>Be me 24 mtf repper>single parent because girl I hooked up with in college got pregnant, didn't tell me, didn't get an abortion, and then fucking overdosed a few months back>now have this 4 yo little girl that I'm responsible for>original plan was to ghost my conservative family after college and transition>can't now because I need their money to help take care of the kid>can't leave her with her mom's family, because their track record with raising children is fucking dog shit>one druggy, one chomo, and one rapist>can't leave her with my family because they are fucking psychotic trumptard religious fanatics who believe in shit like purity balls and the rapture>ive boiled it down to 3 choices>choice one: leave town, ghost family, transition, and raise kid while living paycheck to paycheck >pros: would keep my daughter as far away from my psycho parents as possible, would be the best option for my mental health and least likely to end with me roping>cons: one bad day could leave us both homeless>choice two: transition in secret and just boymode so family doesn't notice, keep taking their money until I make enough on my own to get the fuck out of dodge>pros: best middle ground between financial stability and mental health>cons: family will try to influence my daughter with their schizo beliefs, and if they ever find out that I'm trans, they'll probably try to take my daughter away or just straight up lynch me>choice three: accept that i will never transition, repress to hell and back, and just do my best to raise my daughter as best I can>pros: Most financially stable, least precarious childhood for my daughter>cons: probably would end up roping the minute she was grown and capable of taking care of herselfSo, anons. What even the fuck do I do?
>>43399592Choice one
>>43399592Option 2. Ideally Option 1 if you can make it to someplace with good welfare programs.
>>43399592I would transition in secret with some basic precautions until you have enough savingsThe only way you can be the best parent for your kid is by taking care of yourself and any parent would say the same thing
Choice one. Homelessness is traumatic but abusive grandparents are worse and assured here.
>>43399592Anything but 3
choice two, her security is the most important thing
>>43399592Nona listen to me.Your only option here is the first one. The nightmare scenarios of two and three are far, *far* worse than being homeless. At least there are shelters you can go to. With the other options, you have absolutely no recourse. Either your parents will find out eventually or you will never truly be happy. All we can do is play the hand we were dealt, and you unfortunately lowrolled hard. I cannot possibly imagine how difficult the situation you are in is. You have my deepest sympathies.
>>43399658I'm just afraid of giving her a difficult life. She didn't ask for any of this. I know first hand how shitty parents can fuck somebody up for life, and i don't want that for her. My deepest wish is for her to grow up into a boring ass milquetoast libshit white girl who, when asked about her childhood, goes, "Oh yeah, it was pretty boring desu," and then rants about whatever the most recent slop film is.
>>43399767You're both going to have a difficult time no matter what. Your best shot is the one where you both get to have a life.
>>43399767Do you honestly think she'll have a better life if you're a miserable repper slowly turning into a soulless husk?
>>43399813That's probably true. I have a bachelors in computer science, so it's not like i'd be working at McDonald's. But i just keep flashing back to the worst case scenario, where something goes wrong and i have to try and raise a child on the streets.
>>43399876idk, maybe i could keep the act up long enough for her to grow up. 14 years is a long time to rep, but id rather me be miserable and her be happy than the otherway around.
>>43399994you know how kids can always tell their parents want to divorce or that something is wrong no matter how much they hide it? kids grow up with you and will know you better than anyone. they'll be able to tell you're not happy
>>43399592option 2 is the most practical, all you really need to do is have an exit plan for when they find out, you know who you are OP. The best way to take care of that kid is by being the best person you can be, and a good example of put together human being.
Anything but choice #3My wife died (nobody's fault) and I repped. Now I'm trying to transition at 35. I shouldn't have repped :(
>>43399592You daughter needs her father, she already lost her mother. You need to think of her and controll your agp
>>43400049I'll try option two. i think if i live frugally, i can save up enough to move to a blue state and be in a semi stable position in like, 2-3 years.
>>43399876I would had honestly preffered if my troon mother never transitioned. If you have kids, forget things like that
>>43399592put her to adoption or choose one
>>43400144although I'd love to say just do option one I had to rep for safety as well in a hostile environment until I could get out. teach your daughter to be a good person and think critically and you won't have to fear your parents indoctrinating her.
>>43400132Yeah, no. Miss me with that idiotic Blanchard garbage. The issue here is finances and safety, not your subhuman IQ takes on transness.
>>43400150that's crazy I wish my parent had transitioned so he wouldn't be a husk of a person drinking all day and obese from lack of movement never showing up for anything never loving himself enough to love me
>>43400150And you'd have preferred stumbling across her hanging from the ceiling, anon?
>>43400171i will try. i feel like rasing a kid is both easier and harder than ppl make it seem. I just treat her like a small, confused person and that seems to work well.
jfc
>>43399994miserable parents produce fucked up kids
>>43399592you only rly got option 2, but it's gonna be rly bad, because emotionally, you'll be liek a teenage girl and that's not rly a place to raise a kid
>>43400241the fact you're trying means you are a better parent than most. im not sure what resources there are for trans parents but im sure there's some out there to look into, when you reach that point. don't get complacent, and look for any opportunity to bolt out of there.
>>43399658>The nightmare scenarios of two and three are far, *far* worse than being homeless.i just got out of homelessnes and i think i disagree, i mean sure, i've beem homeless w/ 18, but being homeless at 24 is worse when you have to take care of a kid...not knowing how to feed yourself is one thing, but not knowing how to feed a 4yo is another story
>>43399592hide your identity at all costand set your priorities, you can kys in 20y or so...also keep in mind that trooning past the age of 15 (16 if you're lucky) means it's already over anyway
option 2 will work fine.you can troon out any time and it will be fine, it's not a big deal at all actually. you're extremely lucky to have a child before trooning and losing that opportunity forever.
>>43400815Obviously I'm not one to tell you how bad homelessness is, but it's not guaranteed in nona's situation.
>>43399592Choice three. You're a parent now. You're life is not your own.
>>43399592choice two short term, but fast tracking to choice onedon't make your daughter have a parent with dead repressor eyes. be a good mom and protect her from your insane family
