/lg/ is a new lesbian general focused on actual lesbian discussion, for all homosexual cis and trans women.Be respectful and let’s help foster a chill community of lesbians! Avoid trip/name/avatarfagging. Report and ignore bigotry, drama, and trolling.QOTT:>Have you ever instantly lost attraction to a woman? >Ever ride a motorcycle? Do you think it’s hot when a woman knows how to ride?old thread: >>43399852
oh i didn't realize there was a new thread, it wasn't linked from the old one>QOTT>Have you ever instantly lost attraction to a woman?hmm no. but i don't think my attraction has ever been that strong in the first place. i question whether i've ever truly been in love, but that's a whole thing.>Ever ride a motorcycle? Do you think it’s hot when a woman knows how to ride?yes. i used to own a moped as a teenager, and more recently, my ex rode a motorbike and i briefly rode it around a car park lol. i prefer bikes to cars, but i don't care for either. if i ever were to own a motorized vehicle again, i'd want it to be an electric motorbike, nice and quiet. i do think it's hot, tho!
>>43417308Just linked it dw. Didn’t want to kill the conversation in the other thread. But wanted to get it made in case I fell asleep.
>>43417438gracias. seems like quiet hours now anyway.idk if i'll keep posting much myself, but it's been interesting.
How do I destroy the part of myself that wants to love and be loved by a woman and satisfy myself completely with my hobbies and friendships without thinking of her all the time like it's a disease?Btw she only texts me when she's at work so I'm definitely nothing more than a toy to her. She goes home and enjoys her life spending her time on all of the things she likes more than me while I waste away my free time wishing she was talking to me no matter what I try to distract myself with.Why doesn't she like me?
>>43417878i think we've all been there, i know i have. it's good that you at least recognize the behaviour.your desire to love and be loved is beautiful, and beautiful things should never be destroyed. i don't know your current situation, but i think the most important thing for all relationships, including friendships, is that they are mutual. ask yourself if it's mutual, and plan your next move from there, which may unfortunately mean moving on. don't delay your own happiness.i don't think anyone can be completely satisfied without love, it's a human need to desire it, and it makes our brains all kinds of happy when we get it. friendship and hobbies are also amazing, and do wonders for us, you can have it all, anon.
>>43418050I think that's what made ne realize it. My friends are all more communicative and eager to talk to me than she is. Why should I be receiving so much less from a romantic partner?It hurts because all of the boxes she ticked off at the beginning made this encounter feel one in a million. But if it's not mutual, you're right, that's the biggest requirement that's not being met.I wonder if she should even still be friends... I wish I had just met her as a friend, without all of this fractured hope. I'm also left wondering how to get over all of the inadequacy felt when one fails to receive validation from somebody they like so much...Nonetheless, thanks for hearing me out. You seem nice. I hope you have a good rest of your week, anon.
>>43419131>how to get over all of the inadequacy felt when one fails to receive validation from somebody they like so muchgosh, that is one heck of a question, anon. i've had my heart broken more than once, and left wondering what i need to improve about myself. but then, usually out of nowhere, someone comes along, and loves me for exactly who i am. it was not my own inadequecy, but a simple matter of finding the right person. which all sounds a bit too cliche, but it's true.my first love almost destroyed me, losing it was the most painful thing i ever experienced. but now, a decade later, i can see everything so clearly, and i know that we simply were not made for each other. the pattern has repeated a few more times, and with each i grow as a person, i hope.i feel as though i've reached a point where i can now take all of the happy memories of a relationship, and move forward, leaving the pain behind. i've yet to find the One, despite believing i had a couple times, but that's okay, the journey of searching is really nice, to be honest.you seem to have a good perspective, which is quite rare, i think you'll do just fine. when it's right, when it's meant to be, it's easy. i truly believe that.you seem really nice, too. thank you for sharing. i hope i didn't ramble on too much :)
>>43419389Not rambling at all, reading this helped quite a bit... I may still be inexperienced and easily hurt in matters of love, but I'm old enough to have seen time and experience make many other things easier to bear. So I'll try to take your words to heart. Genuinely, thank you, you've given me the perspective necessary to keep trying.
>>43419472aww it warms my heart to hear that! honestly, i don't think being hurt is a bad thing, in fact, i truly commend you for it. being hurt means you made yourself vulnerable, and that is the hardest thing to do, but you still did it.you cannot be rewarded with a great love, unless you take a great risk. we never stop getting hurt, and having experience doesn't mean you're invulnerable, it just means you can take that pain and grow from it. ha honestly i'm in the same boat as you, im making myself chuckle right now, because in many ways im still so inexperienced, but here i am giving advice anyway.ehem. you deserve as much from a relationship as you put in, and i hope you find that, whether it's with the person you're with right now, or someone else :)
When do I get out of the self-hating baby trans phase of being too scared to date anyone or seek out people to date? I just want a cute girl to tie me up and play with my body
>>43419537I hope we both find that special person for us at the end of this tumultuous path. Wishing you the best!
>>43419574mwah!>>43419572it happens without you realizing it. there's no single, crystalizing moment, at least there wasn't for me. each day you wake up, it gets a little better. the fact of it is, you are already worthy of love, there's nothing you need to do to prove it.
two different dogs barked aggressively at me today. because i'm so much better at puzzles than them and they're jealous>>43421213need. desperately.
>>43416474>Have you ever instantly lost attraction to a woman?I’m a big fan of SoundCloud rap and artists like Lil B, Spaceghostpurrp, Metro Zu etc. I was at this woman’s house and we were just sort of chatting and I noticed she had a TYBG tattoo, which I complimented. but then she got all embarrassed and started going on about how she used to listen to “that sort of stuff” in college but now she listens to “real music” like synthwave and indie rock. my view of her instantly soured.
>>43417878I'm in a similar situation, minus the texting at work thing. I don't know what the heck her problem is, she seems to want a friendship where I just text her whatever and if she likes it she'll respond and then go back to pretending I don't exist. And don't even bother asking her if she'd like to play games or watch anime, that's a guaranteed no. Why do I even keep trying? She wants nothing to do with me but she won't just come out and say it. The worst part is that we have a good time when we're actually together in person. I don't understand it at all, but at the end of the day, I *want* her around but I don't *need* her around.
>>43419389Thanks for this. I really needed to hear it. My ex of over 2 years broke up with me 3 days before my FFS and it's been heartbreaking and isolating and I've been struggling to move forward. I needed to hear this and be reminded this is temporary.>>Have you ever instantly lost attraction to a woman? Yes, her breath smelled. It was tragic. She was so cute, and i really tried but it was so hard. >>Ever ride a motorcycle? Do you think it’s hot when a woman knows how to ride?I have not. I do think it's hot, but they're so dangerous I could never be in a relationship with a girl who rides them. True story, had a dream girl who I caught big feelings for and I left early to avoid this.
>>43429123>Yes, her breath smelledThat sounds like something easily fixed tho? I'm assuming you weren't particularly close
bump
>>43429357Stop shitting the board up with pointless duplicate generals
>>43429123>My ex of over 2 years broke up with me 3 days before my FFSi am so sorry, anon. i am glad my words resonate with you. i hope your ffs results are what you wanted and that recovery is going well.it's interesting how your situation is quite similar to mine, but also the opposite. my ex and i got together and said i love you for the first time, the day before i had my ffs, but then we broke up a few months later anyway.pain and heartbreak is indeed temporary. time heals all.
>>43429362nta but personally speaking, i'd prefer 2 lesbian generals, than yet another thread about chasers, boymoder ai or some sensationalized headline about how the world hates troons. the board is already full of shit, anon. no need to fling more of it at each other :)
>>43429362>duplicate generalsThe other general is useless. It's nothing but the same handful of narcissistic tripfags arguing with each other
>>43428904im curious do u think u would feel a similar way even if that were about a genre/artists that you didnt listen to? i feel embarrassed about some of the music i listen to right now lol but i cant tell if itd be a faux pas or not for me to talk to her about that since i know she doesnt listen to that stuff
>fluorine fire: the girlme: yes, that one!why am i like this?
>>43431005what happened
>>43431020nothing in particular, i just have a type and apparently its messy bpdemons that hurt me
>>43431034a tale as old as time, i never got over minehow did your bpdemon hurt you?
there's only one ex i still think about, on occasion. i do miss her. if i could go back in time and change the past, she's the one i would try to keep. but i can't do that, so i'm trying to live without regret. blame and regret serve no purpose. i'm actually quite happy right now, and i'm using this time to better myself. keeping busy with hobbies, hanging out with friends and family, dieting and exercising. it feels good. learning from my mistakes, and not letting them define me. looking forward to my next romance, whenever, and with whoever, that may be.
>>43428904ugh calling any kind of music "real music" as opposed to / at the expense of others is so fucking cringe. regardless of whether i share their actual taste, that view of things just pisses me off on principle
>>43416474This place is bullshit, I got kicked from the discord for doing nothing....
>>43432078wat happened
>>43432078There is a discord? I thought it was deleted
>>43432078This isn’t lesgen. We don’t have a Discord.
