I had hot t4t sex with a girl a few days ago and instead of being excited about how much I like this girl I'm just incredibly anxious about the whole thing. She's so incredibly attractive that I feel like I'm lucky she liked me enough to go out for coffee and let me fuck her, yet I can't shake the feeling I'm being overbearing. I want to try to give her space so as not to overload her but I've so frequently been fantasizing about having sex again and cuddling after that it's hard to focus on anything else.>inb4 "you had sex, of course she likes you back"I've had enough casual sex with people I wasn't all that into to know that's often not the case, at least with me anyways. And she hit me with a "I don't want to be in another relationship for a bit" and when I think too hard on that it kind of kills me.
>>43255712I'm sorry nona
>>43257533thanks for the words before the thread gets archived
>>43255712You want to be in a relationship with her but she doesn't want the same.Is that it?
>>43258445basically that and also that I've been overbearing and she'll lose interest because of that
>>43258501I think she's already told you how you feel. Now you are in the uncomfortable and downright painful position of falling out of love with her at the same time as you are falling in love with her.This is familiar to me.
>>43255712If you are who I think you are, I'm glad you're getting back out there, but it sounds like this has you shaken up. Don't hurt yourself going after her if she doesn't want the same thing as you. It'd make me sad to see you strung along like that
>>43258563Crazy how you probably know who I am, but I think I just need to try pacing myself here. I think I've just kind of realized I don't know if I can fall for anyone without getting obsessive and anxious. I just hope I can see again her soon.
>>43258662If I'm right, "hot t4t sex" may as well be your signature, I don't see it used often anywhere else. You can probably guess who I am, too, honestly. Who else obnoxiously inserts herself in your business all the time :pIf I'm wrong about who I assume you are, then disregard the previous statement as undiagnosed schizophrenia, but it's not like what I'm saying would change. What do you think gets you so anxious or obsessive? I imagine it's stressful to feel like you have to reign yourself in like that with someone
>>43258778>What do you think gets you so anxious or obsessive?The fact that I've lost people before, that when I find someone else I think "I don't want this person to leave my life" because of how many times it's happened before and left me with a fear of abandonment so strong that even the slightest hint of it makes me sad.
>>43258819That'a a straightforward answer. Do you think this girl will be acommodating of that? Obviously, it's something you'd have to work on, too, but is she going to give you an enviroment to do so? Do you think you could discuss that with her at all?
>>43258847>Do you think you could discuss that with her at all?I think it's a bit too soon for that given how I haven't even known her very long. I think my strat is to not let on how into her I am ig.
>>43259220You will fail. she will notice. If she's not down for it now, what will make her want to pursue a relationship with you in the future?
>>43259220DESU I get the same when beautiful women are into me or entertain me at all. I feel lucky to have them and feel like they'll realize I'm not all that and leave. I think you should be straightforward and say you're into her, but yk probably casually. Like if you're on a date again you can say you really like her and hope it goes somewhere and see what she says. Other responder is right that it will be obvious. Straightforwardness with casualty and ability to be rejected is respected imho. Best of luck.
>>43259220I didn't mean right away, you dork. I more meant "does she seem emotionally available enough for that discussion at all?" Just think about if you're setting yourself up for failure before you even start
>>43259343I get the feeling she would be. I've got a read on her that she's emotionally mature for it but I'd be too afraid to ask. >>43259258I'm just hoping that the more I get to know her the more I can form a bond with her and all that jazz. If nothing else, at least the sex is good.
>>43260765Well good, sounds like you picked a good one, then :)Even if you're afraid, you'll have to open up and comunicate eventually, it's the only way to have a healthy relationship. It should be less scary once you know better what's going on between you two and are closer. You know where to find me if you wanna talk more and if not then lol lmao, I'm delusional but still wish you luck
>>43258819>The fact that I've lost people before, that when I find someone else I think "I don't want this person to leave my life" because of how many times it's happened before and left me with a fear of abandonment so strong that even the slightest hint of it makes me sad.Similar background here, my inner pessimist just assumes I'll lose everyone else that I start to have a connection with. It has been true so far. I don't recommend that approach.
I like overbearing. That's my ideal to receive.
>>43262958I wish the people I were into were like that :(
>>43264082Then clearly you need yourself a mentally ill 4chan transbian because they're all like that
>>43255712Don't obsess over looks
