Had a dream where I was in a friend group of trans women and they were excited to hear I might be transitioning and were asking me questions about it. It felt really nice but then once I started talking I noticed my grandma was there too and I immediately backpedaled like crazy and it made me pick up drinking again. Is this one of those intrusive thought dreams? I've done enough soul searching and gotten enough opinions to find out I'm not actually trans.
>>43379318are you a boy? do you want to be a girl?
how old are u op? if you're young and cute you should definitely troon and me and the other transbians can run a train on u. would u like that?
>>43379382Sure being a woman would be cool but why do that when being a man is cool too?>>43379415I'm early 20s but get mistaken as a high schooler a decent amount. I want to be self sufficient IF I was transitioning so no help from them, I just want to feel less crazy and possibly romantically desired for possibly being this way.
>>43379475trying to transition 'self sufficiently' is very silly. transitioning upends ur entire life and makes u insane. u need a support system. and us transbians would be happy to provide that if you let us slut u out :P
>>43379545Chaser hands typed this post but I would find a lot of comfort in that. But it's just some incel fantasy, none of them would want me. I'm still too malebrained.
>>43379609i am a real life transbian i'm just being a little silly.but for real tho: you dont need to worry about being rejected by ur fellow trans women. the only ones who would call u malebrained are the degens who hang out on here, and they don't go outside or have any relevance in trans communities irl. if anything, the trans girls u meet will be *overly* positive and hugboxx u a little, because they want to be supportive
>>43379664That would worry me too, I've been around those types and they validate fat 40 year old balding men with 5 o'clock shadow in dresses, where do you even know where you stand in that type of situation if there's no standards.
>>43379710you just have to figure out who to trust and develop your own sense of judgment on italso: i see your problem: you are honphobichonphobia will hold you back from transitionsing. stop being a malebrained rightwinger. women are trans accepting and they have compassion and empathy for everyone, even nonpassing trans women.if you cant lose the honphobia, you will never get the transbian friend group. in fact, you will keep repressing forever until you cant take it anymore and are left with the option of becoming one of the boomerhons u are so disgusted by, or becoming an hero
>>43379769I'm getting on hrt regardless so I don't need to worry about becoming a boomerhon but I'm gonna push back on that. No one is genuinely compassionate or empathetic towards us other than other trans individuals. It's all a performance for social clout. No one actually believes who we say we are.
>>43379838eh. i dont wanna tell u ur wrong, bc obviously all cis people are to a degree transphobic. but i have a lot of cis women who have been incredibly supportive, i wouldnt have been able to manage my transition without them. so idk. it's fair to be careful, but don't shut yourself out of opportunities for it
>>43379886Transitioning is shutting yourself out of many opportunities already, I don't think I should shut myself out from the world just so I can be overindulgent
>>43380085again, this is internalized transphobia. transitioning is not 'indulgence', it is just the recommended treament for gender dysphoria. its nothing to be ashamed of (or to judge others for) (yes, even the ones you think are ugly or faketrans)
>>43380117I am fake trans though. I've hated how I've looked since childhood but ive never had a problem with socially being a boy, being a girl just seems like a neat pipe dream to me. That's why I'm only getting on hrt. So for me personally, it feels like an indulgence.
>>43380276that's exactly how it was for me too but after just a little taste of being a girl socially it became clear that i'm not faketrans. so you don't really have proof u aren't trans yet. you are going off of the old HBS model which has been outdated for yrs,. it is very common for dysphoria to be less intense and/or prresent later, that doesnt prove shit
