>>43160173
I've been told a good top is a bit psycho, and it's about managing these feels.

>>43160173
Have a man do it for you.

>>43160173
if shes ok with it have her make you get mad at her in some way, see if that helps. i follow my rage and tone it down

>>43160173
just remember you can dom but still be a little pathetic. like a yandere or whatever the term is. squeeze her really hard

>>43160203
i think ill try that next time i see her, but desu im a little bit scared of someone actively ragebaiting me since usually during that i realise that im no better at controlling my emotions than my dad who beat me as a kid and i just start crying

>>43160217
how so ? (isn't yandere just what anime retards call bpd girls ?)

>>43160324
idk really what it means, i was just making a vague connection. anyway when you're domming try and have a "take what you want" mindset rather than necessarily a "big and strong" mindset. not too much obv but more that way. and the thing about this is getting what you want can often feel really pathetic. or dysphoric, but in that case you should just tell her no.

>usually during that i realise that im no better at controlling my emotions than my dad who beat me as a kid and i just start crying
i would also try to talk to her about this if you haven't. maybe in a roundabout way (e.g. ask he do you ever feel scared you can't control your emotions?). she may have experience with that too, and in any case if she can support you about it that'll make the domming/topping probably feel a lot better/safer for the both of you.

i kind of assumed your main problem was not knowing what to do but if its feeling like a monster/uncontrollable you probably need to deal with that first.

>>43160173
in any case if you feel uncomfortable please tell her. then either a. don't do the thing or b. have her help you get comfortable with it.

>>43160173
it depends how freaky y'all are but usually when i'm topping i get them high and then coo at how cute they are and how they melt at my touch. and then i give them so many nice hickeys and bruises. but that's just me haha who said that

>>43160875
*ask her not ask he

>>43160916
high on what?
>tfw chemsex fetish but straight edge bf