what’s a metronome

>>43457853
Its a device used to keep time when playing music. I used it in my title as a way of saying my partner is very wishy washy about this subject.

>>43457790
>Neither of us are straight and one of us presents as non binary, and we knew at the start of our relationship that we would be biologically unable to actually satisfy the other.
Relationship is dead and always was. Foolish to enter in a relationship when you already know you're sexually incompatible.

>>43457873
>Relationship is dead and always was. Foolish to enter in a relationship when you already know you're sexually incompatible.

We entered the relationship knowing this about each other. We set boundaries and rules that we were supposed to stay inside of. We are compatible when it comes to virtually everything else and we still have sex on a regular basis, but we both agree that something isnt right, we just dont know how to go about fixing it.

Both me and my partner are into the concept of an ENM relationship, however every time we try to actually do anything my partner comes up with some reason why it wont work and then nothing happens, even if my partner is the one to plan everything out. My partner also arbitrarily wants to alter the rules of the relationship at a whim and expects me to go along with them, which is really pissing me off.

Keep in mind that outside of this singular issue, we have a healthier relationship than most other people we know. Or they just have very very fucking shitty relationships.

>>43457873
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I have a christcuck friend whos been dragging herself for 11 years playing the ''im not putting out until im married'' game and burned through every guy she entrapped in her bullshit. within 6 months each guy left her for someone else better. NEVER under any circumstance ever bother to force yourself into a relationship physical intimacy is gonna be walled.

which form of traumasexual is enm

>>43458016

We have enough sex to sort of keep our relationship in the green. The issue is that both me and my partner are into specific things that the other is not into sexually or is biologically impossible with our genitalia.

The other thing is time. Both me and my partner have wildly high libidos and it is physically not possible for us to actually sexually satisfy each other throughout the week as we almost always work opposite hours. We are both doing things to fix this, however due to the economy our schedule will be like this for awhile. I have come up with multiple solutions for this however my partner almost always shoots them down. Whenever my partner comes up with a solution and we actually find someone who we think we'd be compatible with in an ENM relationship my partner comes up with a reason for why it wouldn't work.

>>43458065
Ethical Non Monogamy. There is no singular version of it, it just means that one or both partners in the relationship engage in consensual sexual activity with someone who isn't their partner. Consensual polycules are also a form of ENM.

>>43458098
oh polycuck shit
yeah if you're into your stinky slut puppy pile phase, you can indulge that, don't force your bfgf into it unless you're sure they're actually into it as opposed to desperate and putting up while wanting to kill themselves when they see you cheat on them with someone else
hopefully you have the opportunity to outgrow that into a full commitment relationship too, i know its not easy

>>43458131
Its not just me, neither of us want a monogamous relationship. I just seem to be the only one saying that if its an issue that we're monogamous then we should actually not be monogamous.

>>43458163
>neither of us want a monogamous relationship
on the other hand your SO is shooting down every proposal

>>43458163
two non monogamys isn't a relationship, you're just fwb

>>43458244

this is why I am so confused. My partner begged me to have a threesome with a mutual friend of ours, we planned it out, figured out details, and when everything was ready to go my partner said no. My partner has also done this before. The other thing that gets me is that as I have stated earlier, we are both into things that the other is not into, which has resulted in some unpleasant dialogue between us.

My partner has also unironically become more immature the longer we have stayed in the relationship, it is almost like they have psychologically regressed despite getting older.

>>43458276
This is just your opinion. You can be romantically and emotionally invested in someone while neither individual is in an exclusive sexual relationship.

>>43457867
see i thought it meant the other way around that she's consistently advocating it just like a metronome is consistent

>>43458292
might be getting cold feet?
might be putting down some of her defenses as she's getting deeper into the relationship?
>assuming she unless it's a trans dude

>>43458292
>partner has also unironically become more immature
leave immediately it doesn't get better i put up with ts for years and regret it.

>>43458317
What makes no sense is that my partner knows full well that I would have no issue with them and our mutual friend having a sexual relationship, not even just threesomes. This mutual friend also has a sexual interest in me as well which is why they agreed so easily to a threesome.

I'm not sure its defenses, it just does not make sense.

>>43458346
>leave immediately it doesn't get better i put up with ts for years and regret it.

I do genuinely need to sit down with my partner and have a long discussion about what needs to change because I cannot deal with this.

this shit dont happen in africa. nunna yall ever heard of some nonbinary ethical non monogamy happening in zimbabwe. niggas just making shit up in america like difficulty modifiers in a roguelike. "my partner" niggas workin at a law firm and aint even gettin paid.

>>43458454
Law firm?

>>43459702
this is sad

>>43458131
>>43458276
I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for over 10 years but you need to fucking kys—monogamy isn’t morally superior or more advanced