>>43162927
No you shouldn't have. Now you have a loving wife and instead you wanted to trade that for a loose asshole like this guy https://files.catbox.moe/yobghd.png

>>43162945
I've never had gay sex but I think I'd be a top, the picture is sort of what I want rather than what I am
In any case my attraction to males is more romantic than anything, I would be happy to never have penetrative sex, as long as we had intense sensual kissing etc

>>43162945
why'd you post that gross drawing tho

>>43162927
I chose the gay path and yeah I feel very sexy it’s good but what you have is better

>>43162962
Don't you think it's sad to have to pick a "path" though?
Why do I only get one life with mutually exclusive options?

>>43162956
>the picture is sort of what I want
The picture looks like a girl with slightly more masculine features. Convince your wife to poon out and then you have everything you need
>my attraction to males is more romantic than anything
why do you believe you can't have the same sort of romantic feelings for your wife? does it have to be male?

>>43163002
>The picture looks like a girl with slightly more masculine features.
Well it's true that androgyny attracts me, I guess this is how I was so comfortable with being "straight" for a long time. But truly I want a feminine man, not a masculine woman, I want feminine traits on a male's basic hardware
>why do you believe you can't have the same sort of romantic feelings for your wife? does it have to be male?
I do have romantic feelings for her, in fact I'm deeply in love with her, but it's not exactly the "same", I don't know how to put it
It's like she inspires a kind of chaste love in me, I want to protect her, but I don't want to possess her
Boys cause a deep hot feeling in my chest, and it is their male edge, their sharpness that causes this. I often develop very deep friendships with men and fall in love with them, and this makes me feel guilty

Perhaps I sound confused or like a coomer

>>43163052
You have a good life, don't throw it away because of some "what could have been" bullshit

>>43163076
I think I need to hear this.
Can anyone else tell me I'm being an idiot and that the grass isn't greener

>>43163083
nta but as a top myself I enjoy what I have but I am desperate to have what you got even more. the grindr grind is not worth it for anything else other than immediate sexual relief and most bottoms are fucking soulless gooners. every gay man wants the straight dynamic you've got going on don't be a fucking idiot. you're lucky to have a woman you love

>>43163094
>every gay man wants the straight dynamic you've got going on don't be a fucking idiot
Do they really wtf?
It always seemed to me that 1. gays would never trade places and 2. they have more sovl in general

>>43163083

The grass is greener on polyamorous side. I'm bi man, have a husband, like 10 years together, both poly, both fckn happy with our lifes. Surprisingly many straight couples around me are also poly nowadays, so it's definitely not some gay-only shit.

>>43163083
>the grass isn't greener
You're not being an idiot. You're not going to get to start over and you know that, mourning youth in the fullness of the wisdom it gained you isn't some kind of crime or failing, its something most people go through as a kind of rite. It's the most human thing there is.
I hope you're close enough to be able to point these things about yourself out without everything going to shit, cause this is the last place to get solid backup. While you might get someone like that anon, you're as likely to get a bug chaser or an indian bot farm, and you don't need those things if you're vulnerable enough to take advice from strangers on a mongolian basket weaving forum. You've had years of contentment and happiness, and while the excitement of these fantasies feels new and interesting, you'd make half of your life into a tragedy if you were really going to act on something like that. You seem to know that. Praying that your relationship is strong enough, and with a smart enough person that if you make a passing comment about completely irrelevant features of your orientation, you don't become a statistic on the wrong end of para-conservative white woman twitter. Just don't say anything at all if you don't think you can have that conversation, but don't pretend you have no impulse control or that a different partner is some kind of irresistible temptation after ~13 years of progress on a lifetime of family and love.

>>43162945
This doesnt happen to faggots in real life lmao go outside nigga

>>43163105
See for yourself just go in the gay general and ask them. It's a desperate pit of loneliness even for the ones that get plenty. I can say we have more high IQ people though who actually think deeply, but sovl? nah man that's the trad life

>>43163121
>See for yourself just go in the gay general and ask them. It's a desperate pit of loneliness
That's just a 4chan thing

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>>43162927
No matter what you do, you can always end up curious about the path you didn't take. I've had a lot of fun with women and men, I love my wife as well. Occasionally I wonder what life would've been like if I hadn't been afraid to ask out that southern european girl with giant tits who was in a handful of my classes and was really into me for whatever reason. But it's just a fantasy, you enjoy it and move on.

>>43163113
>>43163182
Thanks anons.
A lot to think about.
Of course I'm not practically going to do anything about it but I'm hoping I can start to reach a place of acceptance / contentment with fantasising.

>>43163182
wouldn't polyamory solve this problem?

>>43163254
It would cause another problem

>>43162927
have you tried to talk to your wife about this?
it doesn't necessarily has to be one or the other, anon. It's not uncommon for a person in a couple to discover they're bi or gay later in life. There's a good chance she's willing to let you two experiment new things together.

If your wife started realizing she was bi or gay, would you encourage her to try experiencing how it feels to kiss a woman, or would you start a fight and threaten her?
I feel there's a lot of people on the former camp out there

>>43163256
which is?

>>43163265
Poly relations opening a huge can of worms

>>43163263
I don't think it would go down well.
She's temperamentally an ultra-monogamist.
The sort of person where even if she agreed to it (highly unlikely) I know it would hurt her I even suggested it

>>43163250
No problem. Of course, there is a delicate balance in life between accepting things as they are and tolerating shitty things in life, but I think loving and being happy with your wife is the former.

>>43163254
You can always be left with wonder. Perhaps you could live a polyamorous life and want to know what it was like to simply settle into a simple life with a wife. Or perhaps you could have a wife and wonder what it's like to live amongst a pod of polyamorous people.

>>43163270
i am in one it seems fine
it might even solve op's issues

>>43163274
perhaps it won't solve this issues

>>43162927
download Grindr
NOW

>>43163270
idk it has been working fine for me
OP seems to be in a tricky situation tho, based on >>43163274
i don't think they'll find happiness by living a straight marriage when they're gay though

Same but we're getting in a relationship with another 'straight' couple who are also bi.
She'll be boning her and I'll get boned by him.
35 and we've been together since we were 19 (I've been with two boys and one girl before her).

>>43163254
Also in my case from >>43163182 in particular, I know that based on their personalities, my wife and that giant tits girl from high school would absolutely fight all the time if we somehow ended up in a throuple.

>>43163297

Based

>>43163604
I meant *they should

>>43163604
tsmt

>>43162927
don't leave your wife, it's just modern westerners who have this idiotic idea that they should destroy their family if they want to have sex with someone else, also I wouldn't count "cheating" on your wife with boys as actual cheating

>>43163619
it's cheating, don't give lame excuses to op

you need to leave your wife and have lots of hot. gay. sex. immediately op

>>43163083
im also 30 and married to a cis woman
i fell in love with a trans woman about a year and a half ago. my wife found out and sat me down and quietly told me that she wanted to leave.
i tried to kill myself twice that year. I will never say i regret Her but you truly don't realize how precious the life you have is until you can feel it slipping through your fingers. Imagine what it will be like to live alone in your empty house, to never again kiss her on her little head after tucking her in, to no longer have that person you know you can depend on to help you with anything life throws at you. Your closest friend, your greatest ally. gone. and you just have to carry on like the world isn't wrong and broken.

dont break your wife's heart, OP.

>>43163660
Thanks anon, I appreciate your advice and sorry that you both went through that.
Love is love and it's the most powerful and destructive force in most people's lives
I hope you are doing better now

and what would someone so fateless know about tragedy, hmm? you would rejoice in failing the riddle of the sphinx. don't pretend you understand what it means to be oedipus

>>43163642
only if you're a libtard and believe that gay relationships are just like straight relationships, they aren't and there's no such thing as a "gay family" either

and I say this as a bisexual as well

>>43163686
That's so dumb the fact that you can comprehend what infidelity would do is telling.

>>43163674
im alive
that's not nothing, i suppose