>20 year old transbian, monogamous, bpd>meet other tgirl>hit it off, situationship for 3 months>gets really avoidant, says she isnt ready for this level of commitment>heartbroken>2 months later, meet new tgirl>hit it off, shes poly, heartbroken>2 months later, meet new tgirl>hit it off, couple weeks in says she isnt ready for relationship>immediately starts flirting with other girl in front of me>repeat for about a year with slight variationis this just a me thing?? I used to see posts about this kind of shit and think it was just a joke but its genuinely starting to wear on me, bpd doesnt help the rejection and i hate feeling like i wanna kill myself every month over a girl. i dont think its bc im ugly or some shit, i pass very well, people always call me pretty, but nobody seems to want to commit to me. i cant handle the tgirl lifestyle of having sex with random girls every other week, but dating cis girls makes me worry about how im perceived and if they'll think im gross for having weird kinks. It feels like my choices are either become poly (get cucked) or be alone until like 30. advice?? similar stories?? this shits driving me insane, i hate being alone :(
>>42790904>they'll think im gross for having weird kinkwhat are your kinks i'll be the judge of that t. cis foid
>>42790904A lot of tgirls have avoidant attachment types, this is not uncommon.
>>42790904Yeah, gay men are like that. It's how you know transbians are gay men, their promiscuity. While lesbians are actually monogamous.
>>42790904Polyamory is quite normalized in the community, combine that with trannies going through 2nd puberty with hyper sex drives (and if they’re young such as your age then even more experimental), and you got yourself an environment where majority of participants just want to date around.The solution? Set, and affirm what you’re looking for in a partner: serious dating, long-term, no hook ups. Do not sleep with anyone you’re dating until it’s been at least a month in (preferably you’re just friends for a few months so you can sus out if they’re just horny or serious and aligned with your wants and needs). This’ll weed out majority of these hoes wasting your time. An unfortunate reality is that people at your age (let alone being trans) just want to taste all the flavors when it comes to dating. You’re going to have to be a more mature adult than your prospective partners until you can verify their intentions to be true. Good luck nona.
>>42791168>basement dweller poster has never been to a lesbian restricted bar or heard of “gold star” lesbians beforeMan you need to get out more, women are not monolithicly avoidant to hookups.
>>42790904>or be alone until like 30I'm 35, it never changes. Either accept being poly or die alone like me.
>>42791112being hit in the stomach, threatened, knifeplay, shit like that, nothing rlly out there like snuff tho
>>42791182Chill out, hon. I must have struck a nerve.
>>42791174thank u <3 i probably have been jumping into shit too soon
>>42791209>generalizes transbians as just gay men>idolizes lesbians as some how pure from lust>acts coy after being exposed and having a mild name callget over yourself
>>42791274>idolizes lesbians as some how pure from lust>high sex drive is synonymous with sleeping aroundIs that all?
>>42791199nta, you should try to find an abusive cluster b cisf
>>42791338ur cooking i need an abusive gf
>>42791317lmao, why are you like this.
>>42790904>3 months>2 months>2 months>heartbrokenfundamentally the problem here is that you barely know these people but think you can be heartbroken over them
>>42791356[abusive cisbian x mtf who's into it] is the most elite dynamic imo
>>42791402probably desu i need therapy i get attached v fast and idolize, its less of them as a person and more of what couldve been
