>ftm bf asked me if I thought he was masculine >was honest and told him that he wasn't very masculine but that's okay>he got upset and started crying>mfwIs this what it means to get "the ick"? I think this is the first time for me...
>>43384048Fembrained.
>>43384048This is like someone's girlfriend asking would you still love me if I was a worm
Incredibly fembrained, break up with him so he can feel some emotional turmoil and get enlightened.
>>43384048you mindpass as female (derogatory)
>>43384048I don't want to be mean, but like, what are you supposed to do when he doesn't have a penis? Do t4t couples just end up being MtF penis going in FtM pussy? Like, what is the appeal? Why would you be okay with doing that while still calling yourself a woman? Also, what would a post-op MtF do in this scenario? I don't see what the appeal of sex with him would be if your pussy wasn't even going to get filled any.
>>43384482all post op trannies are asexual
>>43384482Fingers are pretty good. Some use toys, though I personally wouldn't as I would just feel like a lesbian. If you're a luckshit with bottom growth you can get metoidioplasty and penetrate, though it wouldn't really get that deep. I will not mention phallo because it's kind of gross and useless.
>>43384482every irl st4t relationship I've seen is just transbians larping as bi to manipulate autistic women to get pink breedable pussy and then acting like victims when they saw the person who they wanted to impregnate saw them as a man
>>43384048to break it gently to an FtM it's better to say "you're kind of a faggot" than "you're not very masculine" because then being emasculated is still associated with being a man
>>43384048Cis straight man here.>ftm bf asked me if I thought he was masculine >was honest and told him that he wasn't very masculine but that's okayYou didn't get it. No wonder he got upset.Allow me to explain: your bf didn't actually want to know your honest opinion on his masculinity. He was INDIRECTLY asking you if you found him hot/really attractive.He was feeling insecure and needed your reassurance about that. You fucked up by answering him honestly instead of dispelling that insecurity (and thus reinforcing his masculinity in this case).If this were a cis straight relationship the question would be something like "Do you think I'm fat?" or "Would you still love me if I went bald?".This kind of event is rather unavoidable when the person you're dating is insecure about their standing with you.The bottom line is, if you find yourself being asked this kind of question it's better to answer in a way that reassures the other person their insecurity is unfounded.And some time later, IF what they're insecure about is actually bothering you or turning you off, try to NUDGE THEM towards a direction that fixes or improve the issue.You can't always answer with 100% honesty and straightforwardness in a relationship.>Is this what it means to get "the ick"?You getting turned off is understandable since your boyfriend's reaction wasn't very masculine (men rarely cry, and usually only when really bad things happens), but I hope you now understand your misunderstanding of the situation had something to do with it.Tl;dr: Don't shoot your relationship in the foot. Understand that communication isn't always direct, and that brutal honesty is better reserved for close friends rather than a romantic partner.
>>43384058ever heard guys say the same stupid spaghetti shit?>do you think I'm pretty?>"i wouldn't consider you pretty in like the traditional sense, you're more homely looking... BUT like in a cute way which i really like!">...
>>43385732P.S. In case OP also didn't get this:Your boyfriend cried because he was obviously very emotionally invested in you finding him attractive.I recommend you try to initiate sex/have make up sex with him to dispell his fear. And make sure to stroke his ego and praise his masculine features a bit while doing it.
>>43385997P.S. 2 In case it needs to be claryfied:>make sure to stroke his ego and praise his masculine features A BITEmphasis on the important part. You told him he wasn't very masculine so you can't do a 180 and make him feel like a greek God. Praise his masculine traits a bit/moderately so it doesn't come off as an act.A big part of masculinity is self-assurance (i.e. CONFIDENCE), and this is something that can be built (or destroyed). So even if you have to pretend right now, if you show him you find him hot and that you like his masculine traits he WILL become more confident and thus WILL become more masculine.
>>43384048Yeah this kind of thing has made it impossible for me to see my bf romantically. He was cute and dominant before, now he feels so scared and weak. Not to mention he's started doing fem things again that he gave up when transitioning.
>>43384986TRVKEst4t is just rapehons dicking down confused lesbians
>>43386046>He was cute and dominant before, now he feels so scared and weak.Dominance requires confidence. Reassure him of his own attractiveness/masculinity/power and he should act in a more dominant and masculine way.>he's started doing fem things again that he gave up when transitioningReward his masculine behavior, don't reward his feminine behavior (don't punish it either. Trying to punish your partner sours relationships and ends up destroying them).
>>43384048>Yet another AND THE FTM LITERALLY CRIED WHEN I BREATHED IN A MISGENDERING WAY thread Why do you guys keep giving these attention
>>43386148I dont want to be his Mom... I feel like his Mom, like I tell him everything is okay and give him gentle affection. Meanwhile he ignores me and watches YouTube documentaries for 6 hours a day.
>>43384048Send him to me. I love sensitive young men>>43384482Why do trans women think that getting their prostate stimulated is somehow more woman like than having piv? I genuine don't understand. You cannot have sex like a female in anyway if you have male genitals.
>>43386046Your boyfriend is a gay bottom. Let him exist and don't try to force him to be something he is not
>>43386411I think you're projecting because I've told him before that he can date dudes if he likes dudes and he can date doms if he wants a dom I just want him to be himself and he got pissed at me.
>>43386347>I tell him everything is okay and give him gentle affection. Meanwhile he ignores me and watches YouTube documentaries for 6 hours a dayThen his problem is not a lack of masculinity, but him being LAZY.Does he have a job? If not, tell him he should get one.Wasting 6 hours a day watching documentaries (unless they're necessary for his career somehow) is unhealthy and a bad habit that is better to cut in order for him to get his shit together as an adult, like he should.I know this is 4chan, but you SHOULD NOT bankroll or enable NEETS.And if all fails, start looking for his replacement. There's plenty of fish in the sea, don't waste years of your life with him if he fails to adapt and become a functioning member of society.
>>43386560Also, if he doesn't comply and keeps being lazy, withdraw the attention and sexual access you currently give him.People respond to incentives.If you pamper him even if he's lazy (i.e. rewarding BAD behavior) then he'll CONTINUE being lazy, because he has no incentive not to.The incentives one can give or withdraw are sex and attention (and your money, unless you were married).
>>43384482It’s just a straight man and a straight woman pretending they’re swapped. It’s very sad.
>>43384048Mega ick. Dump your ftf gf. Like how are you gonna claim to be a man then do the most fembrained shit possible and react in the most fembrained possible way?Ftms need to grow some fucking balls and stop being weak little bitches. I've seen manlier behavior from butch lesbians and girly twinks.
I want piv with no hrt ftms... I'd even call them a man :)
>>43386399>Why is getting penetrated more womanlike/femalelike than sticking your penis in someone??Are you genuinely retarded? Also, prostate stimulation isn't even in like the top five reasons for a post-op tranny to have PiV sex.
>>43388097Women don't like their non existing prostate massaged. There is nothing more male than cumming from anal.Its not femalelike, you just cope
>>43387617If cis men had vaginas they would love getting pivd. People who are anti piv are just all sour grapes
>>43388109Did you even read my post? "Prostate stimulation" is gay man/transbian rapestickhon shit. When you've been on HRT long enough the prostate becomes functionally identical to a skenes gland and provides no stimulation at all.
>>43388116When did I say anything about piv? If a st4t couple wants to fuck using the parts they have, that's non of my business and I don't believe it makes either of them any less "trutrans"My point was a lot of ftms behave like women. They cry about the same shit women cry about. They get upset the same way women do. I don't see why they bother calling themselves men if they're just gonna keep behaving like women. Same goes for mtfs but I'm not gonna beat a dead horse.Ftms need to grow a pair and stop being whiny little bitches if they wanna be taken seriously. They don't soulpass
>>43388477Anal sex is always manly, sorry girlie..its how two males have penetrative sex.
>>43388938It seems homophobic to police trans men so much for being too sensitive or feminine or if trans women is too masculine and harsh. It feels like projection. Maybe you felt like you are a woman cause you are sensitive and timid but men can be such too, and its fine. Just like women can be tomboys and butches. Transsexuality is more deep than stereotypes
>>43388109I mean my ftm doesn't have a prostate but loves when I fuck his ass and can cum without rubbing his clit just from me fucking his ass.
>>43389044Well I'm sorry you feel that way anon. I only have PiV sex with my bf so I don't really understand anal either. In my experience it's just uncomfortable and getting fucked in the neopussy feels far more enjoyable.
