>be straight tranner>have a loving cis bf>cant shake the notion hes losing out on smth bc i physically cant have sex due to lack of a biohole>he insists it doesnt matterhow do i cope with being useless and how should i cope when he eventually leaves me for a woman?
Just let him fuck you in the ass
how do I find a straight tranner to be a loving cis bf to
>>43452580You have a butthole dumbass
>>43452585>>43452600deeply unserious>>43452590u dont?? theres no point when women exist
>>43452608>no pointnice baiting me into somewhat addressing the question of the thread, but I wanted to answer later anyway, which is now. this is highly subjective, of course. for me, straight + somewhat demi, it just feels like the right relationship oriented tranny will love and appreciate her bf a lot more, and I just want a really intimate relationship. sexual compatibility in terms of concepts and therefore fulfillment also seem a lot more likely. and that aside, I find anal and a small useless dick hot (but would probably be understanding if my gf wanted to get srs one day)
>>43452608it's not unserious, you can very much physically have anal sex with your bf. i know it's not the same but it is a way for you to be intimate together.
>>43452835>i know it's not the same but
>>43452803>it just feels like the right relationship oriented tranny will love and appreciate her bf a lot moreCan you elaborate on this?
>>43452580let him pound your ass retard
>>43452803gross>>43454615unserious
He won't leave you for another woman. If you don't push past your own neuroticism, he would leave you because you are deeply unstable and he feels he is part of the problem here. Please don't project your insecurities onto him. He loves you deeply and values you as an emotional connection. "just let him fuck your ass lol" is an option but its not really gonna matter to him.T. cis guy who dated tranny for 8 years.
>>43454667Why are you no longer dating her?
>>43452580The insecurity you're feeling has nothing to do with your partner, or rather, nothing to do with them as an individual, and everything to do with your perception of what you *should* be as a sexual-being, and what your dynamic *should* look like, according to that. Fundamentally, it's no different than a cis woman with severe vaginismus, who has oral, and anal sex, but not PIV, and feels bad about it, even though her man is fine with it, or for a slightly more stretched analogy, a man with erectile dysfunction, who can please his wife orally, but still feels deeply insecure that the lack of conventional PIV is 'unfair' to her. If you both enjoy having the kinds of sex that you have, then there's no reason why the absence of the default, socially-prescribed form of sex should be cause either of you disquiet.
>>43454693She shoved me away constantly. Anytime I tried to comfort her it was shut down and I couldn't help her much more than she'd let me. It fell apart around year 5, but I stuck around and tried my best to understand her more, be less dismissive about problems I probably couldn't understand without her articulating them and she hated doing that. Didn't wind up working out, I paid 6 months rent for her and moved. She hasn't contacted me since.
>>43454725you learned the valuable lesson that trans women are not made for relationships. their ego will inevitably destroy it.
>>43454740Some of us are made for relationships
>>43454740I think it was just she lacked the will to unburden herself. Hope she fixes that.>>43454757I agree with that assessment.
Since you respond to any practically real advice with some shit like "unserious" I will give you advice in a serious way: have anal sex with him or get srs. Is that serious enough for your level?
Anal sex is really fun nona, if I lived on the same continent as my bf I would be getting it several times a day
>mtf>straight>strangely anti-analWhat an unfortunate combo
>>43454667I feel like I'm in a similar position but I doing my best to not self-sabotage, when I look at past discord logs before we were even official it's crazy how I almost fucked everything up by going "you should just forget about me and find a cis gf", I still am extremely insecure but I try to keep it in check, its really hard to believe that this amazing, patient, handsome guy is so supportive and loves me.Also in my case I do have anal sex with him but I still feel bad that he can't experience vaginal sex or having kids :c
>>43454931Im the same way nona, my bf even had to convince me to advocate for myself and tell him to break up with his cis gf so that we could start dating
can you give us any explanation beyond the word 'unserious' as to why anal sex is off the table for you or "doesn't count" as sex? the only other obvious answer is SRS but idk how you expect anyone to tell you anything else when you refuse to even engage in basic conversation about the option(s) you currently have. we can't help you unless you use big girl words
>>43454904especially considering plenty of cis women are into anal even though they have a front hole.
>>43452608>theres no point when women existop, the only women that weren't disgusted by my character in a romantic context were trans women. one of them stayed with me for years and didn't even start resenting me for months, and genuinely felt like a soulmate for a very long time in the relationship. if I'd limited myself to cis women, I'd still be a virgin that's never known love or something that seemed like it.
>>43455034some are even more into it than piv because their sexo bits or brain bits or w/e are arranged in a way that bananal makes them coom much more than piv or piv rarely does
>>43452608>deeply unseriousWhy are you playing this stupid game? Just admit that you want an excuse to indulge in your self deprecation fetish and stop pretending it has any basis in real world problems.You have a mouth and an asshole and pussy does not feel that much different for it to be a big deal. At the end of the day a hole is a hole and most guys absolutely do not care. There are very few men who would be disappointed if their girl told them>you can't fuck my pussy anymore but you can fuck my mouth and my ass as much as you want
>>43455212nta but i never knew some cisfs liked anal, interesting the more you know
>>43454548cis women do anal too, genius
At least let him fuck your thighs, Greek style
the men in this thread are nicer than i expected,,,
>>43452580bfs will wait for that srsussy. mine waited like 4 years>>43454725wow im currently doing this all I should fucking stop. honestly I think ur gf is doing it for the same reason: its too hard to have a bf and we want you to leave. Or we need to create the worst possible conditions to prove to ourselves that you wont bail. Or its just simple self sabotage
>>43455957You're painted a horrible picture of us but also it probably wouldnt be right to lump us in with outright chasers. Thank your for your compassion.>>43455997We've been broken up for a while now, I mentioned It was 8 years. That was back in 2018, but yes you should be very careful with that.
>>43452608maybe he just doesn't like those nasty yeast holes
>>43455034yeah and plenty of women are into being tied up and beaten half to death. whatever random kinky bullshit theyre into doesnt change the fact that they have brain damage for not using the more pleasurable self lubricating hole that doesnt hurt to take seven inches in and is capable of being fucked whenever
>>43452580girl that's a normal relationship don't bother with the transbian lingo you're above that>>43452590are you in the uk
it is hard to believe there is a nice boy out there who would want to stay with me and love me
>>43454757No.>>43454782You have first-hand experience and you're still deluded?
>>43454594when I say>the right relationship oriented trannyit's really just a qualifier to account for the excessively "degen", poly etc people who aren't particularly romantic or "boyfriend sexual".as for appreciating or loving her bf more, I can't really say why this is, but I definitely have this impression, and it somewhat matches my experience so far. fairly subjective after all. perhaps it's partly because they have yearned for it for some time and dating is difficult?>>43456404Aw, I'm afraid not :/ it would have to be germany>>43456423I don't doubt it at all nona. if you're from my country, we could have a chat. but as you see right in this thread already, we heard from both sides of those relationships. so when the time comes, please try your best to accept your bf's love :)
>>43456389>the more pleasurable self lubricating holethe anus can self-lubricate if you're powerful enough. spit can also work in a pinch if you're trained >doesn't hurt to take seven inchesseven inches is big for a vagina too and can cause pain. i know this from first hand experience>is capable of being fucked wheneverso is your butthole...?
>>43457137yeah that is big for a biohole too but literally everything else you said is wrong and youre still just ignoring the fact that being sodomized by 7 inches is different
>>43457709What the hell is this conversation? So what if you can't take 7 inches, how many fucking people have 7 inches?
>>43454945lolwhat
>>43458187the boyfriend i literally mentioned in ths op?
german accent chaser
Hey, im really sorry about that. You could let him fuck your thighs, or do a lot of oral. Not sure how much your breasts have grown but you could use them too if they're big enough. Anal would probably hurt at first but you can train for it by stretching it out to better fit him and make it hurt less.Best of luck~!! <3
>>43458438yeah im a dcup so i could give that a shot im just worried hed want actual sex
>>43458397that... would be me. what's up?
>>43457709listen dipshit. i have a huge dong (over 7 inches) and my cis ex gf would request i shove it up her ass without me bringing it up. you are just weird and autistic
>>43458916cool? im sorry your girlfriend is a kinkfag who likes being painfully sodomized rather than having sex?
>>43459074once again, you are weird and autistic. and likely homophobic for that matter. and carry internalized transphobia. poster child for HSTS
>>43459094just the first two really
>>43459286what do you think of gay men that have sex with each other in the ass
>>43459294why would i have an opinion on what other people do? thats their prerogative
Damn, a D cup? Estrogen must really be doing wonders lol~ :3cYeah, I understand he will probably want actual sex. Your best bet is to try stretching your ass. I hope you and him can find a way to make it work! :D
>>43456932Is the Netherlands close enough for you?
>>43458805Damn, a D cup? Estrogen must really be doing wonders lol~ :3cYeah, I understand he will probably want actual sex. Your best bet is to try stretching your ass. I hope you and him can find a way to make it work! :D(Sorry I forgot to reply to the post properly :c)
>>43456423I think he would stay with you and love you~!! You seem like a really sweet person who truly wants what's best for him. I really appreciate that and I bet he will too!! :>
>>43459302>im sorry your girlfriend is a kinkfag who likes being painfully sodomized rather than having sex
>>43459431yeah and im not that? she can do what she wants just leave me out of the kink stuff man
I'm not a touchy feely person but I would like to just be hugging my girlfriend (t or otherwise) constantly.
>>43459376it might be. I'll leave you a throwaway. @anonthrwe can have a chat sometime tomorrow or the day after. better be sleeping soon!
>>43459446>gay sex is kink stuff
>>43460000the topic of discussion is kinky straight sex actually
>>43460139aight then>a trans woman having anal sex with her boyfriend is kink shit
>>43460151yes heterosexual anal is kinky any other questions
>>43452580>anti-analyou're just hurting yourself atp
>>43460203yes: why are you so retarded?
>>43452580Please just make sure that you show him that you love him, ask him if he's okay every now and then, don't cold shoulder his issues if they seem overwhelming for you
>>43460233retarded for not being born a kinkster?>>43460206i dont choose to be that way>>43460243yeah fair
>>43452580You know how lucky and special and wonderful you feel that this awesome person chose you?He feels that way too.
>>43460485maybe so...
>>43458215My boyfriend had a cis f gf that he had just started a relationship with and I was sad about it, and one day he told me:>hey nona do you want to hear something kind of funny>yeah what anon? >I had feelings for you for a long time haha>Oh yeah anon that is kind of funny, I had feelings for you too but you have a girlfriend now hahaAnd this eventually led to me being like>stay with your girlfriend because she will be better for you than I and can provide things I can't>He says: nona what do you want>I want to be with you anon>Then nona its okay to advicate for yourself and tell me what you want>Okay anon I want you to break up with your gf so that we can be together>okay nona I willAnyway we are still together 2 years later. Sorry for the schizophrenic greentext
>>43460633Thats really romantic in a way. I don't think you could have asked for a better approach.
>>43460633unfortunately i would do shameful things to have a man literally pick me over a cis woman
>>43454548>>43452835>>43452608I took my cis gf’s anal virginity on our first date and gave her her first anal orgasm and after that 80% of the time I fucked her it was in her ass.
>>43460941is there real relevance to telling me about her weird kinky behavior or did you just feel like sharing
>>43458256I have a 7.5 inch dick and in my experience people can take it up the ass with far more ease than in their pussy
>>43460968and?
>>43460954The point is you are a tranny, in my experience trannies love getting fucked in the ass, you haven’t tried it for whatever stupid reason, if you have IBS you should say that. I gave an example that should prove to you women can and do enjoy anal sex and it was even so enjoyable that we preferred it most times to vaginal sex. It is “real” sex, I felt very connected to her and her to me, it was just as intimate if slightly more degrading which we both enjoyed. My dick is roughly the same size as your bf. My point being you’re not missing out on sex because you don’t have a pussy, you’re missing out on it because you are a fucking pussy. Let him ram your butt dummy.
>>43460982“I can’t have sex because I’m a tranny” isn’t a false statement, that’s my point. You’re not having sex because you choose not to because you’re insecure. Trannies can have sex, you can have sex with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend can pin you down with your legs over his shoulders and breed you balls deep while shoving his tongue in your mouth. You are the only one holding yourself back from that experience. You don’t have to have sex if you don’t want to, it’s your choice, but it IS A CHOICE. That’s my point.
