Why do men always ghost me?>sometimes download tinder or Grindr>explain I’m open to hookups or relationship, just trying to beat the high sex drive>usually end up fucking pretty quickly, within the first hour>I’m fine with this, the guys are hot af, have big dicks and fuck really passionately and make me scream>I’m no pillow princess either, I also love giving head, and handjobs, making sure to make them moan a lot before going more ago and they usually cum bucketsBut every time without fail>”nona you’re so pretty I can’t stop looking at you”>lots of kissing and very careful caressing between extremely passionate sex>”nona you’re perfect”>usually make them cum once or twice, and vice versa>we talk for a long time, sometimes hours, and develop a bit of a connection>they drop me off at home, talking about interests and asking multiple times when we can get together again>talk about deleting app and maybe getting dinner or planning a hike>super seeet and affectionate when dropping me off at my door, kissing for a long time and not rushing, just being kind and presentAnd then I can never get a hold of them again. They just disappear and ignore all texts. I usually wait a few days or a week or two before checking in, and only because they actually ask for my number and want to make plans. But nothing.Look. I understand hooking up. But why do they say all of this shit with no intention of following up? I dont want to be their gf or something I just want a consistent fuck, and I swear it’s always these guys that I have amazing sexual chemistry with with a lot of passion and intensity. I understand post nut clarity but when I have experienced that they’re cuddly for like 30 minutes and then rush you away. But these guys go the extra mile and for what? Dating practice? They get scared and ghost? Like why say these incredibly intimate things when we both just want to fuck? I hate it.
>>42960264>explain I’m open to hookupsthats the issue. you are a whore, your soul is befouled, as soon as a dude sees that he knows you are a whore and he isn't sticking around. the name of the game is fucking you for the cheapest amount of money and least amount of effort. your soul is coal black and you have loss the ability to pair bond.
>>42960264They're scared of saying those things to women or men they compete with because they think it's gay or beta or w/ein their experience, you're now someone with all the ammo to make them regret it the most
>>42960280I lost the ability to pair bond a long time ago and definitely due to one of these men. I hate it. I do wish one of them would have just put a bullet in my head to be honest. After losing my soulmate last year I don’t see the point in trying anymore. We were aligned in every way and I still managed to get too comfortable. I do know I’m a piece of shit and deserve the worst.
>>42960264Don’t worry nona captain save a hoe is on the way
>>42960323i wouldn't be so hard on yourself nona, it sounds like you are capable of developing deep and meaningful connections with people but it's still likely that opening up with the fact that you're open to hookups and "just trying to beat the high sex drive" can definitely push away guys who are interested in something more.on top of that it's also possible that a lot of these guys likely got burned in the past by someone who slept around or was unfaithful, trust issues are common these days.i'd recommend starting on different ground at the start of your communication with a guy. make it known to people you're interested in that you want something more meaningful than a hookup. it might get you less matches on dating apps but think of it as filtering out the deadbeats instead.
>>42960353Thank you nona. I probably do just raise their suspicions and maybe they only think about it once they’re alone in their house again and have the epiphany that they’d rather have a real relationship with someone they actually respect. Or maybe they only want to hookup but feel weird about reaching out for a hookup after they got too romantic? Idk. Honestly I feel like since this happened again that I just can’t handle a relationship anyway and shouldn’t be playing with fire. It’s just that I’m 31 and not super attractive despite being a stealthoid. I just wanted to feel wanted, I never had that as a teen. Although the sex was amazing it’s not been worth the hurt. Hope you find or have a great relationship. thanks for the advice
>>42960353nona has bpd and her fp is whoever puts their dick in her.
