>be me>mtf passing? idk >work in pretty cushy office job>HIGH STRESS (socially)>most of the women dont really get as dressy as i do>its a majority older women, the ones my age do (its a seniority thing?)>one of the senior level women is my mentor>about my moms age so not "old" old>she always makes comments on how i do things>im "too clean" because i keep wipes or bandaids at my desk>sanatize hands all the time (ocd)>keep my compact out in the morning to fix my eyelashes before the day starts>stupid stuff>im a little slow with learning sometimes>we talk a lot shes nice takes me under her wing>tell her about my previous jobs>used to being in a warehouse/food service setting>visibly shocked >tell her i do yard work with my dad etc >same reaction>one day shes asking about my nails >there about 1 in long acrylics>"i could never function">blah blah same stupid thing ive heard a million times>say the same thing i always do "you get used to it" >she starts not letting me do stuff now around the office that involves my hands too much>printer jam>"i dont want you to break a nail">heavy file box>"i dont want you to break a nail">anything gross>"i dont want you to break a nail"i cant tell if she hates me, likes me, or its a mix depending on the day but im not the type to cry over a chipped nail. ive literally learned how to fix most things with no issue so little stuff like that never bothers me. im usually the one helping piece her back together. ive never worked in a huge company like this so i have no clue if im being picked on for being a tranny or just genuinely being treated delicately for some reason. for ref im 5'9 so its not like im some little thing either. shes a tiny bit taller than me but i doubt that awould matter
Everyone at my office job dresses kinda boring and acts kinda boring
>>43381070sounds like she is acting protective and doesn’t want you to do the 'dirty work' HOWEVER it depends in her tone. How does she say it? Does it sound like derogatory? Either way, boomers are always annoying, just try not to get too mad about them. You can never change them, only cope with their antics
>>43381262ive been doing my best desu shes going through a divorce currently so you can only imagine the craziness. she says it in kind of an annoyed way. like im the problem and to just let her do it. i usually just try to back off. there are times where its obvious im really right about doing something and obviously i try not to rub it in her face because 1 its mean and 2 would probably make my work life 1000% worse but i try to just appear oblivious to it so she doesnt think im trying to be intentionally mean or a smartass. i really dont understand how to socialize with women very well and she makes comments a lot about how quiet i am and how its always the quiet ones you have to watch for. (my desk looks like agp threw up all over it if im being disgustingly honest) im just quiet because im too scared of saying the wrong thing and i dont want to piss anyone off or lose my job in this god awful economy. its hard when that relies heavily on her opinion of me
>>43381391Maybe she wants you to stand up for yourself and talk back? Or maybe you should do that in general. Look, I don’t wanna give bad advice but maybe she wouldn't like, talk down on you and belittle you like that if you talked back once? Within reason of course. Especially if it’s about doing something like carrying a box maybe just go "No I insist. I can do it, but thank you for offering." Just what I think, but I have the opposite problem of not wanting to rely on others so take my opinion with a grain of salt girlie. You got this <3and if you just wanna vent I'll listen
