experimented with the idea (after learning what transexual were) through out my 20s. Never fully, just weight lose, trying more feminine appearences, crossdressing at home, so despite mostly sexually initiated, id often enjoy just being in fem attire and treated as a girl by my gf at that time daily and regularly. It hurt or hated to be in public. Angry having to male mode, or hated my unpassability in fem mode. I eventually pivoted to fully rejection at 30. Spent 7 years actively trying to be hyper masc, school, job, tradgf, to get family with the thought that youngshit stuff would pass. It was a phase. A coomer brainwormed fetish. Then the garbage of fem wear started secretly accumulating, till my annoyance with my tradgf being around began conflicting with my femout time. Between our distance and the lack of jobs, she left me. The freetime femout has completely consumed me. It was taking over as atleast stress release for a few years again. My thoughts are idc if this is a sick porn-addicted brain, or trutrans. HRT will solve either. Im too old to start over towards building a family with someone else. Im too old to get hired for a real job. Im not too old to trans (though on the back end). I have the time and enough to FFS. I can still get some pay nothing entry job or loser mcdonalds gig, which would be enough for myself. If only me i need to care about, then im not to old or too gone. But if only me, then I want to be a woman. Even if impossible.
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>>42755927
>Thoughts?
Based.
You do you. Iif you like it, carry on. If you don't, just stop.
I trooned for the fetish at 34 but money wasn't an issue. I'm a year older than you and waiting for srs.
Do keep in mind that hrt is not magic. If you dont want to end up like in picrel, learn how to skincare, learn makeup, get ffs and lean into androphilia :)
Good luck, nona.
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>>42763181
> androphilia
I seek out women, but im bi for anyone that treats me feminine
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imagine that your ex bf, who can't get over you, after probably raging out at you a few times in the relationship, suddenly breaks no contact to message you and tell you that he's actually a little cute uwu wombyn now LMFAO
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>>42763394
Thats a good feeling... thank you nona! Okay, so i think i will continue. And for the record me and her didnt fight much desu, but i would get really annoyed with her blow up and feel terrible immediately after. I think im just feeling heartbreak/lonliness and sadness from that, not doubt/regret in being trans.

I think about rolling rural hills, loving country music playing as Id drive to pick her up, thinking about marriage and kids we will have. The sweet sadness and beauty of the American country side. Then Id pick her up and realize she was not someone capable of sharing that with. Id get annoyed till she left, then sad again. Ill get over this in time, but ill be alone with my sick fetish thoughts and self hatred as a failed male.

I dont want this, i want something different for my second half. Transition is the right thing. Should have been done before this. Spared hers and my hearts. She will move on and forget me like all the others.
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>>42763468
>but i would get really annoyed with her blow up and feel terrible immediately after.
yeah of course you would.
you decided that you were a "woman" because of a mid-life crisis and your first thought was to unload emotional labor onto the one remaining woman in your life? lmfao. terminally malebrained.
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>>42763606
Is tranny on tranny violence still considered a hate crime? I feel like that's the only option left to deal with these "people"
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>>42763606
> you decided that you were a "woman" because of a mid-life crisis and your first thought was to unload emotional labor onto the one remaining woman in your life? lmfao. terminally malebrained.
Thats not what happened, though.
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>>42755927
How old are you?
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>>42760543
Wait i just saw this you’re probably some agp freak and never gonna make it. Get on hormones and live quietly for at least a decade before you tell people you’re trans.
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>>42764192
how about you read the thread. no sympathy for oldshit faketroons. if you were actually trans and actually had GID it wouldn't have taken you 20+ years to realize it and you would have done whatever it took to get your hands on hrt.
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>>42762132
At 22??? You’re not trans. Get on hormones if you’d like, just to be safe, but stop skinwalking us.
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>>42764300
!!!
This.
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>>42762132
Youre clealry low iq for not knowing trans people exist until the obama administration during the peak of trans rights and also for thinking that trans people were hemaphrodites. Insane low iq crazy nonsense. Knowing about trannies during the peak of transgender rights in 2013 and not doing anything… is like peak throwing it away and you’re probably not trans.
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>>42762132
You are to old to trans, john 50. Quietly get on hormones and never speak in public about your transition.
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>>42756765
>>42756869
True.
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>>42758258
> My parents love me and support my transition. Everyone else has left me. And its thats obvious you hate and dont accept me, and why I also hate this board and 80% of "people" here in general.

The world’s not against you, you just suck and you’re skinwalking our condition and ruining our public reputation.
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>>42756503
This. We disavow you as a community.
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>>42756462
You are just filled with red flags. You’re not trans, don’t transition.
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>>42756276
You should get a fucking JOB.

>>42756234
The fact that you’re telling your ex gf is just such an indictment on how much of a weird womanizing chick on a pedestal perverted guy you are.
>>42756113
This is a sad person
>>42755961
This is so crazyyy
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>>>42764294..42764504>..>42764427>..>42764408>>..42764399>..>42764388>..>42764306>>..42764302>>...42764300>..>42764294..>>42764283
Youre extremely shitty person(s).
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>>42764593
Im right. You’re going to embarrass and humiliate and hurt my community by skinwalking a condition YOU DONT HAVE and I’m a monster for trying to stop you?
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>>42764620
Oh sorry, didnt realize you OWNED this community. Youre an incredibly awful person. I hate you. I hate this gaslighting here. No one is real. And when you try to, disgusting shits like you show up. I cant wait till my balls are gone and I dont have to feel this level of anger at people like you. Just calm bliss. You really are a shitty person.
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>>42755927
happens man, you should've androfagmaxxed, and gotten with a libtarded woman. My gf actually bought me clothes and makeup lmao.
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I don’t own my community, but I am pretty sure I’m in agreement with pretty much everyone in it when I say that you’re not trans and you’re a weirdo pervert who’s like skinwalking our condition. We’re not gaslighting you, we’re telling you the truth. Even the way you talk when you’re angry right now is like sooo how a male would act angry. You’re using disgusting shits as a plural because many many other trans people have told you you’re weird and you’re skinwalking our condition. You need to radically change your embarrassing behavior, especially if you’re going to be representing our community. Even like what you’re saying about balls is like such a pervert guy way to think about these things. You’re a weirdo and you’re embarrassing our community and I’m bad for having boundaries? I’m exactly like that girl who dumped you because I have rules and boundaries and norms of how people are supposed to act. I’m so fucking tired of people who just got on hormones trying to define our community or make the rules for our community. SHUT UP! You’re not trans, and you’re not part of our community so shut the fuck up and stop skinwalking us!
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>>42764669
Luckyyyyy
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>>42764654
holy malebrain lmao cant wait for the opticsnuke headline you create in a year or so
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>>42764654
>didnt realize you OWNED this community
Everyone here telling you NO is a part of that community and were collectively telling you to fuck off and you aren't a part of us. You're a creepy weirdo and you're not accepted. I'd bury all the creeps like you in a mass grave if I had the means to do so
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I wonder how many cis males are transitioning nowadays. Seems more and more common.
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>>42755927
kinda based, youre cool. good luck, oldhead babytranny. play disco elysium. dont listen to the anons here saying youre faketrans or whatever, it doesnt fucking matter. oh nooo youre gonna steal tranny valor oh nooooo youre gonna ruin our optics yeah yeah whatever man do what makes you happy. if taking estrogen makes you happy, do that.
ig to answer the what are you in for question.... more of the same of what's happening now. it wont fix anything in your life. you have to do that yourself. but at least being on estrogen gets rid of a bit of the background hum.
otherwise its mostly exactly the same. you still gotta eat food and pay bills. you still gotta kill time in some way that fends off the existential dread of being alive. youre just on estrogen now. really everything is exactly identical.
i respect your volcel ways. it isnt worth it. people are worth befriending but nothing more.
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OP, I support you in making reversible decisions in your life. If it means experimenting with HRT, then so be it!
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>>42755927
Based nona
I hope your life improves!
Never listen to self-proclaimed trvetrannies that post on subnautical basket weaving forums.
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>>42766248
>>42766481
>>42766957
There’s a difference between someone taking hrt privately in a vacuum and someone publicly humiliating and embarrassing our community because of their weird fetish shit.
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>>42758592
I don't even have to look at the picture to tell you that you are fucked and i say this with no malice in my heart. At 37 the only choice of actually passing would be some seriously aggressive surgery and that's still dependent on you not having a brick testosterone body.

Assuming you actually mean this and have been repressing for years idk what to tell you other than if HRT makes you happy go for it, but don't expect miracles.
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>>42767175
It's actually not a 'weird' fetish tho
AGP is neutral and jeeps are not a monolith
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>>42767282
Look st everything theyve said they’re very weird and strange
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>>42767421
everyone on this website is weird and strange
but agp itself is not what makes people weird
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>>42767451
Lol
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