I didn't want to get too attached to him, but it happened again. Why do I get this dependend over chasers who show me any basic kindness? What should I do about this? I don't want to get hurt anymore
>>43175888I'm a chaser and had the same happen to me. I never thought a tranny would break my heart into pieces, i even attempted a come back but it is NEVER the same. Lesson learned...
>>43175953He didn't left me, I'm just scared that he will, I'm thinking that I should leave him before he leaves me
>>43175993this has to be a joke.
>>43176002No it's not, he didn't message me today, he is probably planning on leaving me
>>43175953you probably deserved it
>>43176019he is not going to leave you, you are worrying for no reason
>>43176720I need to get attached to a girl with really long hair
>>43175888switch to other trannies
>>43176758he just doesnt care about her aha
>>43176758You were right>>43177089I like guys more tho
>>43175888Straight man here.>Why do I get this dependend over chasers who show me any basic kindness?I'm going to assume it's probably because your past boyfriends treated you poorly, or/and because you most likely face discrimination IRL, so you value basic kindness much higher than the average person.>What should I do about this?Enjoy being treated properly. Your standards are clearly very low right now, but once you get accustomed to being treated nicely it'll become normal to you and you'll have a better perspective and won't be extremely insecure or fearful about the possibility of the relationship eventually ending, because you'll know that just how you got a good boyfriend once you could get another one in the future if things fall apart with the one you have.>>43175993>I'm thinking that I should leave him before he leaves meDON'T DO THAT. That would be incredibly stupid and counterproductive even if right now you want to do it as a way to shield your ego (Spoiler: IT WON'T. Chasing away success because of fear of failure will effectively create a downward spiral where you'll self-sabotage yourself into more failure and bad situations).Instead, ENJOY THE RELATIONSHIP for as long as it lasts, and if/when it ends, cherish the fact you got to experience the good times and move on.>>43176019No it's not, he didn't message me today, he is probably planning on leaving meI HOPE you're joking, but unfortunately I KNOW better and am aware of women who are extremely insecure because I dated some of them.I'll make it simple: everyone has PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITIES they have to attend to, and nobody can (OR SHOULD) be at the beck and call of their partner 24/7. Your boyfriend is not your slave or your FATHER, he's a man who has to work to solve problems and do dozens of things every day because he, just like you, has HIS OWN LIFE separated from the relationship.
>>43177402P.S. Don't expect your boyfriend to be the center of your life, and fill YOUR OWN LIFE with different things that you enjoy that don't involve him so you don't have to emotionally depend on him so much or be so clingy.For example, try getting a new hobby. And/or take a good honest look into your life and see if there aren't things you could improve or do.Do you have a job? If not, get one.An excess of free time can be a problem if you waste it or do nothing really productive or enjoyable with it. Bottom line is: If your life sucks or is BORING, work on fixing that.That'll definitely improve your self-esteem and will allow you to understand that it's perfectly normal for someone to have some time for themselves and that that DOESN'T MEAN they don't love their partner.
>>43177402>>43177514Actually good answer... thank you
>>43177593You're welcome.
