Especially if you're non passing. Most mental health advice talks about how loving yourself is important but it feels like it's impossible to trannies. If you don't pass, you have to either conform to your AGAB and feel like killing yourself 24/7 or be a hon and treated as lesser by everyone which makes you feel like killing yourself 24/7.And if you somehow manage to be stealth (really big if, considering 95% of trannies don't pass), you'll have to hide the fact you're trans from everybody, which will 100% be detrimental to yourself.
>>43382242You’re looking at it upside down. You dont hate yourself because youre trans, youre trans because you hate yourself. Trooning is essentially a living suicide, a way to negate the pain of being yourself by creating a character who is an inversion of you. In many cases, the strategy fails because the person cannot actually buy their own character, even if those around them play along, they know it is falseIt possible for the very small % of people who can actually delude themselves into believing theyve become a woman, but they are not to be envied any more than you envy someone who has a mansion in their dreams.
Not only is it possible, but it's *necessary* in order to be truly content with yourself. One must imagine Sissyphus happy.Passing just means I'm selective about who I tell.
>>43382242it's possible to love urself, by killing urself and stopping the pain t. neverpasser
>>43382423I get it's necessary, but how?
>>43382242it is incredibly easy once you drop the stupid chud beliefs you got from this board. i know lots of nonpassing trans women who are happy. the main thing is that, unlike you, they arent viscerally disgusted by nonpassing trans womenyou should work on urself and try to stop being a chud (its a male trait anyway) and u will feel a lot better
>>43382486By acknowledging that your experiences, for better or worse, have shaped you into the person you are today. And learning to love that person. Maybe you're still a work in progress, but you're closer to who you want to be than you ever were before.I've come to appreciate and even love the self-awareness and perspective that being trans has given me. I wouldn't be me without it.
>>43382498>once you drop the stupid chud beliefs you got from this boardOk how do I do that then smartass
>>43382418>>43382433How do I muster up the courage to kill myself? I've wanted to but I don't want anyone to miss me.
>>43382661hmmmm good question. it's a process. i still have some residual brainwormsa big one tho: just stop posting here! go hang out in sneed communities. absorb the hugboxx, believe the hugboxx. its called manifesting
>>43382498How???? I get that the chuddy beliefs are not doing myself a favor, but I can't see how dropping them could be beneficial. I live in a third world country as a non passing tranny, I can't simply hon out or else I'll be murdered or pushed into homelessness.>>43382584Starbucks white girl coded. Incredibly fembrained but I can't see how this is helpful. The person I have been shaped into is the most disgusting thing to grace the earth, I hate myself for allowing me to be like this
>>43382689You don't. You channel that fear into determination not just to survive, but to thrive. You are loved and your absence would leave a bigger hole than you even know.
>>43382689idk im on like the third round of trying to do that and now have more people that itll hurt than ever. im just kind of feeling fed up and selfish enough to do it this year, and my bf breaking up with me has helped (not trying to do a bpd thing to him, i feel guilty and want him to be ok, but i think he'll move on to better places and people and i rlly just want to stop feeling atp). im trying to make sure i follow through by making it part of a journey that i find interesting and worthwhile, both to plan and then actually do, on its own merits. i dont rlly endorse this kind of thing for anyone else though, just for myself. i hope u any anyone else reading this dont do the same <3
>>43382780The worst thing you can do with self-hatred is wallow in it. Some things we have to learn how to live with, but our stories aren't written for us. Take up the pen and write it for yourself
>>43382242imo no, the world is transphobic at its core and appearance means everythinglike how you magically can't be happy if you're depressed, you need to fix the circumstances around it instead, same with being trans but we have less control over those circumstancesi don't think many people love themselves in this world anyways, it's not built for that>>43382689you need crushing long term depression coupled with an emotionally overloading event, you truly don't realize what it takes to be there until you're there
>>43382689Nothing courageous about it. Enduring the difficulties of life for the sake of your loved ones is courageous. Accepting youre a man when you wish you werent is courageous. You suffer because of a lack of courage. If you want to kill yourself dont believe for a second theres anything good, brave or selfless about it. Your trooning is already a suicidal impulse because youre too afraid to live, killing yourself is just giving up on courage altogether.
>>43382242it was funny when it was revealed this guy is a gay bottom
>>43383089There's nothing courageous about repping. It takes more courage to be your true, authentic self even when the world beats you down.Transitioning is an act of self-love, not a suicidal impulse.
>>43383246Your true authentic self is the man you hate yourself for being. The real courage is to become a man you could admire, and it is infinitely easier than becoming a woman because that is impossible. You cannot repress yourself from something you are incapable of doing. No one else can repress you from doing it either. Reality itself constrains you from womanhood. Its like claiming youre repping from growing wings and flying off into space, its absurd. Of course, the allure of the absurd to someone who has failed so decidedly at reality is obvious.
Passing is a myth.But its a worthless myth that doesn't matter. Having a personality that isnt dogshit (and being attractive in some way) are more important than passing, femininity, peoples professed abstraction of sexuality etc. A handsome man can convert straight men. A man in a dress can fuck bored lesbians. Most peoples issues here are autism, schizotypal, ocd etc. Self love and realism are a rare commodity in this world when not coupled with delusion. Most people here don't need self love. They need more social experience and less egotism because they assume strangers care about them or that the most important things in life arent a high paying job and your health.
>>43383352you're not actually even a repper a repper knows their true self is feminine. so by letting go of the masculine act, there is no performance being feminine. you are stealing the valor of true reppers.
>>43383352The cope is strong with this one. I know it's not impossible because I did it. If my experiences are "failing at reality" then life must be pretty good then. Your life could be too if you stopped repping.>t. 7 years hrt
>>43383383trvke
>>43383393No one is “repping” any more than you have become a woman. Youre a man prerending to be a woman, someone else is just a man not pretending to be a woman. Insofar as the difference is literally pretend, there is ostensibly no difference. >>43383418Try to image how toothless the accusation of a cope is coming from someone who pretends to be a woman because he’ll kill himself if he doesnt. Post a selfie.
>>43383383I agree with most of this, but I think putting yourself out there socially comes with self-love. There's an overwhelming amount of self-hatred on this board and it makes me sad to see.
>>43383479Your accusations are toothless to me. If I did post a selfie, would you accept that it's possible to be genuinely happy? Or would you just end up hating yourself even more?
>>43383572I suspect i would be too busy laughing at your selfie to do much else.
>>43383599No matter what I post, it wouldn't make you any less miserable. I truly hope you find happiness. <3
>>43383640> im ugly and dont look remotely like a womanConfirmed.
>>43383697Your attempts to bait me are pathetic. I'm not gonna end up in your goon/gender envy folder.
>>43383722 Consider the level of self hatred you have that you attempt to insult me by inferring i would jerk off to someone as ugly as you. Youre a sick man.
>>43383745I don't care what you think. Whatever I am, it's still better than being you.
>>43383873Its actually much the same as being me, as we’re both men.
>>43383383>>43382833How do I get to that point where I can fix (or at least remediate) my issues? I've been living my entire life through autopilot and disassociation, I've just been doing whatever people said I was supposed to do, doing the things I was told I was supposed to do. Transitioning has been the only thing that I'm doing for myself, and even then I'm just, once again, being told what I'm supposed to do in my transition.
>>43384070In my experience, it came from building up my self-awareness and self-actualizing. Having friends and/or family you can talk to or seeing a therapist helps, but ultimately *you* have to decide what's important to you and what you want out of your life
>>43383418Can I still be happy as a tranny even if I know im immutably a biological male doing retard shit to fix self image problems or do I have to keep myself in perpetual psychosis thinking that I can become a woman
>>43384323I'm not a biological male and neither are you. Take estrogen for long enough and the lines begin to blur.
>>43384373There's no point in arguing the meaning of biological male with chuds because they'll just change the definition to mean whatever it needs to be to invalidate your existence. You're definitely still a biological male though for as long as you still have a penis.
