Is there ever a world where a polyamorous couple doesn't hurt each other when one person finds a partner they like better?Is there ever a world where a monogamous couple doesn't grow bored of each other?Is it just hurting all the way down?
>>43259438>Is there ever a world where a polyamorous couple doesn't hurt each other when one person finds a partner they like better?no. it's attractive for foids to not have/have had multiple partners to moidsit's attractive for moids to be desired by multiple foids but only pick her to foidsthe initial spark of a relationship fades, it's just biology, if you chase passionate love like in polyamory, you'll always get bored, but one or both people will be attached by that point and not want to go>Is there ever a world where a monogamous couple doesn't grow bored of each other?yes, but it's rare, and requires two people who are seriously compatible and willing to sit through hard times in their relationship, and be fine with a quieter shared mutual love, and not forsake that to chase passion this is rare because if the foid becomes emotionally dissatisfied they're more likely to cheat, and if the moid becomes emotionally dissatisfied they're more likely to cheatthis is why it's important to pay attention to your partner's needs, and for moids, find a virgin foid, and for foids, be willing to compromise slightly. companionate love is less exciting than passionate love and this is a hurdle to climbfurther reading:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passionate_and_companionate_lovehttps://incels.wiki/w/Just_be_first
I've done both. They can both work if the dynamic is right and the people involved don't have attachment issues (hard mode).
There's zero difference between polyamory and monogamy. In exactly the same way >>43259628 argues for monogamy, there are polyamorists who will mantain a sense of moral superiority, complete with academic citations, about how their way is healthier, more biologically correct, about how monogamists are stupid and cringe, whatever. The reality is that there's toxic people and behavior in both and in other non monogamous arrangements as well. The problem is not monogamy versus polyamory, and people who act like it is are typically trying to overcompensate for their own defects.
