I met a guy online recently and we've been messaging basically everyday. I have 0 relationship experience outside of this and so I have no idea what I'm doing but I think it's going wellIt's been a week or two and when he doesn't reply for a few hours my heart literally starts pounding out of my chest and running through scenarios that he's talking to someone else or just doesn't care about me. It makes me feel terrible because I completely understand that he can be busy doing stuff or literally just asleep, but the anxiety is there nonetheless Like this relationship couldn't be going better, we like eachother we've made plans to meet soon and we spent hours a day back and forthing. I'm scared that I've become so attached I'm going to make him pull away and that would absolutely break me if it happened. I'm an ugly insecure tranny so I don't get these chances oftenI really fucking like him anons and I don't want to fuck it up, like I just want to marry this dude already, he's so nice and I don't want to put too much pressure on him or be too clingy but I feel like I need constant validation and don't know how to fulfill it
i was the same with a friend until i talked about it with him properly and now i don’t feel like that as much anymore
>>42974539how do I talk about it? Just tell him how I feel? I feel like that would be too forward
bump please there has to be other insecure trannies on the insecure tranny boardl
>>42974396it is unhealthy to be this attached. i have no idea how to become less attached as i am in the exact same boat
>>42974396bpdemon moment
>>42974961I don't have bpd I just suck at relationships
>>42974396Be prepared for the feeling to stick around whenever he leaves. Speaking from experience.
>>42974396>when he doesn't reply for a few hours my heart literally starts pounding out of my chest and running through scenarios that he's talking to someone else or just doesn't care about me.this is such classic bpd codependency stuff yeah. It's hard but try to assert your own personhood and independence and have some of your own life that you don't share with him, hobbies or friends or just journal your own thoughts and don't just tell him everything.>>42974860what I tend to do when I get this bad is take a multi-week long break of no-contact to try to renormalize into something more sustainable
>>42975337Not everything is BPD, if op is otherwise mentally fine just quick to attach and become obsessive it is likely some level of codependant/anxious attachment but BPD is more than just obsessive about someone.
>>42974845i made a friend from here recently and she hasn't replied to me in a month out of nowhere after being really busy with work. i also was seeing signs on pinterest of basically something like tarot cards but specifically with messages from deceased people and it messed me up really badly. i dont know her full name either and i have no way of knowing if she ghosted me or if those were really signs and she passed away. she had a medical emergency recently and didn't respond for 3 days because she was in the hospital but then a few days after that she stopped again
>>42975337I don't know if it's bpd, I don't engage in impulsive behaviour. I don't self harm or have any addictions. I don't drink or gamble because I don't see the appeal I have a life outside of him, but that life is just fucking terrible and he brings light into itI have issues with feeling unlovable and obsessing over my looks but he likes me for who I am and I couldn't be happier If my life wasn't so boring I'd be less obsessed but it is and I don't know how to develop any personality, it feels like I lost all my interests after starting e apart from crying into pillows because I hate myself
>>42974396how old are u? it will probably get more manageable as u get older
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