im in love with my best friend, she loves me too and we used to have sex and kiss and whatever but now we dont because she has a girlfriend (always had but we loved each other too much) we still cuddle and whatever and always see each other, but no sex or kissing etc we still love each other she just told me that a couple of days ago :( i dont know how to get over this, i hate that i regularly feel horny and can only think of her, i try to masturbate and then just cry and look at pictures of us kissing or just in general cute pictures of her and get incredibly sad and yearning it feels like im never getting over this, i feel disgusted by the thought of ever touching anyone else or thinking about how she is getting touched by someone else, ive never loved anyone else or been intimate with anyone else
>>42780832Oh my god... I fell in love with someone with avoidant attachment, and all I get is silence
>>42780832why does she have a girlfriend
>>42781239she had her before we even met, and in the past she has told me that she is scared she will kill herself if she leaves her, but i am pretty sure she actually loves her and stuff so... yeah...
>>42780832But op, you just explain that she's cheated. So how can she really love her gf? You clearly haven't met the gf, but I think you should explain the situation so she can move on from someone who doesn't care about her. I believe her mental health will improve when she isn't (correctly) feeling constantly invalidated by her gf having someone she cares for more. Technically I guess she might kill herself, but hopefully she'll take it as motivation to find someone who deserves her.
>>42781792lowkey she has no one in life and lives in a shitty poor company. also pretty sure theyre engaged now.... might be too late :( im moving in with my friend soon though so maybe she will change her mind
>>42782629*im talking abt the gf, not my friend
>>42780832lowk wish this would happen between me and my bestie but i really like her bf and those two are cute together i just want to cuddle with her and kiss her a little honestly
>>42782629country *******
>>42782642you dont want this to happen itll make things extremely hard for you and her and will almost end up ruining the bond you have ):
>>42782668me and her already have a weird dependent relationship so its already hard
>>42782629So your friend is moving in with you instead of her gf, to whom she may or may not be engaged (she didn't bother to mention that fact to her best friend), you've never spoken to the woman your best friend is apparently going to marry, and this makes sense to you?How would you feel in this girl's place?
>>42784292oh i feel terrible for her not gonna lie. i think if i was her i would genuinely kill myself if i found out about this but i love my best friend way too much, and i know if i tried talking to her girlfriend, she (as in my best friend) would think im trying to harm her (my best friend) and want to ruin things between us, and then she wouldnt want to talk to me anymore or something :( im just really really scared of the entire situation and was always hoping that she would just randomly choose me instead of her girlfriend but its just gotten worse (for example the engagement)but to be honest i dont even know what to believe anymore about her feelings because she DOES love me and she DOES tell me she needs me and never wants to lose me, but then she also often times is very vocal about not letting me stay at her place for longer than a couple days, since i know that she calls her gf once im gone .. . its all so dumb
leave her
