yesterday my best friend kicked me out of her apartment and said she will never speak to me again, because i talked to some girl i met on the train and jokingly flirted with her. my best friend and i love each other but she has a gf and we cant be togethershe called me a whore and that im worthless and other stuff that really hurt me :( she said that im throwing her away and replacing her and that its disgusting that my love apparently means nothing (since i flirted with another girl, jokingly, like, i was mean to her in a funny way, not even like complimenting her or something) and that shes ashamed for investing time in our relationship we made up and stuff since i think we both are too codependent, and we didnt mention that situation again and i blocked the girl i talked to, but im heartbroken and just scarred from this idk it really hurts me to think that she meant those things seriouslyi wish i could just be together with her and she would leave her stupid gf from the other side of the world for me who is literally there for her rn all the time
you should tell her that if she's going to demand you not talk to anyone other than her, then she needs to break up with her gfshe's holding you to ridiculous standards that she doesn't hold herself to
>>43108643Wtf is this, are you for real? The two of you are besties in the same city and spend all your time together, but you can’t be together because she’s got an online gf overseas. You’re not allowed to talk to other girls because it makes your friend jealous, who again you can’t be with because she’s got a discord gf. Read that back to yourself once or twice. Do you see how fucking stupid it all is? How did the parameters of this friendship form, and why have you been okay with them?
>>43108947i love her a lot and we were pseudo-together for a while, and we still cuddle a lot and jokingly kiss and stuff but she stopped being intimate with me because of her gf (she had that gf when we first started talking) i cant just leave her because i need her too much and she needs me too :( it sucksi feel so lonely but shes the only thing that makes me happy, she was my first everything too and i know she genuinely loves me and cares for me
>>43109031I believe you both care for each other but this is a laughably untenable situation. You’re her irl emotional side piece while she’s got a gf she can’t physically be with. And you just hang around being her favorite stuffed animal whenever she needs you? Don’t you have any self respect?
>>43109206no i dont have any self respect, i also dont really have anything in life but her, i wouldnt have my job without her or wouldve gotten away from my bad habits and depression, im insanely attached to her, and what she gives me is enough to keep me with her,
>>43109382I think you need to start figuring out what you need to do to stand on your own two feet. I dint think you need to break up your friendship, but it sounds like this person has almost total leverage over you. That’s not a great position to be in period, but it’s even worse given that she’s not willing to prioritize you over an online relationship.Gaining some independence will put you in a better position to leave if things sour, and it will also show her she can’t use you as a plaything malleable to her every whim.
