I've come to realize that for most people "love" is just finding them attractive and having that do the heavy lifting to enjoy all the other things they have going on. Sometimes people get attached to the art they make, or they like that they're deluisonally optimistic, but that's kind of it.People might be able to name a few eccentricities or convictions they like about a person after the fact, but it's always that - after they've already decided they "love" them. I see relationships constantly where the 2 people just have basically nothing in common at all. It isn't just cishet relationships either. Lesbian, Gay, any kind of relationship between trans people. It's just a universal rule it seems. All the people I've developed feelings for was specifically because of how I saw them treat others. The goals they had, the growth they showed. But whenever I've told them that was why, they got confused. They often felt I was barely into them, and if I was, just for surface level reasons, or even that I had no interest at all. And while sometimes people will comment on and compliment me for similar things, it's never led to anyone wanting a relationship. Just wanting to keep me around for advice, validation, I dunno. I guess I must just be the weird one.
>>43441268>that - afterAI
>>43441349AI is an even more obnoxious thing for autists like me who actually know how to write and use - and ;.
>All the people I've developed feelings for was specifically because of how I saw them treat others.This is literally the primary motivator for most people falling in love or developing attraction. Also aislop.
>>43441364People who treat others like complete shit regularly get endlessly defended and even idolized because they're attractive or just mildly entertaining. All the people I know who are extremely kind and compassionate and fair are often extremely lonely and barely acknowledged.
>>43441349name checks out. imagine basic writing skills are a marker of ai - which, by the way, will soon be completely undetectable. give it a year max.
>>43441375>No ur wrong people objectively act another way>"All the people I know"No you're wrong. The sky is purple. All the skies I've seen are purple. Daddy, can you pull out the GOOD bait?
>>43441395>No MY anecdotal evidence is real and YOURS is fakeAlright. We could just point to how most celebrities and rich people are awful and still get endless praise and money. The people at that level who are liked for how they treat others are a very small subsect and thus an exception that proves the rule.
>>43441268This is going to depress you anon, but I would be really bummed out if I asked a guy why he’s into me and his answer was all stuff like “kindness” and “curiosity.” I want a guy to say my body is hot.
>>43441528I don't think finding someone attractive is a bad thing. I just think people constantly put that as the only thing and then retroactively try to justify it to not seem shallow by pointing to traits the person barely has. I wouldn't want to not be considered attractive either. But I've dated someone who's only reason for liking me was they found me hot and I was nice to them. They didn't care about anything I cared about. They didn't care about the things I was trying to do in life. They didn't acknowledge any of the things I did or tried to do for others. Made me feel like I might as well have been a mannequin to them. I just don't know how anyone could enjoy that.
>>43441378>le two more weeks!!i hate how stupid people vastly overvalue the future. shut the fuck up troglodyte you have literally zero ability to perceive reality or understand how time works
>>43441268We are meat robots that call brain chemicals love. Sometimes brain chemicals are triggered by appearance and sometimes they’re triggered by something else. Sounds like you’re demi sexual or something which isn’t wrong it’s just different than usual.
>>43443423>we are animals that call love loveexcept you said it in le reddit words. wow
>>43441528you are an idiot
