how long after a particularly hard breakup does it take for someone to believe in spending the rest of their life with someone again, or to trust someone?
>>42781882chase after themlet them ruin you anon
>>42781901are you sure that's a good idea anon
>>42782354of course!why would an anonymous person on the internet ever suggest a bad idea? ^^
>>42781882Entirely depends on how much you forgive and are kind to yourself, and practice both self-care, and loving yourself, alongside any grief you are processing with your past relationship.Some people take a few months, others years, but the key aspect is to want to move forward in your life both for yourself and that future partner you’d want to love and who should love you equally as well.
As long as it takes you to wake up and realize that relationsip ended because it was never going to work out and you both deserve to find the one who makes sense for you. First time it happened to me I thought he was my soulmate because I overvalued his good, but later finally realized how bad it was that he was disrespectful and dishonest. I kept thinking we could have worked through that part, growing up is understanding that's just part of who he is and won't change. Focus on how they actually were, not who they could have been. Even if they were perfect, if they dumped you they're not perfect because the perfect person for you would actually want you around. What ifs will kill you
>>42781882it’s not time. it’s that you only have so many ways in which you can be loved and after each heartbreak each one becomes guarded as an angle. after several you become deeply jaded and avoidant
>>42781882depends. a long fucking time
>>42781882It's been 15 years for me.... I've just accepted that this is what forever will be like.
>>42784019sameI gave it another chance, twice, and it blew up in my face both timesno more
>>42781882My marriage was so fucking awful that I am pretty sure I'm going to die alone. Found love after my divorce, panicked when I realized the next logical step was getting married again, and I ended it. Was later pursued by a coworker who came at me pretty hard, completely stonewalled them because I just didn't want to deal with it. Now nobody ever looks at me with desire anymore and I think I struck out for life.
thank you for your thoughts everyone ittI appreciate them, I was asleep but I wanted to make it known I'm grateful before this thread got archivedI really hope everyone who struggles with something similar finds happiness too
