I've been having an awful time these past two years. My situationship saved my life from my abusive husband, and now I just can't get over her. I don't want her romantically even, I just want to see her every day and know everything she ever thinks and know what she thinks about everything I ever do. She made me feel woman in a way I've never felt before, and kind of birthed my new identity. She did everything for me and now I have no idea how to move on. I date other women now, but it's not the same, they're not my oneitis. She's my best, and kind of only friend, but I'm obviously not hers. I asked her to establish boundaries with me, but she's been unresponsive, like last time when she avoided the question, and so I've been writing her an album.But surely this savior complex is actually quite common, and normal, and so how do I get over it? How did you all get over it? Thanks.
>>43093008i wish i had a nice and conforting solution for you, but this is something i struggle with as well. make sure you have other friends and hobbies, and maybe block her for a bit. i love you, be well
>>43093008the fact she is unresponsive about boundaries implies shes aware you're still hung up on her and probably enjoys the attention and having you fawn over her.highly recommend you go low/no contact for a while and make an effort to talk to new people, make friends, immerse yourself in hobbies etc. let it fade nona.
>>43093054>>43094926The problem I have with doing hobbies is that somehow it wraps around to being about her again. If I try to think of something to draw, it's in reference to her, if I play piano, I think about songs for her. When I read, I can't but wonder what she would think about the things I'm reading.
