Can a nonpassing tranny get a decent monogamous boyfriend or will I never be happy? Men historical only want me for sex.
are you ok with flamboyant gay bottoms?
>>43099759In the show Pose. Blanca starts dating a feminine “straight” man who is clearly a chaser. Blanca is clocky af and has aids. If she can do it, you can as well
>>43099764>>43099783Actually maybe I should just kill myself
>>43099759I would date a non passing trans woman assuming good chemistry and mutual attraction. Honestly the main thing that would give me pause is the higher likelihood of dealing with an unstable person. I’m pretty burnt out on dealing with partners with mental illnesses. I’m sympathetic to their problems, I just feel like I’ve done my time on that front.
>>43099912No offense but you’re a cis man on the lgbt board so I have to take this with a grain of salt
>>43099941I’m bi, but no offense taken. I know that it’s a harsh statement, but the amount of trans people I see on here saying how unhappy they are and contemplating suicide really disturbs me. Again I’m sympathetic, but I’ve dealt with multiple partners with similar issues and I’m really not interested in a repeat ever again.
>>43100046>>43099941Sorry, I’m tired, I read your last comment as cis het for some reason. I honestly do understand that trans people face tons of unique pressures and I am sympathetic to the impact that has on a person. I’ve just done a poor job in the past of protecting myself from other people working out their own troubles, and am much more cautious than I used to be.
>>43099759How nonpassing are you? You can get a bf who will love you for your inner self tho
>>43100100I look okay but I’ve mostly had terrible experiences with men in the past so I have given up on them. I’m considering trying again but am hesitant.
>>43100346I know plenty of trans girls who were successful with dating apps. If a relationship is what want just go after it, even if it won't work it's no different than just staying single.Do you feel lonely?
>>43100373I don’t know how dating apps don’t make people want to kill themselves, the only men who would talk to me were really gross or would just want to fuck me or would lose interest. Just getting men to go on an actual date with me instead of something where a hookup was implied was an impossible task for me sadly.
>>43100384Ok, what were your filters and who did you match with?
>>43099759dating as in local diner for burgers and then sex or do you want more?
>>43099759gl OP, hope you find a loving partner
>>43100410A relationship>>43100402Men around my age or slightly older. I tried matching with people who seemed to be the following: attractive, interesting, have their life somewhat together.>>43100417Thank you anon i hope one day i can.
>>43100470Do you also want marriage (and maybe children)?
Yes. But you gotta be intentional about it and stop seeking in the wrong places.I found my trans wife at an unrelated event.Terminally online people (trans, cis, gay, str8, doesn't matter) keep assuming that everyone else is like them. Newsflash: we're not.I'm on the internet for leisure mayyybe 5hrs/week. Never used a "dating" app either.That's how nearly all people who have their life somewhat together tend to function. Especially the non-narcissistic (who are still the overwhelming majority in spite of what social media might tell you).
>>43099759Me
>>43100476I’d like to get married but I don’t like children which I understand would be a dealbreaker for many. >>43100518I am not good at meeting new people in real life which I know is not good. I did meet a guy through friends who I ended up asking on a date but he politely declined which saddened me. I’ve never had a guy show organic interest in me which makes me feel hopeless. The only men who have ever shown interest in me were on dating apps.
>>43100696>I’ve never had a guy show organic interest in me which makes me feel hopeless.This is 2026. It's okay to approach.My wife "chased" me, not the other way around.If you want something, you have to go after it. Life's too short for anything less than that.You got rejected once. Big deal. You don't wanna know how many times I was rejected by both cis and transwomen.
>>43099759>Can a nonpassing tranny get a decent monogamous boyfriendNo. Get better at passing and you might
