>>43203129
step one is dont use ai pics for your thread

I thought it looked cute ._.

>>43203129
get a boyfriend

>>43203281
Already have but I'm not even out to him

>>43203129
life will go on with or without you and noone will care when you die repressed and miserable.
So there's no point in living your life like that if you're not doing it for anyone in particular, you already know who you want to be, and you know there are no consequences past year one uneasiness, do it.

>>43203302
>you know there are no consequences past year one uneasiness
elaborate if you may (I'm at just about a year)

>>43203286
you need a bf that knows you're trans. your current situation is holding you back, you could come out to him and see how it goes.

>>43203478
he's the first person in my life I can actually talk to, like ever, first relationship and am in my mid 20s.
losing him would be not good. I'm not in the mood for heartbreak.

>>43203286
How does he not know? Or are you just like 2 months in?

>>43203503
Desu he probably knows he calls me a woman sometimes, but idk if he'd be okay with it becoming a real thing

>>43203509
it's not fair to hold it back. if he loves you then he'll want you to be happy, not crushed by repression. I get it, being alone sucks but living in denial for the rest of your life is worse than temporary loneliness. work up the courage to talk about it.

>>43203524
If I lose him I'm gonna be all alone again I don't wanna go back there. It's like do I risk it all or do I accept a compromise.
Idk it feels kinda selfish to come out in a sense really, like I'd feel that am lying to a lot of people cause I socially trooned once, then socially detrooned, but stayed with the same people throughout.
If I come out I stand to lose everything including family who I've been getting along with better and my relationship.
I'm also unemployed so I'd be stuck at home, no support network, no job and a visibly hardcore minority member.
I don't think I could take that I think I'd have to go into sex work desu.

>>43203311
once you transition, and once you get over the anxieties of doing all that, appearing in front of people, being a girl and being in public, it's smooth sailing from there

>>43203550
please remember that I am cute, but I do not pass
Realistically people will think I'm a fruity guy with boobs which is kinda accurate, but not really any more helpful than manmoding if I wanna be seen as a woman.

>>43203561
>fruity guy with boobs
that's what a woman is tho

>>43203690
but will I ever see myself as something else than a fruity guy with boobs?

>>43203741
idk, it's a very personal thing. I don't buy into the woowoo that men and women are different species. femininity and masculinity are psychological traits, there are physiological differences, cultural norms, etc. if you have GD and treat it, work on lowering the barriers you built for yourself, you'll end up just being who you are, more comfortable in your own skin. I think hetero trans girls have an easier time with this.