im so embarrased that im a gay virgin. Yet i cant do anything about it. Ive never came close to experiencing any sort of intimacy in life. I havent ever experienced a relationship, or even a friendship before. Im far too scared and socially anxious to download grindr. Even if somehow did, i would be too socially inept to get any guys to fuck me. Plus I also dont want to get STDs. So theres basically no way for me to lose my virginity.It just hurts so much seeing how the only thing that other gays ever seem to talk about is sex. The fact im unable to experience it just makes me unable to relate with other gays, and makes me feel like an outcasted freak in the gay community.
Let me ask you a question. How old are you? You come across as early 20s, like 23-24. There are plenty of gay guys just like you. Consider getting into a subculture, judging by your op you're a furry. Plenty of other autistic lonely guys who are touch starved. My first boyfriend was through interacting with other gay guys at conventions, went from platonic friendships to dating one for 6 years. We're separate now and I've moved more toward pan than gay.
>>43450155Why are you making posts about my life and my own insecurities?!?! Well maybe not exactly I did download Grindr because I wanted to see what the guys here looked like that use it, and some pretty cute ones to be honest with you.But if Grindr is too scary for you, and because it's mostly just sexual stuff have you tried the dating apps? Or even any of the apps to make friends with people near you? Bumble has a friend one and it matches you based on gender and almost all the guys are gay on it that I saw so maybe you could give that a go instead. And just slowly ease your way into thingsThe other anons advice is pretty good especially if where you live has things like that. I would assume at least wouldn't actually know sadly. But at the same time I feel it's way more socially acceptable for the bottom to be a virgin so even if it does take a bit longer don't worry about being a virgin silly
>>43450200This was with me not having a vehicle, not having my own place, and living with a homophobic alcoholic step dad. We still made it work quite a while through all that. Love is possible, don't obsess over virginity. It's really not that special.
>>43450200Im 18. Im not a furry, i dont have the artistic talent or the money to be one. Im just a femboy but even then im nowhere near pretty enough to present femininely outside. I dont even know if there are any subculture communities of any kind near where i live>>43450240its not just because of the sexual stuff, although it is a big part of it, its the fear of being mocked, called ugly or annoying, etc. by the guys on there, which would probably be even more likely on genuine dating sites like bumble.
>>43450317That fear and anxiety can be really tough I know anon. But I'm sure no one would mock you or call you ugly, yeah you won't be everyone's cup of tea but that's okay too. You did say you're a femboy and there are gay guys that only like masc guys or super hairy ones, and you probably don't fit those then but they aren't going to say "you don't fit my ideal body type I hate you you are stupid and you ruined my day by me seeing you" and if they do then fuck them, not literally of course because they are dicks. And same goes for being annoying what one person finds annoying another will find cute, and endearing. Also I'm not a furry myself I either but you don't have to have artistic talent or money to be one if that's something you were into. I heard most in the furry community don't actually have fur suits, and no professional looking drawings of their fursona but they are still very much furry
>>43450317Oh brother youre so young. You're worrying too much. Do not go on grindr. Go to events, force yourself to be social. You don't need money or talent to be a furry lol I am and I produce nothing. I do comm stuff on occassion, pic rel.I get the insecurity. I'm honestly still there myself, sometimes. Don't be so hard on yourself, explore a bit.
>>43450391But most guys who say they like femboys tend to really only like the ones online who look perfectly skinny,feminine and are basically indistinguishable from a woman or anime character. I cant meet that standards, and so theyll probably say crueler things to me than the men who are only attracted to masc dudes would.maybe im just catastrophizing, but it does genuinely seem like most "femboy lovers" are just fetishizers who want guys with imposssibley achieveable anime bodies.>>43450393I dont know where I would find events to attend. Since I dont have any friends, i never hear about any parties or events, let alone get invited to them. And I just cant force myself to be social, its just impossible for me. I cannot approach someone i dont know, i cant even approach most people i do know, its too terrifying. I doubt anyone would want a weird awkward strange man they dont know approaching them for no reason anyways. As for furry stuff, i think ill likely just stay a non-furry since furry art usually makes me feel bad about myself and jealous that i dont look like a furry character, as silly as that sounds lol.But thank both of you anons for your kindness.
>>43450529From what I've seen online a lot of the femboy lovers that you would be talking about are either really into fem x fem, porn addicts, or both. And if they have such unrealistic standards keep in mind that you would not be the only person not falling into those but 99.9% of guys already fail those. And as for events near you I would check Facebook, Instagram, and your local subreddit. I don't personally live in a place that has such a huge queer scene myself but I can find some stuff on those and outside of bars/clubs almost all of those will be focused on making friends which is probably more important for you right now than a boyfriend, maybe you could even turn one of your potential friends into a bf instead! I hope you can find some local things though it would be good for you to get outside of your shell a bit, and yes they will be scary to go to but from my experience with the ones here they're very welcoming and they know how scary it can be so I wouldn't stress too much about that. But I'm off to bed I'm very sleepy so take care anon !
>>43450652thank you, goodnight
>>43450155>that tranny ass picreltroon out before its too late nona
>>43450885Im not trans and I never will be. Stop with the weird egg culture shit. Besides it has nothing to do with the thread.
>>43450919do you want to turn into a bald old man?
>>43450936no, thats why im gonna do estrogen. Im just not gonna identify as a woman, because i am not a woman and dont want to be one. And again, this has nothing to do with the thread. I promise you that ive had hundreds of people just like you who said the exact same things to me. Im tired of having to repeat that same conversation
>>43450960based, don't let anyone, besides yourself (obvs), decide your identity
>>43450242>not having a vehicle, not having my own place, and living in a shitty situationmood, thank fuck I got a car last year. may the housing crisis gods smile upon me and allow me to get a decent place to live at a sustainable financial cost
