>>42964778
Mm i smell a sexy sexy kink brewing in u :0)

>>42964778
I'm the same way, what's so bad about it?

>>42964825
AGP hoe get out this is serious business

>>42964881
I don’t want to perform for the rest of my life like it’s fine up to a point im not sensitive but like why do I have to be the butt of every joke all the time? After a certain point it’s just genuinely hurtful

Nona what happened
I get the gist but specifically what interaction with your friends left you feeling this way

>>42964899
Do your friends keep making it a thing or do you? I can definitely take a joke, but also being trans hardly ever comes up from my friends side.

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>>42964899
Agp? Haha you wish thats what i was talking about

>>42964912
They were making fun of all the other troons at a party I was at and I just had to laugh and pretend it was funny the whole time and then like when we got to the care they were like “you know we were just joking right” and I literally acted like it was crazy they even had to specify because I’m cool and fun and not like the mean dolls who get mad at you when you say transphobic shit


>>42964926
They do but I think it’s because I basically gave them permission because I make so many jokes about it because I’m self conscious

>>42964930
No.

>>42964991
You should have ditched your friends for the other trannies

>>42964991
It is really hard to be the trans girl who speaks up. We are subject to the same pressures any other woman might be to make ourselves smaller. Only we get an extra helping of not wanting to seem aggressive, confrontational, catty. At best a stereotype of a mean doll, at worst manish and agro. Try to show yourself some kindness and recognise that what you did was respond to those pressures in a self preserving way. I have been the girl who speaks out in your situation and it costs you a lot and doesn't win you friends.

I think another way to show yourself kindness is tell them how you feel, now you are no longer in that high pressure situation.

>>42964778
If they leave you than they’re not worth it. But it’s easier said than done and honestly it’s better being with bad friends than being lonely. Try and strech the limits and have some backup friends in case u get ghosted

>>42965002
But I love my friends

>>42965014
I just don’t know how to even approach the conversation without coming of really petty and over sensitive especially because I laughed at the time and I don’t want them to think im crazy and like I’m still thinking about it

>>42965033
I don’t want them to ghost me tho I love them they’re all nice other than this one thing I don’t mean to make it seem like they’re just horrible people

>>42965063
You regularly betray yourself because you view your own feelings as unreasonable. This is also misogyny+ in that you've ended up preemptively imagining yourself as irrational and over sensitive and crazy. That is just rebranding hysteria and applying it to yourself. How you feel right now is a very common thing for women to worry about
>What if I am just making a big deal of this?

Assuming these people really are your friends, how would you feel if one of them had hurt feelings? Would you judge them for it? Would you think them hysterical? Would you look for reasons they were being inconsistent or overly sensitive?

Practically speaking, the way to approach it is very simple. You tell them you need to talk because you feel upset, and tell them why. And you trust them to treat you with sensitivity. And if they don't - are they even your friends?

>>42965103
You’re probably right. Im just scared to lose them or embarrass myself but it makes me really sad and hurt at this point and I wish I just didn’t let it get this bad in the first place

>>42965170
I feel you diva. Chalk it up as a learning experience, this will be a chance to practice being more real about your feelings and maybe next time you'll not fall into this habit of ignoring your own feelings for other peoples comfort/your own insecurities.

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>>42964778
That reddit spacing tho

>>42965249
Im sorry I have autism but dont call me a Redditor im from tumblr not Reddit

>>42964778
>the last thing I want is you walking on eggshells around me
this one's absolutely fair tho'
what I told by best friend was "I'm still me, I'm just all of me". He figured it out pretty quick, I'm still the same person just no longer a man

>>42965232
Hopefully. I’ll try to be better about it and actually say something unless I get scared then I wont

>>42965276
Yeah I think it just means different stuff for different people i guess

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>>42965263
>Tumblr mention
I feel like thats my cue things are winding down..

>>42965307
Tumblr used to be good but it’s just all these weird ftm incel guys who hate trans women now and it’s completely uninhabitable

>>42965336
I thought it was always like that

>>42965374
It wasn’t I swear I swear it used to be good I think but I thought superwholocke was cool because I have level 3 turbo autism so I’m probably wrong and it was always cringe

>>42965395
Omg we were on it at the same time if thats the case. And i hated ur fandom. Which is saying something cus i was a homestuck

>>42965418
Homestuck was good too. I think i was grown in a lab to be cringe desu

>>42965033
>honestly it’s better being with bad friends than being lonely
its really not, it's just a different kind of lonely

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>>42965468
you're literally me then lol.
It's over

I just cry when someone makes fun of me, I don't care if it's a joke, I won't tell you to fuck yourself because I know you are a sensitive bitch but I will make you feel uncomfortable by forcing you to watch me weep over your dumb "joke".

>>42969378
They’re desensitized to me crying and also idk if I can do it on command

>>42965033
>it’s better being with bad friends than being lonely.
Wrong.
You will never get good friends until you let go of nad friends and learn how to be comfortable being real about who you are.
Source: I was finally ejected from a clique that in retrospect was just a petty cult of personality ran by a malignant narcissist, and then found friends who were actually normal, healthy people who gave me space to be me and I am actually happy now.

>>42969399
I feel like I might have made them seem way too mean in my post. This is literally the ONLY THING they are bad about other than this they are literally perfect friends to me

>>42969387
You can try to at least look distressed, don't be afraid to show your feelings, if it hurts you don't hide it, that's not good for you.

>>42969421
Yeah I just want to be that girl who’s going to be language and tone policing everyone all the time an I don’t want to play it up and be manipulative

>>42969434
DONT I DONT WANT TO BE THAT

>>42969434
You don't need to say anything to them, but you are basically doing the opposite which is obviously hurting you, just don't mask it, don't lecture them but don't laugh it off either

>>42969461
I’ll try. Idk if I actually will because I’ll probably feel different under pressure but I’ll really really try

>>42969416
Sure, yeah, it's normal for friends to say cruel things about people who are similar to you, and it's normal for you to repress how much this hurts you and it's normal to always be masking for fear of social rejection.
Healthy, even.

>>42969492
My doctors keep trying to make me get tested for autism irl, are you being sarcastic or no?

>>42969497
Aggressively sarcastic.

>>42969511
Okay yeah I can get what you mean, I know it’s not healthy. I need to be better and have more respect for me and my community and stuff but I’m just like idk. It’s gonna be so fucking awkward