>start drafting a coming out letter for close friends who are the only people I interact with>feel guilt that I've been faking the person they've known for the past 10 years and am basically killing the person they actually care about >realize they won't ever see me as a woman and being around them will just make things awkward since I'm not longer one of the guys>I'll just be a hon that embarrasses them as that one friend who trooned out If I don't come out sooner or later I'm going to rope but these are the only people I've ever felt remotely close to. I feel like I'm going to end up alone and miserable. Idk can anyone else relate?
>>43106673>Idk can anyone else relate?No I don't have any friends
i don't really have any real-life friends but my family took maybe a year and a half to start naturally gendering me properly (most of them, anyways...my grandparents still mess up sometimes after six years, though they are very good to me) and not stumbling over my deadname to refer to me. i think you'll be okay as long as they are true friends. they might struggle at first but it will work out nona. how long have you been transitioning?
>>43106673they're not going to want to hear your confessional, normies can't comprehend your desire, so arguing your reasoning is fruitless, just tell them and the real ones will stick around, the reasoning is for yourself or maybe other trans that relate but they can't relate so i can't imagine them even taking the time to read something like that
>>43106673Just continue to troon the fuck out and don’t say anything. If they say something in passing, ignore it. If they ask you jokingly, deny deny deny.Eventually they will corner you and ask you about it seriously, at which point you confess your troon status.This will place the burden of action on them instead of you, so they will feel responsible instead of feeling that you are responsible. They will feel that it is their fault for prying, not yours for existing.
>>43106673This but I have to come out as a cis man to the few friends I have left after being mtf for 10 years.
>>43106846This is good advice imo it does not have to be of note. Its not a big deal
>>4310682>how long have you been transitioning?I've been on hrt for about 4 years but nothing else. Nobody has noticed aside from the occasional comment that I have good skin. >>43106846I should probably just do this
they arent gunna wanna associate with you anymore, so find some new friends. imagine how you'd have reacted if you were a cissoid and one of your bros came out at trans, you'd be mortified to have ever known him
>>43107283if you haven't changed your presentation it's understandable that nobody would notice...your friends only know what they know and they've just seen you continue to exist the same way you always have. the other anon's advice about not saying anything is good. this is what i did; i don't often see the few friends i do have (because they all live far from me) so they noticed immediately when i saw them after so much time had passed. they asked me about it and i came out to each as i saw them and then everything was fine. but if you do want your friends to know, you have to actually do the transitioning, nona...especially if you see them often. you don't have to go all-out or anything, but be yourself as you'd like to be.
>>43106673You're gonna lose your friends the moment you come out. They'll probably stick around for some time out of politeness, but they gonna form a second group, one which you aren't part of. Better start going to reddit or some shit to find new friends.
