Why would my GF repress poly urges for years? Any reason why any of you prefer the poly lifestyle? What do after figuring this out? ---------------------------------------
poly doesn’t actually exist it’s just as excuse to cheat, there no such thing as a poly urge she just want to cheat on you
>>43215898I repress mine because my boyfriend is monogamous and his boundaries are important to me. I prefer the poly lifestyle because people are dynamic, and tastes shift, I love my boyfriend but he will never make all of us satisfied, neither did any of my ex's. but nonetheless I want to make him happy and proud, so i'll do my best :3
>>43215898it happensdump, ghost and move on. unless you are poly too...
>>43215898it’s literally just sanctioned cheating. you dated long enough for her to want to cheat, she’s just sprucing up the terminology around it
>>43215898if my partner told me they are poly and want to have an """""""open relationship""""""" or multiple partners I would instandly break up and I suggest you to do the sameand I'm a tranner saying that
>>43215898If you had only ever had a monogamous relationship, had never discussed the possibility of opening things up, and had previously mutually agreed to having a monogamous relationship, then she is essentially saying she really wanted to cheat on you but didn't. But she definitely pushed the boundaries of what's acceptable already and is testing the waters of what you'd be willing to acceptTake this knowledge and do with it what you will
>>43215898she just wants to test you. you know the hint baiters. she wants you to CORRECT MOAR. HARDER. personal experience.
>>43216218>But she definitely pushed the boundaries of what's acceptable already and is testing the waters of what you'd be willing to acceptA long time ago I was pressured into agreeing to let the theyfab I was dating be poly. I was immediately invited into a group chat where she was going right up to the line of cheating with a bunch of 30+ year old rapehons who were telling her I was abusive and controlling for being monogamous. Less than an hour later she was sending them fresh nudes of her masturbating on a public toilet. It took me years to mentally recover.
If you don't mention your poly right at the start of a relationship you shouldn't try to open it up. Sever and move on
is there such thing as a poly person who isnt super manipulative and obsessed with sex?
What's wrong with repressing that? I've had romantic feelings for multiple people almost my whole life and just ignore it. As long as you aren't fucking anyone else or kissing them it's not any different from being sexually attracted to multiple people and choosing not to fuck them. The latter is accepted and expected, but not the former? It's fine if you want to pursue the ideal ethically non-monogamous relationship but it's not like sexual orientation where you can't just choose to conform to the social norm. I'm perfectly fine committing to a monogamous relationship. I don't feel repressed or oppressed or bitter or anything.
>>43216670yes. they just stay single usually
>>43215898she wants to practice advanced monkey branching>>43215917if you heard like>you don't satisfy my needsin a typical relationship you'd be heartbrokenevery poly relationship i've seen it's like they're a group of apathetic fwb's that barely tolerate eachother, like it's medium-long term competitive group dating which blows up once two or more people fixate on the same person(that or an abusive sex cult style situ where one person pulls the strings)
>>43215898I’m a swinger so I would’ve originally thought that it was about how hot group sex is, like swinging, but I’ve know “poly” people and they never have group sex, they just can’t commit to a single partner because of either low interest or narcissism, the ones I’ve known aren’t even especially kinky most of the time. It basically is just sanctioned cheating.>>43216670I don’t even think most of them are obsessed with sex, maybe amab polys are but the afabs still only fuck occasionally, it genuinely does always just seem like a commitment thing.>>43215913FPBP
I cannot respond to you all thanks to spam filters. Be more specific. This is mostly worry fuel in a thread. How about assisting with boundaries?
>>43215913I love my two wives and I don't desire to cheat on them with anyone else. There's a difference.>>43215898Did your GF talk to you about it ever?It sounds like she was not communicating honestly with you, or she's trying to see if you're comfortable with it now.The only thing you can do is talk to her about it, talk about what she actually feels and thinks. If you feel it's not going to work out better to know than try and make something she's not going to work at work.
>>43216793>>43216670>>43215949>>43215913>>43216781It sucks because I actually am Poly, but the well has been so poisoned by narcissistic psychopaths who use it to corral beta orbiters or be crazy toxic I don't use the term anymore. Now I just look for people with compersion fetishes.
>>43217775I will. It was new. I constructed a future nevermind a model of her based on monogamy to begin with. I was aware of her being sexually active online in the past for example. I was not aware that she wanted to take it to its maximum potential. I find it attractive when she is admired and adored but i dislike how it was discovered. I have to predict things almost before she can comfortably discuss them. I do not own her, but i did not know this until years and years later after numerous hardships and more convenient points. I now have to do my studying on the subject.Not saying more.
>>43217792nigga said compersion in 2026 with a straight face
>>43217792Compersion? Tell me more of what you know in regards to safe poly lifestyles.
>>43217792>compersion fetishesnigga that's just called a cuck fetish
Can anyone perhaps explain a simultaneous attraction to the concept, but a loss for what was once percieved?
>>43217893all these poly types try to niggerwoke up their terms “erm it’s not cheating it’s actually ethical non-monogamy with extended dynamic relation” fucking aids whores
