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Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!

- prepare 1 load of laundry
- do 1 load of laundry
- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off
- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish
- eat a meal
- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes
- make your bed
- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)
- do the dishes for 3 minutes
- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)
- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)
- Open your window for 10-20 minutes
- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)
- take out the trash
- drink a glass of water
- put one item of trash in the bin
- reach out to an online contact
(perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)
- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)


Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:
IRC: presently defunct afaik.
Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2

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>>43193635
Overall this is a huge step in the right direction, Anon! Sorry to hear about your family of course.. it seems like you have contingencies, which is great! I really hope you make some friends who can help you figure things out. Laser, to my understanding, can wait until hormones in principle but it will do you a lot of good to do it asap. Afaik body hair will thin on E so it will get easier but there is no disadvantage to starting early.
>>43194168
Oh! Welcome back, Anon! I am happy to hear from you, it's been a while! I'm elated to hear my advice did you some good, and I wanna congratulate you for having reached a milestone in your transition since we last talked. I'm happy to be there, and it is always a special kinda joy to hear back from people.. thank you! The sensory deprivation stuff is really cool by the way, I rarely hear of it!
>>43199576
>it's very tiring to deal with.
My grandma almost called the cops because I didn't call her in 4 days, can you imagine?
>>43200902
>>43235445
I'm glad you took the time to think it through, Anon. Sorry for having been a bit slow with my replies.
>maybe if I have enough income I probably be let of the hook.
A good start, yes.
>I hope so within the current week.
Oh, that soon? That is awesome! So I take it you have the chance to become/already are financially independent and can move out? Just to make sure I got it right.
>Maybe I will gather some time to type shit out.
Please, take all the time you need.
>Doesn't exist in South East Asia and I don't live in thailand
Ah fuck. Yes that changes a fair bit, usually in countries of that sort there are some tightly knit LGBT communities for survival reasons alone. Unfortunately I have no contacts to forward to people. It's actually something I have been thinking of for a long while..
>Thanks even though it took me a lot of time to reply.
Hey, it takes two, I appreciate you responding to my giga late responses much the same!

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>>43204432
>Maybe I'll make plans to go to an in-person meetup or two just to get used to it again.
A good call I believe, absolutely.
>>43205431
Wanna talk about it a little?
>>43206277
>I should've done more with my full-time studies, somehow.
Hm, what did you do? If you passed your exams and got all the formal quals out of it that you could in a timely manner, I would say you did enough. Though I might be a little unfair towards them, too.
>It's usually out of desperation but I won't deny it happens out of spite too.
It's a bucket of crabs sorta thing. But I am very eager to sweep a lot of nuance under the rug here, too.
>>43210567
I know I am late to the party, but I would like to hear from you. Even if it went poorly, now is a good time to reexamine your approach for the future.
>>43211966
>time to lock in and vanish for a bit and hopefully be back with some progress!
All the best!

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>>43201015
Curry's looking good! Making leek and mushroom risotto today with my darling.
>Stimmy Sticks
Noted by the way, thank you!
>>43201920
What's up, Anon?
>>43202314
Wholeheartedly agreed, one of the core messages of /sig/ has always been "you are not alone".
>>43203649
Thanks for the update, Anon! You're one of the few data points I have for this stuff so this is very educational for me.
>>43203670
If you wanna ease your mind, all you need is some basic infosec. Of course you would still eventually be exposed towards people you grow sufficiently close to but those people earned your trust to get to that point, right? I would start with a clean separation of work and leisure. If you wish to do youtube stuff professionally, then you should have it tied to a dedicated e-mail. Your discord does not need to be tied to your real identity at all. Besides, browser-based discord supports multi-accounting, but is of course otherwise not a secure platform in any sense.
It's good you're working on your independence, hope things are progressing well.

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>>43214322
Don't worry about late responses, Anon! I will always read and reply eventually, anyway. I am going to feel second hand relief when this bullcrap is finally over for you. It sounds like you were grossly mismanaged.
>I wish I had friends to see.
We're working on that right now, aren't we?
>Lots of little things like that in my life.
>This week I did send my resume to my friend who forwarded it to his boss.
Wishing you all the best on that front, Anon! Do keep me posted.
>Never. I just avoid them. So, I guess you're right.
Always remember that we as people almost never really judge ourselves in a way that is in any way consistent with how we judge others. Right now your insecurities make you project a very hostile internal monologue onto others. Other times you will judge yourself harshly for a perceived shortcoming you wouldn't even notice in anybody else.
>There are times when that happens. Especially when a conversation just bounces around in directions that are not as fun for me. On the other hand, there have been groups where numbers make a conversation sprightly and it's easy to let loose.
Oh, that is a useful thing to keep in mind. Primarily, if you wanna get better with social interactions and get closer to people? My #1 recommendation is to set the stage. I socialize well when I invite people for cooking, or have a coffee wit them, stuff like that. Doing things that I find comforting, setting up things to not be distracted/overstimulated etc..
As for eccentricity: You can imagine someone who maintains a self help general on a mongolian basket weaving forum to be a bit of an eccentric in his own right. Of course a lot of people wouldn't vibe with me, I made my peace with that much. But one thing that will do you well, that did me well, is to not think of awkwardness as a quality. It isn't. Awkwardness is simply a mood. And not always a shared one. It is something you can rig in your favor.

the night is young, don’t give out yet, bump

>>43265711
>You're one of the few data points I have for this stuff so this is very educational for me.
I'll get back on it on friday and see how I fare
Some of the stuff I'm reading recommends only taking it 2 or 3 times a week

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Still trying to arrange FFS, I don't know why surgeons don't have like good office staff who can at least reply to me. It's been a month since first consult and I just can't seem to push things through to getting a surgery date no matter how hard I try.
It's kind of idk, ironically sad that I'm the lowest paid engineer in the factory (which I knew signing on for the job anyway because I took it as a graduate level job) because it puts me economically more in line with a lot of our production staff than the other engineers. Even sadder that one of the other engineers (the main one I work with) seems to think I constantly need ego checking or having my competence questioning because I have a degree and actually read manuals.
>>43260061
>Oh, which one?
Pokemon Go : P, free excuse to go walk about because my poor Luxio has been waiting for me to walk enough to evolve it for like 3+ years ;-;
>The average person has no understanding of anything MH so any information at all will just be scary and unfamiliar to them.
Yea I mean I don't apply it to regular employers, just the particular one I'm trying to clear through it all for (MOD)
>wouldn't you still be in a deficit with 1600kcal?
Tried it before but it just never seems to achieve much, I don't really understand why because logically it should but alas. I tend to bounce between 1200-1500 anyway when I'm dieting.
Talked to my co-workers about rent and yeah it's p/much the same system all around.
>43193635
Hopefully it's gone/goes well nona. Idk what sigs answer to the wig question is but personally I avoid them irl because I'd be perpetually paranoid about if it looks natural enough and good ones are kinda pricy.~
With regards to laser, it depends if you'd ever be attached to having facial hair, personally I would start it asap (go to a good laser clinic, make sure it's not an IPL, the laser should be able to actually burn your face pretty much).
Restrooms my best advice is use the one you pass as.

Wasted 4+ hours trying to deradicalise a terf award!.
>>43267151
Oh my god
>>43193635
Please.

I have no idea how to set goals that aren't things like multi-billionaire, beautiful, world famous and smart. Anything else just feels that awful to me.

>>43265640
>>>not without having a place where you are unbothered at the very least.
>>I hope so within the current week.
>Oh, that soon? That is awesome! So I take it you have the chance to become/already are financially independent and can move out? Just to make sure I got it right.
Nope, it's just that my parents relented and allowed me to live separate but still in their neighborhood
>usually in countries of that sort there are some tightly knit LGBT communities for survival reasons alone.
yeah there are but they're not as useful as you've imagined. most of LGBT are underprivileged so most of us only can give mental support and I just, can't, take that kind of support anymore.

bump

After 5 days I finally mustered the will to shower. Even tho I already wanted to off myself from how bad it felt like 2 days ago. It didn't used to be so hard.

morning sig bump

ive never posted in this gen before, i guess ill start now with this

I feel like shit.

im fucked if i dont find psychiatrist for my stupid army shit in like 2 weeks
FUCK THIS COUNTRY UGH

I've been venting to Claude because I have no self respect and it said I could text all my gut spilling to 988 even if I don't actively want to kill myself?? Is this true?

I'll be replying to posts from the previous thread as soon as possible, most likely tomorrow though but I will try my best.

Despite my lack of sleep and the state of things, I am hopeful and dedicated to making things better.
I can handle things, I can move forward.

I'm gonna go make some food and then try to get into bed as soon as possible.

Best of luck, all.

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"Life swings like a pendulum backward and forward between pain and boredom."

life has been alright. i will be alright. even if i'm lonely rn it'll get better <3

>>43267162
>Wasted 4+ hours trying to deradicalise a terf award!.
I've given up arguing with ppl, I just call them a slur and move on.

>>43270328
Anything in particular going on?

Still fighting my depression, doing the bare minimum to not lose my job and take care of myself. Some decent news though, I got into a post-master's graduate certificate program at Johns Hopkins. Not sure if I'm going to accept the offer or not, because it's expensive.

I wish I was good looking.
I know it's vain and shitty but I want it.
I want a reason to be liked and appreciated.

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>>43274235
I can relate. But the way you feel doesn’t have to be vanity. A lot of people have their self-esteem, their very sense of self worth, tied up in how they feel about their appearance. And there’s a lot of stuff out in the world, like advertising, that’s trying to make us all insecure about our bodies because it’s good for business. It’s not just a problem that randomly comes up for some people on its own. A lot of effort and money is being spent on giving as many people body dysmorphia as possible.

Change what you can change about how you look. Figure out what you want. Go after it. And when you’re done, remember we’re capable of doing more with our time on this Earth than trying to look hot and creating shareholder value for the beauty industry.

Anyway, I hope somebody finds that helpful.

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Also, last night I finished reading my fourth graphic novel of the month, started reading number five today. This is my 13th consecutive day of reading something from my graphic novel hoard. I also prepared a batch of breakfast burritos today, and made strawberry sandos last night.

Lot of good things getting done lately.

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I am a man and thats ok!

How safe is it for me to get diagnosed for a developmental condition?

For the record, I am also a very flawed person but I also feel and observe there's something odd with me.

I'm tired.

>>43270951
>I can handle things, I can move forward
Remember to not burn yourself out nonny.

Hope you had a good rest!

>>43275599
So long as you want to be and are happy that way, there is nothing wrong with it. Men are nice.

Good night

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How the fuck do I quit smoking weed? I literally can't help but want to be stoned all day every day. Anyone have any tips? I don't want to quit drinking, cause it's not the same problem that weed is for me.