I worry so much about being the archetype of the insensitive theyfab that makes trans women uncomfortable. I've been dating almost exclusively trans women for years now and it has always been my top priority to treat them with all the respect in the world, and not even once have I received any complaints of making anyone uncomfortable or pushing anyone to do something they didn't want. But still knowing that I have no reason to believe it I still can't help but have that reoccurring worry on the back of my mind that "What if i'm being insensitive? what if this makes her dysphoric? what if she doesn't want this and I pushed this onto her". Like I'm dating a dominant trans woman and we really enjoy doing PIV, but I've heard so many horror stories of trans girls being pressured into domming and doing PIV when they literally hate it and it makes them so dysphoric I can't help but worry at least a little bit about what if that's me. I hate bringing this up with my girlfriend because she's reassured me of this so many times already I really don't want to burden her with my issues any more than I already do, I do that plenty already.
>>43396016>so yeah um I'm a quirky girl getting hot plaps from non-threatening males>oh geez Rick, I hope I'm not triggering their dysphoria whenever they pump me full of hot loads!I'm sure your boyfriends are doing fine, lady
>>43396016I'm sorry but the "piv" stuff is kinda stupidlike you sound really nicefrom what I've seen, trans women see piv and that stuff as masculine the difference between the ones who engage in it and the ones who don't is that the ones who do it is that the ones who do it can repress the dysphoria for the pleasure of itbut like it's super common for trans women to like want it, be pushy and dominant and then post nut clarity hits and they realise they acted like men
>>43396016if u are posting this image u are fine kekhonestly though i think u seem pretty self aware and it sounds to me like u are doing all u can in this situation. in a relationship there are some things u cant completely control; its possible that even if ur doing everything right she still will have a bad experience (and the other way around). to me it sounds like u are kinda feeling this inherent risk that just comes with love and sex and being vulnerable with another person and processing it as there being something left for you to do or something you missed. obv im not saying u should just become full complacent and stop trying, but i believe that u are on the right track and maybe u dont need to worry so much that youre doing something wrong. u can never completely know someone elses thoughts the way they think them; u can never be inside their head. no matter what u do u are still both separate people with separate experiences and sometimes shit just happens. to be cognizant of this and accept the risk and try your best anyway is all u can do.it always makes me so happy to see another c(?)4t les couple like this it makes me feel less alone in the world w/ my own relationship
>>43396231not opbut I've never understood Les c4t stufflike you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone and you're choosing like a cis woman like you're letting this person in to see you at your barest and most vulnerable and you feel safe having a cis woman see you this way? I don't like cis women even seeing me intoxicated or under 10 layers of masking
Lady, I’m just a dude with tits on estrogen who likes to look pretty. If it weren’t for chicks like you I’d be stuck single, god bless ya
>>43396016All AFABs are ontologically evil, regardless of how they actually behave. Kill yourself.
>>43396231Thank you nona that is actually really reassuring, I guess you're right there really is so much I can do, I shouldn't worry this much about things that I've already done everything that I could about, if things turn out badly at least I'll know I did my best
>>43396571Okay I will :(
>>43396154My girlfriend and I don't really see it that way, I mean we reject the idea that there is such a thing as masculine and feminine ways to have sex as a whole, but of course that doesn't mean that if for example, a trans woman feels uncomfortable doing PIV because it makes her feel masculine, her feelings are not invalid or regressive or anything.
>>43396043Why do you make comments like this on every thread
>>43396016>not even once have I received any complaints of making anyone uncomfortable or pushing anyone to do something they didn't wantYou wouldn't even if you did. People who knew would just avoid you after. Do you talk to your exes?>>43396678>we reject the idea that there is such a thing as masculine and feminine ways to have sex as a wholelmao. Yeah I'm sure _you_ do. I dunno if you're actually pressuring trans women into PIV, but I know you aren't having honest conversations about it. The theyfab says her trans gf totally doesn't even care about masc / fem dynamics, haven't heard that before.>>43396154This is 100% true whether or not your gf will talk to you about it. Its not just genital dysphoria but behavioral.
This is why you should never date cissoids. Transbians should plap me not straight theyfabs.
>>43396016You should peg them once in a while
>>43398299Nooo she's a woman she doesn't want to do that that's not natural and that'd make her feel masculine
bump
>>43398299>>43398306I do love pegging her whenever she lets me, but it's sort of a special occasion thing she doesn't let me peg her often, she says she gets tired of it really fast so it has to stay a special occasion thing.>>43397834>lmao. Yeah I'm sure _you_ do. I dunno if you're actually pressuring trans women into PIV, but I know you aren't having honest conversations about it. The theyfab says her trans gf totally doesn't even care about masc / fem dynamics, haven't heard that before.We have had honest conversations about it though, I never pressured anyone into anything I always make sure they are comfortable with anything I do or else I don't do it. My girlfriend really does not care about this stuff, she talks a lot about the time she tried out being with a man when she thought she was bi, and that man trying to dominate her and all, and she says over and over how gross it was and how she hated it, how she prefers being in control, how she prefers topping. Like I don't know what to tell you here
>>43400273womanbabble for "my boyfr- i mean girlfriend likes larping as a woman while plapping me so i'm a good person"
>>43396016If ur gonna larp, at least make it convincing :/>Cisf Lesbian>Loves t& Dates trannies>on 4chanthe joke write themselves
>>43400834I'm a bit of a chaser yeah, my girlfriend used to be on this board a lot and so I started going here to engage with her interests
>>43396016Let her reassure you OP. Plenty of trans girls like piv and using their genitals but just as many HATE anything being done with their genitals. It's literally a case by case basis and as long as you know you aren't trying to pressure someone into it and they say they like it you're fine.>>43396154Speak for yourself, me and my gf both love taking turns plapping eachother.t. t4t transbian
you are a straight woman stop using trans women for your sick fantasies
>>43396016>Women devaluing themselves and walking on eggshells to not displease their menStraightest thread on this board
>>43403003>cis gf cares about her trans gfyou're a straight woman actually>trans gf cares about her trans gfyou're a straight man actuallynonas, is it invalid to care about your partner
>>43396016If you're a theyfab then kill yourself
>>43403003Yeah it's a post from a women having sex with men
>>43398299>>43400273call it strapping don't call it pegging lmao
>>43403402Will keep that in mind!
>>43396016alr from theyfab to theyfab, try and maybe switch things up. it seems ur self aware to understand that piv can induce dysphoria so idk do other things(?) my advice sux ofc the most I've done with my MTF fwb was cuddle and mutually masturbate, she's a bottom like me
>>43400273Yeah idk I'm just being a bitch for no reason I guess. If she didn't care deeply about being femme in some aspects of her life she wouldn't be trans. For the majority of trans women that includes the bedroom but for a few it doesn't or it does but the dysphoria is mild enough that they don't care. If you understand when she does and doesn't care about being femme and treat each other in a way that makes both of you happy then it doesn't matter what the board thinks.
>>43396016Thanks.
>>43396016You're fine, I'm also a top and you sound like a nice GF to her. Everyone here just has terminal brainworms where they think if they're more active than a dead fish in bed it makes them a man.>inb4 bottoms crying at these facts
>>43404996if you top youre not a woman retard
I like theyfabs but idk if I could do Piv!! It sounds extremely uncomfy, but I'm willing to try. I just don't want to lead someone on and use them to experiment.
>>43406771its okay theyfabs arent people
>>43396016this sounds very wholesome that you are being so considerate, also where did you get the picrel from??
>>43396016okay
wait yeah op i also want to know where picrel is from plz
>>43396016Yeah, I can assure you it does induce dysphoria, even if she convinced herself that it doesn’t, whether it cab work even with some dysphoria going on though is up to you.
