If my friend group is just a bunch of guys who misgender me (the knew me long b4 I started transitioning) should I dissappear for a few months then come back in my head I feel as if I do when I get back they will be more respectful because they aren't bad guys just very stupid
>>43450103i mean if they clearly arent respecting u even after u have asked or shown that u dont like it, i feel like u have more than enough reasons to just leave them. i had to do smth similar last year, so i understand if its hard but it does actually help, at least in my case it did. hope this helps nona :)
>>43450103Disappearing temporarily might help force a reset with them, especially if you come back more clearly representing yourself as female. If it doesn’t work yeah you should probably look for new friends.
>>43450404The crazy thing is I'm always presenting as female my voice isn't that crazy n when they would invite there other friends and the friend sees me they are so respectful until my friends hit them with the "that's a guy" or a "transformers " joke the friend would usually still be interested but hesitant in public until we're alone ( per usual)
>>43450510Sorry, I didn’t mean to imply you weren’t feminine presenting, I was more thinking something to show clearly you’re not “one of the boys” anymore to hopefully break them from old habits.It sounds like they’re being dicks instead of just having a hard time adjusting to you changing though. You could try telling them you find it genuinely hurtful when they misgender you, it’s not just edgy humor or whatever to you. If they’re still dicks about it then yeah probably time to move on
