My boyfriend is a femboy and wants me to also become a femboy because even though I constantly tell him he is cute and adorable he sees me as "more pretty", which I find even more adorable even despite the fact that I am very comfortable in my current identity as a regular gay dude that's in general into most kinds of men; nowhere close to overtly gay or something. I imagine most people would see me as a regular somewhat androgynous dude outside of my eyelashes and also don't want to propagate further the homophobic views on what a gay dude must be like.The issue is that I don't want to BE a femboy, I find it cute on him simply because it's him, I don't like compromising where I am most comfortable at just to conform to some stereotype yet he keeps pushing this.I see myself as a typical dude outside of my interest in men, and want him to respect that but he kept pressuring me and even started bringing up chastity cages?? We left on a bad note last night and I want some advice on how to go about this? I genuinely want to drop this convo entirely but I can tell once we talk again he'll likely immediately bring it up.
femboys are predatory. he doesnt want you for who you are but how he can see you fitting into his fetish. good luck with breaking it off
>>43365470ugh, what i want is a regular gay relationship where we grow old together and live happily as an equal standing couple, without any of the heteronormative bullshit, why is it this hard...I don't want to break up with him, i really do love him a lot and I am the type of person who loses interest in everyone else entirely when I am in a relationship; I really want this to work and just have him respect my own identity as I respect his...
I genuinely want to rant on how fucking bullshit everything is in the gay community now, like my utter tard of an ex only ever liking me because he thought I was some "twink" and seemed visually repulsed when I talked about wanting to grow a beard when I'm older, or working out, or even just the idea of switching positions. What the fuck, did he think I'll never grow old or something? Or did he just plan on leaving me when I did, I'll never know and I'm certainly glad I didn't actually fuck the loser or that would have been such a burden over my head.I just desperately want love, I honestly like men who act like my straight friends the most, not conform to terms that literally derive from porn
Not that I don't like those who do consider that as part of their identity, but at least respect mine as I respect yours right? Not seeing me as some goddamn fucking sex fantasy you can fuck and dump when you get scared of how I'll grow up
I'm genuinely so tired and scared, I don't want this to end, he genuinely felt like the one this time where we were connecting on everything; why is it always like this? what about my feelings, my love for you, why is it that when I don't consent to a specific thing I'm suddenly the one in the wrong, too horrible to just take estrogen or something?
not to disrespect trans women on here, it just feels like every single time people are always wanting me to go on that direction or expect me to never grow old at all, what the fuck am i genuinely supposed to do anymore? im so so done it makes me want to cry to think about
wow
If you're legitimately that neurotic then maybe you should transition after all, not even cis women reach this level
>>43365584>ugh, what i want is a regular gay relationship where we grow old together and live happily as an equal standing couple, without any of the heteronormative bullshit, why is it this hard... As a straight man, I want this too. It's hard because "hereronormative bullshit" is just misandry by another name. Your femboy bf wants you to be feminine so you can by girls together, because being a man is just ugly I guess.>I don't want to break up with him, i really do love him a lot and I am the type of person who loses interest in everyone else entirely when I am in a relationship; I really want this to work and just have him respect my own identity as I respect his...Not gonna happen, unless you find another man who doesn't hate masculinity and when men aren't masculine in the exact same way as a 60s man. You're always going to look like a failed man to "him" until you either become a psychopath rapist with rippling muscles or become a woman. Until then, you will have to deal with "heteronormative bullshit" since gay men provoke a sense of cognitive dissonence from all sides of the political spectrum. On the left, all the things feminists attack men for is stopped if you're gay, as gays are the exception. Homophobia and misandry refer to roughly the same thing, except for the necessary sexual attraction involved for the definition of homophobia. One of the first insults you receive from feminists you disagree if you're a chud like me is they will call you a fag or say you're not masculine or can't get women or don't want women. It's the same insults as the conservatives.If we take patriarchy to mean only a system where the few people who are in charge happen to be men, then we live in a gynocratic patriarchy. Women are favored over men as commanded by the exceptional few men. Being gay puts a huge wrench into this social structure and is why I'll always be in favor of pushing homosexuality. Eventually it will turn into men getting treated better.
least fembrained gay man
Don't worry about it babe
I calmed down now, just kind of off due to being delayed on SSRIs for 4 days now.Can't tell if these replies are jokes or not though...
Put on the panties and cage
