Why does it feel better/more natural when people are mean to me or insult me? As opposed to when people are nice to me?why does kindness feel forced and why does being bullied feel "right"? I don't understand
ur a faggot. next question
>>43081091I know but I need a more detailed explanation.
you're used to being bullied, so when people are nice to you, you get suspicious, because at least the bullies are upfront with how much they hate you. all these other people must be lying about liking you, and just waiting for an opportunity to hurt you, which is dreadful. right?
>>43081085Yeah like I get it, feels like bullying feels more brutally honest and real and feels more authentic therefore itll cut a lot deeper yknow That being said OP you dont deserve to be insulted or have people be mean to you, :( everyone deserves kindness you dont deserve to be treated badly and I suspect theres a part of you that wants kindness and love
>>43081085I think people being mean to you can feel more honest because they’re not holding back out of consideration for your feelings the way someone who cares about you would.
>>43081142I would add though that people bullying you aren’t necessarily more honest. They might be willing to tell you hard truths people who care about you won’t, but they’ll also exaggerate or make shit up in an effort to hurt you. You might be inclined to listen to them because they confirm your insecurities about yourself. Bullies might feel honest, but they’re not really a more reliable mirror than a friend or loved one, even if they reflect different things back at you.
>>43081098You're a *masochistic* faggot.
>>43081186Kek
>>43081109>>43081142>>43081168Ty
>>43081085what other anons say, but i'll add that hatred at least implies *some *degree of acknowledgement. anyone ((or anything)) that can speak can be nice, but not anyone can Care. maybe it's not that kindness doesn't feel right, perhaps you've just never received actually genuine kindness
>>43081085self hate, and it validates your inner voice
>>43081435Np, hope some of this helps. Everyone is worthy of being loved, even if you don’t always feel that way about yourself <3