>QotTDo you feel a sense of "community" with other queer people? Why or why not?FAQ:>Am I bi if I like women and femboys/traps?>Am I bi if there's this one member of the same-sex I'm desiring, but normally I like the opposite sex?>Am I bi if I sexually like both sexes, but only interested in romance with one of them?Yes, sexual attraction to both sexes is bisexuality.>What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual?Only difference is that our flag is prettier.>Am I bi if i have periods where I feel only attracted to women and others where I feel only attracted to men?This is known as the bi-cycle and many bisexuals experience it.>Am I bi or am I 'prison gay' or porn addicted?'Prison gay' is not a real thing and porn addiction does not alter your sexual orientation. You are bi.>Am I bi or pan if I like trans people?Both are able to be attracted to trans people.>I think I might be bi but I can't tell. How can I be certain?Just make a point to check out members of the sex you think you might be attracted to and see if anyone grabs your attention.>Should I be harsh on myself?You should be kind on yourself. Few people will do it for youResource for Bisexuals:https://biresource.org/The old thread died. Keep it alive, /bigen/
>>43438787Thnx for new thread!>QotT>community with other queer peopleYeah more or less. I have a bunch of ftm and cis lesbian coworkers, and I get along well with them. I don’t generally make a big deal about being bi, but I think most queer people I chat with clock me as not being straight. I’ve bumped into some skepticism from gay guys, but plenty of them have been very welcoming as well.I do wish I had more queer friends though. I have a good network of friends from when I was a kid, nearly all of whom are straight dudes. They’re really lovely, but it’d be nice to hang with lgbters a little more often.
Goodnight bigen, hope you all have a nice weekend
First the femboy gen dies now Bigen? Bro it’s over being gay is niche again
>>43438787>Do you feel a sense of "community" with other queer people? Why or why not?Eh not entirely. I feel more like a welcome guest/ally when I'm in "queer" spaces. My more direct community is other straight-passing bi people who also don't fit in with any broader communities if that makes sense.
>>43438787> qottNo because most queers are obnoxious and will hate you for being different from them, just like the rest of the population
>>43438787>Do you feel a sense of "community" with other queer people? Why or why not?No, but mostly because noone in my current friend circle is non-hetero
What’s bigen doing today? Anyone going out or anything? I’m working on some art stuff for a couple hours, then my gf and I are gonna walk the dog and play a board game. I’ll have to fit a run in at some point too.
>>43438787>QotTNo, not at all. Other queer people are usually the last ones to know I'm bi. I unironically find straight people more accepting.
>>43443538i'm gonna do absolutely nothing hehehe
>>43443665lol that’s fun too anon.
Up you go bigen, not losing another one in 24 hours
>>43443538Saw family earlier, gonna work on some art stuff too til my gf gets home from work. Then IDK
Bigen do I tell my friend I had a sex dream about her?
>>43445536Oh cool! What kind of art do you do? I’m an illustrator >>43446148No, almost certainly not. What sort of relationship do you two have?
>>43446425>What sort of relationship do you two have?We're just friends but shes poly and in her words "sex positive" Also we're both trans if that helps
>>43446505Ah okay, yeah that’s different. She might just find it funny/flattering then. Do you have any romantic and/or horny interest in her at all?
>>43446643She's already with someone and even if she wasn't an online friend I don't like the idea of open/polyamorous relationships because I get jealous easilyI might tell her if it fits in context but probably won't just tell if you're out of the blue
just came back to this board after a few years breaktell me why and how this general died
>>434469981: It's not Covid times anymore2: apparently most of the jannys for /lgbt/ quit so hate speech wasn't being moderated3: it didn't exist at all a few months ago so less people check for itDid I miss anything?
>>43447080that doesn't seem to explain any of itgaygen is still going strong at 50000 posts per minute it seems
>>43446766That’s fair. I probably wouldn’t go out of my way to bring it up either if I was in your position either. It sounds like it wouldn’t be a big deal, but there’s not much to gain from it either. I told one of my close friends something similar once- it didn’t really affect our relationship at all because he’s a horny degenerate and loves oversharing, but it was just kind of an awkward nothingburger. I genuinely don’t have any romantic interest in him either, it was more like a “hey have you ever noticed we’re both queer? What if we made out??” kind of moment. I don’t regret saying it, but I don’t think I would’ve lost anything by never bringing it up.
>>43446998No idea, I’m new here. I try to bump the bi-gender threads when I see them on the last pages though.
>>43447130*bigen threads
cute twinks?
>>43447533Cute twinks!
>>43447105>gaygen is still going strong at 50000 post per minuteI guess in the end GayGen was just better then us
>>43448175I tried integrating there once but I just can't stand all the disgusting ogres they constantly postit's like everyone in there is the stereotypical 50 year old fat grindr degenerate
>>43448175I've had far more positive interactions on bigen than gaygen. I should probably just leave this site entirely, but bigen has actually been the closest thing to a community of reasonably sane and friendlly queer people to chat with I've found here.
>>43448371probably best to gather all the cool people on a discord server or something and blast off of this website
>>43447105Lesgen is entirely powered by the same 3 people schizoposting about their discord dramas
>>43448404fuck discordification
>>43448404I’ve seen a few people mention bigen discords on here recently. You could probably get an invite to one easily enough
I've been to many 4chan related servers, but so far every single one of them was either dead or extremely insufferableso a /bigen/ one would probably be the same
>>43448453bummer, I guess it's just gaygen and the various trans ones that have a bunch of active users then.
>>43448608>>43448659there is a bigen discord but invites are closed for the foreseeable future
>>43446148Depends, how close are you two?
>>43449506Lol nvm I was high and didn't refresh the whole tab
>>43449516Hell yeah anon, 420 blaze it
>>43449506we're not "that" close but approves of any social media mutual to follow her 18+ account where she occasionally post nudes so like I don't think she would be offended or anythingSometime I just shitpost to get the thread moving but this did happen>>43449516you good lol
>>43449400??? Why tho
>>43449551There's 2 main ones1 is for movie nights that use to get posted here (I don't know why they stopped)and the other is a ghost town
>>43449575huh never heard of that one in the pic
>>43449618I think it was made around the time the movie night server was made and someone was mad that it didn't have a gen chatWe've also had other servers made in the golden age of Gigen that I never bothered joining
>>43438787>Do you feel a sense of "community" with other queer people? Generally, no. And not because I feel like a fake queer or anything like that- I'm a man who's dated exclusively men so far.>Why or why not?Usually because they're fags.
>>43449575lmao I know the guy in the screenshot from other server, he's a fucking giga creepsteals other people's selfies and pretends to be them
>>43449920>>Why or why not?>Usually because they're fags.Lol yeah. The queer scene around me is very cliquey very "whose the faggiest of them all?" Especially the people just slightly younger than me. Very obnoxious.
>>43450114>The queer scene around me is very cliquey very "whose the faggiest of them all?"Nightmare scenario
>>43438787>QotTSome of my closest friends are queer but even they don't engage with the organized lgbt community here. Honestly it doesn't feel necessary to me? You can just be queer without organizing
>>43447533this is my body type but I have bigger boobs and don’t dress like a faggot
>>43452485That’s nice you have multiple queer friends anyway. I only have one, and he’s enough of a mess I can only take him in small doses. It’d be nice to have a small circle of queer friends to grab coffee or beer with, play a d&d campaign, or like go hiking with.
>>43453109>I don’t dress like a faggot
>>43453147id sooner spend my money on something useful than a gay little costume to play dress up with
>>43453189but I am grateful for the cute twinks who make that sacrifice
All the fag/fem bashing itt is getting me down :/
>>43453243For what it's worth, I wish there was more fag/fem shit. I'm not fag/fem myself, I just find it incredibly attractive lmao
>>43453712Glad to hear you’re not opposed to fruity shit :)I’m fine with people presenting as masc or fem, and it’s okay to be attracted to whatever traits appeal to you. I’m somewhere in the middle myself.
>>43453243I'm not against it in a vacuum, and my style/manner of dress is probably somewhat femmy/faggy. The issue is that in my local queer community there's a lot of elitism and pressure to be "the most queer/flamboyant/gender special". It's largely performative one-upping that feels very inauthentic.
>>43454513That’s fair- cliquey behavior is obnoxious in general.
Currently juggling two girls and a long haired bro. Shit is unsustainable but I'll keep it going as long as I can because it's just too much fun
>>43455425Hell yeah, get it you messy bitch ;) You should gather them altogether for a blowout 4 way when you think things are about to implode
>>43455425Three partners is always the max I've been able to juggle too
>>43453243Present however you want, that's okay. What's not okay is rabid consensus-forming in the queer community around the stupidest shit. I can't disagree with Blue No Matter Who without being called a Nazi. I can't say the acting and writing in Pose are the most grating things I've seen on television in years without being screamed at for putting queers down. I can't acknowledge the rampant self-destructive behavior of the gay community without being called a bigot.What's not okay is being alienated from 90% of my theoretical community because I don't want to pretend to be retarded for the rest of my life.
BICHVDS WIN AGAINTRANNY GOCKIN MY MOVTH
>>43455425As fuck buddies or actual dating relationships?
>>43456101Agreed. No actual diversity of opinion is tolerated. Only people tripping over themselves to be the most woke.
>>43453109are you single?
>>43454651Dude it sucks in the city where I live. The queer scene became the drag scene like overnight
I always tried to grow my hair out to look more feminine, but I ended up looking like Psychic Helment from Mob Psycho. I have no idea how to make hair grow out and look good.Anyway, my new goal is to look like Okuyasu from JoJo's.
>>43458915grow it longer
>>43458915Are you Asian?
>>43458915Get a transitional haircut that suits growing hair
Any other 35 year old bi virgins or am I the only one?
>>43459959I only made it to 29
>>43459973How did you end up having sex? Are you still having sex or in a relationship today?
>>43459959I was 21 and I thought that was old.
>>43459959I was 19 when I lost my virginity. Most of my friends from back then lost theirs between 13-16, all with people around their ages. It’s kind of amazing none of them got pregnant/got someone else pregnant.I still haven’t dated or slept with a guy though, and I’m in my late thirties. I’d really like to if I end up single again.
>>43460140I talked to a few people on a dating app, went on a date with one of them, went on a second date, tried asking him out on a third date and got hit with "I think we should just be friends," fast forward two months of me being a sad sack about it, turns out he originally actually just wanted to hook up and didn't want to get into a serious relationship but hadn't communicated that adequately, I asked if he was cool with a fwb situation because I still wanted to smash, he said yeah. And now I go over to his house once a week or so to fuck him silly and watch anime.
>>43460738Nice. Do you you think the fwb arrangement is working out? Do you feel like you want anything from him romantically? I’d personally have a hard time not developing feelings for so I was sleeping with regularly
Bed time bump for sweet natured boys
>>43460906We've acknowledged that it's pretty much just a low-stakes relationship at this point. We're both getting roughly the degree of romance that either of us can handle at the moment. I do have feelings for him but I'm still figuring out how relationships work (they also freak me out a lot). On the other side, that boy's got intimacy issues from a history of exclusively terrible relationships and he's learning how to establish boundaries. It's an avoidant recovering people-pleaser and an autistic sociopath slowly working things out while fucking as much as possible.
>>43459959does it count if I've yet to fug another guy yet?all the ones I hit it off with online are on the other side of the continent
>>43457681yes, why do you ask?
>>43461194Thats honestly kind of cute that you guys are both so emotionally guarded. You should probably take it slow, but be open minded about where things might go. It would be sweet if you both unclenched a bit overtime, and your feelings for each other deepened. Hopefully at a minimum it’s a good learning experience and you both have some fun along the way. :)
>>43438787>QotTNot really, though I haven't really tried to engage with them apart from friends I've made irl but seems I'm better friends with them than they are with me so I end up really not with many friends like that>>43459959Lost my virginity at 18 to my current gf, haven't even kissed a guy but I so so so so want toReally wish I had a twink4twink relationship, I am dreaming about it quite often nowadays
>>43462618be my bf please
>>43463563Sorry twin - i’m flattered but not looking for a relationship. I’m sure there’s a cute boy out there for you, but it’s not me.
>>43438787>Do you feel a sense of "community" with other queer people? Why or why not?Not really, the more I learn about them the more I realize LGBT rights are a mistake
>>43463672ok go die in a ditch or something i dont care
>>43463800:(I hope you find someone who’ll let you love them and love you back
I don't feel much community because I've been repeatedly abused and assaulted by gay guys since I was a kid. I'm ok with individuals though and I have a boyfriend who I'm crazy about now
>>43463800Most friendly bigen interaction
im not attracted to transgenders they give me the ick big time crossdressers are fine tho
>>43463857Can’t blame them, they even said please
