Is there anything I could do to prevent this from happening? I know that people with BPD tend to cut people out of their lives, but it's really eating at me, and I don't know if there's anything I can do about it. I think our friendship is fine right now, since I just explicitly asked her if she might leave, but it's still frightening. I care a lot about her, and I really enjoy being her friend. I'm also afraid she might die if I'm gone, since I've talked her out of killing herself a few times now. For additional context, I don't think I'm her favorite person. I also think I'm generally quite a good friend, and she's never gotten mad at me for anything and has only ever been upset with me once.
ur friend sounds based and upfront desu
you sound needy af
>>43133992she's very fun to be around>>43134001i'm not really interested in dating her if that's what this implies, and i don't really think she's really looking to be in a relationship right now anyways
if friends are replaceable: bpdif they think they're better off alone: avd
>>43133977Tell your friend to get the treatment. BPD is curable.
>>43134036i'm normally very apathetic, but she's special so i really care about her. also i'm not this forward in normal conversations
have you considered love bombing her
so thats not normal? you seem like a nice friend op
As a fellow Beautiful Princess you can either be as crazy or her or assure her (repeatedly) that you like her for who she is RN even if she never changes and won't hold it against her to maximize your chances of not getting blocked desu
waow i wish someone cared this much about me
>>43134036>needyyour time on earth is limited, in the end all will come to darkness and you will return to the oblivion
>>43133977cut her off first
did that guy from banshees of inisherin have BPD? wooaow
>>43133977what's her ideal position in your life? just keep affirming her that she fills it.
>>43134355i’m aware it’s really not, but i’m okay with dealing with it because i enjoy talking with her more than i would anyone else>>43134363thank you for the advice, i’m honestly slightly crazy about her sometimes and i do reassure her i really won’t mind her being how she is, but i’m not entirely sure she believes me>>43134373you might find someone who cares like that someday, i just thought she was nice to be around and forced my way into her life randomly, it’s pure chance unfortunately
>>43134572plot twist op also has bpd
>>43134572>slightly crazyyeah you probably have bpd lmfao
>>43134593i know i might seem like that a bit, but i’m not. i just have a slightly strange taste in friends and i’m very fond of her. i’m not at all emotionally reliant on her the way someone would be for their FP. i’d just be really sad if she were gonei have different issues aside from BPD
>>43133977If it makes you feel better they aren’t actually going to kill themselves when they talk about it. They just say they will to get attention.
>>43134076If they like you but can’t stand interacting with you: SPD
BPD always sets off alarm bells in my head, hairs on back of neck… Are we just enabling abusive behavior by affirming and supporting BPD in this way? It feels so placating. Like, there are different friendship styles, but if you need someone to be there for you, walking on eggshells hoping they don’t ghost you for months because they got bored of you feels pretty emotionally taxing. Do you really want or need that kind of friendship?
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>>43134663not op but i love my bpd friend, she's very special to me and i find her antics very cute :)
>>43134627ehh, not really, i’m almost 100% sure she’s actually going through with it, i mean more like i’ve stopped her mid attempt>>43134663it is emotionally taxing at times, but i personally really don’t mind that. i find the way my emotions go off really enjoyable in a way that’s kind of hard to explain. i do treat her pretty much the same as i would if she didn’t have BPD though. i have a very cautious and agreeable personality>>43134694i feel the same, she’s very cute sometimes
>>43134694>>43134734(Replying) I have BPD friends too and I also appreciate their antics, but everything I’ve heard about BPD suggests that it’s not some incurable brain disorder, but a set of habits that enable a certain lack of accountability that can end up being really unhealthy and destructive for them, which makes me scared for their lives at times. I can’t help but think they’d be happier without being on that rollercoaster…
>>43134747i do get the concern for that, but she is honestly doing quite well in managing her issues. she’s been cutting a lot of difficult people out of her life and is trying to make changes to better herself, it’s just that i’m afraid she’ll end up cutting me out of her life next or just decide it would be better for either of us if we stoped interacting. it’s not really that common a situation maybe, but i’d like to keep being her friend and i’m not sure how to go about that. i certainly don’t think i’m a bad influence on her, but she does still deal with BPD and i’m afraid she’ll come to not like me eventually
