Has anyone here attempted to turn straight? I am sincerely asking. I genuinely like females, but I cannot get myself sexually attracted to them. Ive fallen in love with a female but I literally don't think I could have sex with her, even though I would want to for her?
Doing it "for them" and getting rid of repulsion is about as far as one can reasonably go.
>>43108469I've met dozens of guys who try this, they all wind up cruising public bathrooms for rentboys in the middle of the night or spending their entire lives on dating apps.
>>43108469I think you’re just going to cause harm and heartache for both parties if you try this. Why not just be good friends, and get your sexual and romantic needs fulfilled by people you’re actually attracted to?
>>43108488This is such a cringe topic but: I'm fine with vaginas, visually. Sometimes I do like them sexually. But then I think about sex or being sexually close, I do recoil because it sounds uncomfortable or freaky.Like I wonder if I'm just insecure and inexperienced and I'm misunderstanding that as not being attracted to women
>>43108469what if i have the opposite problem i am physically attracted to women but i could never do a relationship as much as i tried since it feels like pretend
>>43108528>Why not just be good friends, and get your sexual and romantic needs fulfilled by people you’re actually attracted to?Because I like the feeling I get with females that I like and I want to pursue that. And I have never had the same feeling for a cis man>>43108512Do they actually love their wife or are they just a beard? I think I feel genuine love
>>43108541If you need to talk yourself into liking pussy you’re probably not attracted to women. Which is fine, but don’t try to have a relationship with a woman in that case.
>>43108579What’s the feeling you get with women but not cis men?Have you talked to this person about how you feel? Does she know what’s going on?
>>43108579>Do they actually love their wife or are they just a beard?I think so. They go to pretty insane lengths to preserve their marriage and get mad if you suggest packing it in and living an authentic life. They all seem so miserable tho. I'd probably talk to her about it, making absolutely clear that sexually you're 1000% gay and don't have any interest in PIV, but that you do have feelings for her and would like to have a romantic but non-sexual relationship. She might be into it, you don't know. Maybe she just wants to flick the bean while she watches you get railed by a bull, or maybe you can share a bull, or whatever. Get experimental. I'm just saying that the guys who do what I think you're thinking of doing and just keeping it all inside and lying their whole lives are miserable, so whatever you do don't do that.
>>43108631>What’s the feeling you get with women but not cis men?I think love lol? It's just 1 person, but I kinda had the same feelings for a female friend I used to have. It's really just my sexual interests that make me feel extremely confused. Like I could enjoy cuddling with her, but thinking about sex is just uncomfortable. I don't know if that's just because I never sincerely thought about having sex with a woman and I'm just unfamiliar/anxious about it?
>>43108674>making absolutely clear that sexually you're 1000% gay and don't have any interest in PIVI don't think this is true though. I don't think I'm 1000% gay, I think I'm like 70% "gay" and just like receiving anal. And I'm interested in trying PIV but a big part of me thinks I would just back out immediately and make it awkward.And this isn't about a specific woman. >>43108585I'm not trying to convince myself, Im trying to understand if my aversion is because I'm insecure or genuinely not sexually attracted
>>43108469My mom was in a weird sort of sexless relationship with a gay guy for nearly a decade. I don’t really understand all the details because I’ve only gotten to ask her about it a couple times. What I gathered though was that they cared about each other to a degree beyond close friends, and did a lot of normal couple shit together. But he would have dudes on the side for getting his rocks off. When they were in their mid 30’s my mom had a breakdown and decided she couldn’t keep doing this, and ran off and married the first super hetero manly dude she met, who turned out to be my dad. They had a pretty shitty marriage, I think in large part because my mom rushed into stuff with my dad after spending a decade of her life with a gay guy. If she hadn’t done that she probably could have dated around a little more, and met a straight guy who she would’ve had more in common with, and a better shot at a happy marriage.I guess my point here is that these kind of arrangements tend to break down in the long run, and they can eat up huge chunks of people’s lives. If you love someone you should have respect for their time. Taking up years of another person’s life is a big deal.
>>43108469I love crumb>>43108469You are not straight and never will be. Straight men crave pussy
>>43108799this made me sad. I dont want to sleep around like that>>43108805I think I am at least slightly straight
>>43108993Yeah it’s a sad story! I don’t know the details, but it’s possible the gay guy my mom was with started out not wanting to sleep around either. It’s possible that was something they negotiated later on when it was clear he wasn’t sexually fulfilled. I don’t know. The bigger point though is just the amount of lost time and damage caused by the two of them even agreeing to an arrangement like this in the first place. It’s a bad idea, and if it goes on long enough it can be a very costly one, like in my mom’s case.
