My puberty was relatively delayed but I managed to get on hormone blockers before it really did anything to me. But I can't help but feel guilty about it, I've never gotten misgendered (with exception of people who knew me pre transition struggling to adapt), never went through significant trauma, never had to deal with adversity to being trans, was born into an extremely woke and supportive family in a country where trans people are not nearly as hated, get unwanted attention from men (I'm a lesbian), I have no problems affording hormones or any possible surgeries that i might or might not want in the future, etc... But I talk to a lot of trans women and they are in so much worse of a position than me in pretty much every way, and on 90% of the cases they are dealing with it on their own. I want to help them so bad but other than offering money, which they reject 90% of the time, I really have no advice or comforting words to offer them other than "it will pass, you'll forget this even happened before you know it". It breaks my heart to see so many people suffering while I'm sitting on a metaphorical ivory throne completely detached and sheltered from all those issues, I almost wish something bad like that could happen to me so I could share their struggle but really I just feel fake, like I'm somehow dragging people and the movement as a whole down by not struggling enough
>>43379929i dont think u should interact with trans people that much, seriously. people like u and trans people who struggle and are less fortunate may as well be considered completely different groups. live ur life as if u were normal, bc u pretty much are on a social level
>>43379929that's very sweet of u nona, but you're being silly. you know it's not ur fault they went thru that. some of them will be bitter and jealous (moreso on here than irl) but they are being silly too.just keep being there for ppl. that's ll u can do.
>>43379992agree with this post. there is nothing u or anyone can say, or do. from my position u might as well have been born female (no it's obv not the same, but the difference is almost as vast). as one of the less fortunate, i've accepted i won't stopsuffering until i die. live ur own, full life apart from us and be happy. thats what id want u to do at least nona
>>43379929well don't post about it here otherwise I wouldn't have known :p
survivor's guilt
>>43380032me again, also dont listen to the bitter ppl in here. if u want to be with the trans community then please go for it. you aren't hurting us just bc u got lucky.hell, *i* get paranoid about how much luckier i am than other trannies, and i trooned at 24 and am clocky. it's an illogical worry
>>43379929Send me some money
>>43380082yeah this hahaha
>>43379929the fact that u post let a lone be on /tttt/ already means that u arent just a cis girl that happens to be trans. feeling overwhelming solidarity with trans folk is part of the trans experience. dont feel alienated sis.
>>43379929I would accept help with losing weight and my wardrobeI am so autistic its hard for me to do shit on my own when it comes time to find clothes I just find nothing. My brain short circuits. Ive read advice so many times and it doesnt stick. Pinterest and stuff usually doesnt help because its the kind of fashion that works on cis women not me
>>43379929yeah you should feel bad. fuck you and all youngshits
>>43379929I feel similarly. I'm a young transitioner and I'm very privileged to be as fortunate as I have been in many areas. I try to pay it forward where I can. It breaks my heart to know how many people have it worse than me. </3
>>43380326i hate you people
>>43380080>you aren't hurting us just bc u got lucky.hanging out in trans spaces as a gigaluckshit passoid is akin to a billionaire doing slum tourism
>>43380472I'm sorry you feel that way. It's not like I did it intentionally. :(
>>43379929I really want to hate you but I just can't. Live your life and be happy, you deserve it
>>43380524yet here you are bragging about how much better you have it than all of us hons
>>43380517yeah but she's literally a transbian. trans community is her natural environment.
>>43380566Acknowledging my privilege isn't bragging. I'd rather be self-aware than a meanshit passoid.
>>43380790genuinely just dont go on here girl. go hang out with the sneeds on twitter they wont act like this
>>43380790it basically is, just go and be a cissoid
>>43380802>>43380809I have irl friends (trans and cis), but I still enjoy the company of the board. I know you'll say that I'm not welcome here, and maybe I'm not, but no one here deserves to be miserable. <3
>>43381049hons will always be miserable
>>43381063not true lol, this is more cope. i know many hons who are happy and healthy and have lots of love in their lives
>>43381049ur welcome here, there's just not much here for u. i dont hate u but i have the sort of deep envy abt what ur life must be, such that there isnt much to talk abt. and i think its probably the same for a lot of ppl here. no one deserves to suffer but the world isnt kind or just in the dispensation of suffering so here we are. i personally come here to commiserate in that, to cry, to try and work on accepting that truly there's nothing i can do. u don't have that burden, go to other places not so tinged with misery, enjoy yourself and your life
>>43381101they might say they're happy but deep down they're bitter and full of hatred for passoids
>>43381139not true lol. you are now retreating to "erm actually my worldview is right and everybody knows it but they are keeping it a secret"the reality is: you have just been brainwashed into transphobia by this board. you must learn to love the hon or YOU will be seething over passoids for the rest of ur life.
>>43381180i am right. passoids are hell to be around
>>43379929thanks op :)don't know why people are being so mean
>>43379929Same here. Direct money/help/support/advertising is best when you’re able to give it, but you can also donate money or volunteer with orgs, and contact legislators. Just don’t ever give enough of yourself to put you in a bad place.
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>>43381116I'm here because I want to be. We all struggle in our own ways — life hasn't been all sunshine and rainbows for me either. The universe is indifferent to our suffering, but that doesn't mean we have to be. Better is always possible. <3
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>>43379929It is really assuring to see someone like you say this.I'm happy for you, and I hope you know you don't need to feel guilty just because other people go through something you were spared from. It is in fact, a good thing that you were spared.
>>43381923AI can pry my em dashes from my cold, dead hands.
>>43381893i apologize nona, i didn't mean to sound like i was discrediting any hardship or pain u experience or have in the past. ik it's a universal part of the human experience and all...i can only speak for myself, and the conclusions i've reached after trying to make better possible for a while. ig i cant rlly understand ur perspective, and its fair enough for u to do as u wish
>>43382054You seem kind and empathetic, which goes a long way in being happy. I'm sure you're doing better than you think. And for what it's worth, I didn't feel like you were minimizing my experiences at all.
>>43379929you are a cis woman at this point and you should live your life as such. i'm really happy to hear you managed to avoid tranny hell but i dont think theres anything you can do for us
>>43379929From your replies its clear you're a really genuine person who just wants to help, and no matter what anyone says you are part of the trans community too. I'm sure you don't need advice on being a good person and supporting those around you, you'll be fine. At my lowest moments in transition I would avoided cis women and passoids because the contrast between us was too painful to deal with, and I would have avoided you too. Sometimes even if you have the right advice the person needs to hear it from someone else. Not your fault.Its heartwarming to hear someone live a life like this. Maybe everyone can, in the future. Happy for you.
>>43383038>Sometimes even if you have the right advice the person needs to hear it from someone else.I struggle with this too. I genuinely want to serve as a positive example for trans people and cis people alike, but my experiences are atypical even for a trans person that I question if I'm truly accurate representation.
>>43379929I'm just happy for you, you deserve your good life
