I have had exactly 0 (zero) friends for my entire lifehow do I not be like thishow do I not be scared of peopleoh and to make things worse i took e for 3 years despite having no dysphoria
>>42976469i'm actually the exact same you gotta work on your appearance and mannerisms and chat to people about random stuff. e will help :)
>>42976469stop being a whinyass bitch and talk to people nigga
>>42976504>>42976525I talked to ppl before but no one wanted to be friends. but since I graduated college I’ve become too scared to leave my house. and e makes it worse bc I don’t want to be a woman
talk to people nona. dont try to be special or quirky if its too much. just start making smalltalk with random people in day to day life (who you feel comfortable speaking to) and social interaction should feel easier
>>42976582>talk to peopleliterally whereidk how to interact online I was never an extremely online typeand im a neet bc no one will hire me
>>42976608>idk how to interact onlineokay. you're a bit special... go O U T S I D E to talk to people
>>42976469what are your interests? what do you usually do during the day? how old are you?
>>42976690people don’t just chat with randos anymore esp when they’re alone>>42976711im 28. mostly just bedrot but I do try to exercise everyday. and i play classical music but everyone in that is like 50 years old
>>42976816boomers make the best friends lol. I get along better with boomers than other trans ppl
>>42976469Have you been assessed for autism, because this is sadly common for autists. >>42976504This is actually bullshit, masking requires enourmous amount of effort for very marginal payoff. The better strategy is firstly to become neurosafe yourself. Learn how to engage with other autistic people in a meaninful and productive way. Then go and find neurodiverse spaces to exist in. This is way easier said that done, but this is the way forward for autistic people.
>>42976469Why were you taking e? Are there medical reasons guys take it beyond gender affirming care? I don’t have any helpful advice OP, but I hope things work out for you. Everyone deserves friendship and human connection if they want it.
>>42976921I don’t think I have autism. I don’t have any special interests or repetitive behavior. I think I more likely have avpd >>42976987I thought I might be trans for a bit but I realized I was wrong but I didn’t stop taking it I guess bc I like having no sex drive bc idk sexual things makes me uncomfortable
>>42976816>classical musicInstrument? I play violin. If you truly struggle making friends (and you genuinely believe it is of no fault of your own) then I’ll be your friend if you post disc.>>42977133>avpdthis may be the source of your anti-social life. Regardless, share contact if you want a friend that’ll message you from time to time.
>>42977133>I think I more likely have avpdWell all personality disorders are treatable with cognitive behavioural therapy. So get treatment. That said, the diagnostic criteria for personality disorders are barnum statements. >The Barnum effect, also called the Forer effect or, less commonly, the Barnum–Forer effect, is a common psychological phenomenon whereby individuals give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically to them, yet which are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a broad range of people.[1] This effect can provide a partial explanation for the widespread acceptance of some paranormal beliefs and practices, such as astrology, fortune telling, aura reading, and some types of personality tests.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barnum_effect
>>42976469its hostile environment because you are perceived as a moid
i don't understand why you are taking estrogen
>>42977217I play violin too and ofc it’s my fault I had many opportunities to make real normie friends in college and work and what not but I was too scared to talk to anyone and now im a shut in neet with no hope >>42977295I tried therapy, my therapist literally threw me out after 6 sessions like actually walked me out of the building at the last session. was super humiliating>>42977553I mistakenly thought I was trans for a bit bc of identity confusion due to being depressed and isolated
>>42978114>I tried therapy, my therapist literally threw me out after 6 sessions like actually walked me out of the building at the last session. was super humiliatingWow why?
>>42978129she said in a previous session that I should just talk to my doctor about anxiety meds and I said I only wanted talk therapy then in the sixth session she was like I don’t think i can help you you should find someone else and walked me out with like 40min on the clock
>>42978169wow mean
>>42976469You've already taken the first steps. Even if it's talking to random anons online, it's a start. Keep it up, keep pushing yourself to talk to folk, a good next step would be simply ordering some food, or going to your local McD's and ordering a burger. You don't need to get into a conversation, but it's a good step towards not being afraid of people.
>>42978169nta but shes just 1 bad one. that she couldnt help you doesnt mean someone else cant
>>42978239I did try someone else they weren’t as mean but equally unhelpful and then I had to stop going bc I lost my job and didn’t want to pay out of pocket for it>>42978228I think im ok with short small talk I just don’t know how to make friends. like any convo mor than a few min freaks me out. part of it is anxiety but it’s also self hate
>>42976469I'll be your friend OP, got a discord acct?
>>42976469I'm in the same boat as you, I'm 27yo twinkhon with ESL and avoidant personality disorder so it's really hard for me to make friends but I really wish I had a soulmate with whom I can talk about life and play some vidya, and I'm also into classical music. If you want to be friends here is my discord: renkosatsuma
