>>43149525
just make one good friend that will stay despite the ghosting thats all that matters

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>>43149550
i kinda did but this was my third time ghosting them and i also deleted my social medias

>>43149525
you're ugly and a creep
become hot and actually socially normal

>30 friends ghosted award
>0 friends award

>>43149605
i wish i knew how to do that
>>43149625
i think it’s a bit more than 30 desu

>>43149708
thats me anon
we need to figure this out
why do you ghost people?

>>43149525
Ghost yourself for a bit to see how it feels

>>43149747
>why do you ghost people?
oh that’s easy
i feel like i ghost people out of insecurity, feeling inadequate, and feeling as though i’m dragging them down with me thanks to lack of “contribution” or whatever. i don’t think i’m doing enough to be kept around, and so i start isolating myself from everyone. my actions, no matter what i do, will never be enough for anyone
>>43149764
how does that work?

>>43149525
Im always afraid of ghosting people because what if they have a hateful vengeance and kill me

>>43149525
are you expecting sympathy? maybe compassion? you get people close with you and abandon them without true cause. karma will come back and you cannot hide behind a three letter acronym when it does.

>>43149876
holy shit that's exactly me. i think it's legitimately avoidant personality disorder, but that doesnt make it happen any less. i feel like a schizoid. like a observer in my own life. when the controls are in my hands or there's some opportunity to do something, i do nothing and end up fading away because it's the only thing i know i can rely on to be familiar and without rejection

i'm in the exact same boat as all you fags and its making me want to an hero. i'm not cut out to be a person, i very clearly dont deserve to have friends if i just use them for a couple months then vanish

While we're on the subject... if you get ghosted, just leave it.
It's not worth your time. Trust.

>>43151469
it sucks ass because i cant even be friends with other people like this either. we are terrible people who dont deserve friendship

>>43151482
would it be bad if i reached out to apologize to people ive ghosted in the past? not with the expectation theyll forgive me but to give them at least that minimum respect i didnt before

>>43151503
No. You chose to fuck off, stay fucked off.
The apology wouldn't even be for them, it would be for you.
You want to feel better. Do you deserve it though?
You know the answer. Leave them alone.

>>43151503
do not do this. it is a very bad idea for both you and the ghostee
>t. did both and regretted it afterwards

>>43151516
youre right. i just want to go back in time and kill myself before i started doing this.

>>43151530
Or you just commit to being better and don't do it in the future.
Is that really so hard?

>>43151535
nya but yes

>>43151535
i havent done it in years, but there's no taking back what i already did before. i dont interact with anyone now, no friends, no family. i know that's the best thing i can do now and in the future since i cant guarantee i'll never relapse and isolate myself again.

>>43151493
this desu. i would complain about the long wait between messages but i also do the same, so i can’t
in an ideal world, though, we’d be friends and have our own little bubble to share together

>>43149876
same i think i have avpd or something. i dont think i can ever be fixed. im really tired of it, im gonna rope in a couple wks max

>>43151535
it really is that hard. i havent been able to overcome it in all my life no matter how i try or how much i love them or anything else. i am subhuman; there is something wrong with me on a fundamental level. its like telling a disabled person to vow to become healthy again

>>43151703
No. No, it isn't.
You need that to be the case, it's your golden excuse.
But it isn't true. I know that... and you know it, too.

>>43151709
do you have this problem too? if not, you should shut the fuck up. you clearly dont understand it

>>43151733
youre talkin to an ai dog

>>43151733
>my problem is very special and magical you see, it's very rare and unique to be an inconsiderate prick uwu
I think I understand it well enough.

>>43151733
lmfao

>>43151709
then why did it never improve when i genuinely tried at it for years before? i didnt know what a personality disorder was until very recently, and i didnt even believe anything was wrong with me until more recently than that, i just thought it was a bad habit i needed to fix. even when i had a "healthy mindset" about it and "didnt make excuses" or whatever you like to call it, i still couldnt make myself better. what else could i do?

>>43149525
stop it retard

>>43151756
those replies arent in good faith. no point in arguing with them just to get a smug asshole a half chub

>>43151788
You're right. It's completely unreasonable to just not ghost people. I was being a jerk, and I'm very sorry.

>>43151748
im confused by this bc i dont understand what you think the motivation for that action is. when i am avoidant i know its inconsiderate and i know it is hurtful. i dont want to do that, i dont want to hurt the people i love. for that reason, of course i want to stop having this problem. but on top of that, it hurts me, too! even if my motivation was purely selfish, i still would not gain anything by purposely being avoidant! what is the case you are thinking of in which i have the ability to improve but deliberately choose not to??

>>43151802
Sorry, but I can't continue this conversation. My replies aren't in good faith and I'm AI.
If you keep talking to me, my smug asshole will get a half chub.
Please ghost me.

>>43149525
same
im such a horrible person. i try to just not talk to people so i can avoid hurting them but that just makes me even more insane and when i crack and try to talk to ppl im even more unstable than i was before

>>43151788
i guess hes being sort of mean about it but i dont know, maybe he knows something i dont, even if i at first i dont like to hear it. if theres even a possibility it could help me somehow its not wasted time. i am already planning to sui so no reason not to try anything

>>43151799
you're making the world a much better place by being an asshole to mentally ill people on the internet. i'm sure your family and friends are very proud of you.

>>43151811
i didnt say any of that, can u please tell me what you think? i really want to understand :( it sounds like you have some experience in your life related to it, i want to know

>>43149525
im going to break up with my bf of 9 years becasuse of these feelings. Then I will be truly alone. Thats what I want and thats what I deserve

>>43149525
Just got my heart broken by a t-girl who I assume is avoidant now.
Not much to add, you just want to add me on discord so we can talk for a couple weeks and I can hurt myself again? I want on another ride.

>>43151946
>a couple weeks
best i can do is a few hours to a day

>>43151888
I know, I was just being a smartass/dumbass.
>>43151832
Look, I don't know anything you don't already know.
And for the record, I'm not saying this shit to hurt you.
The others can think that, I don't really care.
I'm saying it because I was you.
I hurt plenty of people on my way through life.
I was always terrified of letting people down.
Or giving them the opportunity to walk away first.
I didn't want to give people the chance to hurt me.
So I would walk away from others, spinning it to make it okay, and it was killing me. Just like you said... it hurts you, too. It's too damn lonely.
What I really needed was to plant my feet and face it instead of running.
Friendships can fade, people can disappoint you.
And you can disappoint them too. And that's alright. We're all just human.
I had to accept that I can't control those things, and to let go of that struggle and that fear.
All you can ever really do is your best.
And if that isn't good enough for someone else, it'll be what it'll be.
So I just wanted you to hear what I needed to hear, that nobody ever said to me.
But what helped me won't necessarily help you.
Only you can realistically do that. You have to plant your feet.
And for what it's worth, I know we're strangers, but I'd prefer if you stick around.
The people you ghosted probably felt that way too.
I can tell you're an empathetic person, that's probably why you feel such a strong need to protect yourself.
The world's short on empathy as is, so don't you go anywhere.

>>43151963
are we talking an intense day or just dry text conversation?

>>43151985
thanks for taking the time to respond i really appreciate it
i dont know if i have it in me to stand strong like that and accept those parts of life but ill take this as a sign i should give it one more shot before i go. im really scared. but if you say you really changed, then ill believe its possible. i want to be a good person. i want to do good in the lives of the people i love

>>43151888
i'm not in this thread at all before this message, but at 19 i got diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder. the root of it is shame. healthy gamer gg on youtube has a good start to unpacking shame. he is a psychiatrist that gears himself towards an often neglected audience (avid gamers, men, incels, etc). therapy can help. but you have to face yourself and heal yourself from within. you can get better with consistent effort and time. it can be hell, to feel shame, to feel emotions truly, to not go off of instinct that feels it is protecting you or others. but you are not so horrible as you think in your mind. it might be cognitive distortion driving a lot of self-loathing thinking. i don't know this for sure about you, but it was true for me. you seem to care for people. you can't be so bad. it's just shame. get to the root of the shame and your soul will feel lighter. it is hard work, but it is worth it. it can take years, but it is worth it. best of luck

>>43149525
u can just stop doing that, like just stop caring so much about it and then it stops and ppl think ur a nicer person automatically tbqh

I hate how there are a ton of people here acting like you’re a villain for doing this.
You lot have been hurt but it’s time to get over it.

>>43149550
I stayed despite the ghosting
in the end, I ghosted everyone else

>>43151384
mood. it's how I've wasted many years

>>43151503
I'd appreciate it

>>43149525
me neither. I've literally pushed away everyone I've ever met. never stopped to think about whether I hurt anyone bc I thought I was doing them a favor by removing myself. why would anyone miss me? I'm forgettable. Nobody will come to my funeral. I really need to just hang myself already

>>43153300
same. my actions aren’t meant to have consequences considering that i am barely a person at, and to see that they actually do is pretty jarring