I have tried coming out as trans to my mom again a couple days ago after a long attempt to rep, and it went awful. She is pretty right about one thing. I dont quite understand what it means to be a girl. I was born male, raised male, and lived my whole life as a male. As a male through and through, theres no way I can ever really see the world through the eyes of a woman, nor can I understand what it truely means no matter how hard I may try. I should give up probably. I already have a window between november 2025 to january 2026 to kill myself. Of course no promises cause I cant seem to actually succeed in that.I will never expirience the half of humankind I was meant to be in
>>43241411Sex is chromosomal and gender doesn't exist as something separate. Transition because it will help you don't worry about trivialities, and please live life isn't as bleak as you currently feel
>>43241545why do you get to be the authority on what exists and doesnt exist
>>43241411go on hrt and immerse yourself in a social circle that treats you as a woman.none of us need to understand anything, all you need to know is that doing these things will make you happy.
>>43242035I cant get on hrt, diy or otherwise. If I do, I’ll have most of my things taken for 8 months at best, and at worst I’ll be kicked out the house. Im 18, so my parents can just do whatever. And honestly being homeless sounds like it kinda sucks
>>43242140grind as hard as you can to move out and remember that transitioning in your 20s isnt so bad, make that your goal.
>>43241411She's right: you will always be an imitation of a women. It's up to you if you want to pursue that anyways
>>43241950I'm not saying trans people's experiences are fake btw, just that it's pointless to care about being valid and sfuff
>>43241411well yeah trans culture is bullshit on that one thing. you cant actually be a woman, you will always be a trans woman. you might still kinda sound or look like a guy in some ways. but you might also be a lot happier. think of it more as a way to be more yourself and not to become another person and you'll be ok.
>>43241411You'll never be a woman like hope cis women are women. You'll always be a closer approximation. Trans people are really more of a third sex, neither men nor women.
>>43243200If society sees you as a woman, you are a woman. It's like if society sees you as a cop, you are a cop. We find some aspects of womanhood easier than ciswomen and some aspects harder.
>>43243314And how do you know when you get to that point?
>>43243326eventually people will call you ma'am and then you'll come back here and tell everyone that there's a nation-wide conspiracy in place to trick you into believing you pass so that they can embarrass you in public before calling you ugly and trying to convince you you'll never have a relationship
>>43243388I've consistently been gendered female since some months ago but I'm still afraid of being clocked
>>43241411read whipping girl, chapter 10.lived experiences are not universal, so no one can deny your gender based on their experiences of theirs.
>>43243465Nta but thanks
>>43241411Just do it the wrong way.
>>43241411It doesn't mean anything to be a girl. You can modify your body freely.
