I’m a cis man with a date coming up with a trans woman, and I could use some advice. Until recently I thought of myself as gay (always a top), but this situation feels different. I’m attracted to her as a woman and excited about the date.I’m not planning to focus on her being trans. I’d rather just get to know her as a person. I want to make sure I don’t accidentally say or do something insensitive since this is new territory for me.
>>43459892Just made her feel feminine and be assertive. Also anything sexual, make sure she is okay with(Disclaimer: this is my preference)
>>43459939That's more or less my intention. Maybe I'm just nervous and in my head
>>43459892Even if you don't focus on her being trans, be prepared that she might.
>>43459892I'd advise you think very carefully about the slippery slope you are heading down. There is a Grand Architect of the universe and it's very telling what he thinks of us considering he made Satan the God of this world. A cruelz heartless being that looks at humanity as if it were total scum. Both God and Satan know everything you ever do. You are planning on sodomizing a crossdressing autist if not a transvestite paedophile freak. The law states "Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind: it is abomination.", that's clear hat the one doing as you faggots call "the topping" is in a clear violation of the law and will be met with death as God pours out his wrath on your soul and you enter your (albeit, deserved) eternal torment. Why then is it only the Sodomizer who is in violation and not your victim? Simply God understands such edge cases where autistic incels get bullied into being feminine faggots by our current evil society and pitties their fragile psychological profiles. I'd think very long and hard, the word on the street is the Messiah is already back and living in secrecy in New Zealand, the reincarnation of King Solomon. I wish you luck with your struggles and pray you are victorious in beating these disgusting urges plaguing your mind. If not, see you in the race war.
>>43460193You're literally just a fucking bigot go back to >>>/pol/
>>43459892I guess what you are trying to say is that you do not have any experience with talking to women, am I right?
start talking to her about warhmammer 40k
>>43460490No I'm good with talking to women. I'm pretty well adjusted, well educated, mixed gender group of friends.I think I'm nervous because it's outside of how i've sexually identified up until now, so I just feel like there are a lot of mistakes I can make.I think maybe because in past relationships we've bonded in part over being gay and now in this one that option is sorta not there anymore?
>>43460822I think that, you're probably going to get GRIDS and die. God allows you to make mistakes simply so he can punish you for your insolence after death.
>>43459892you're gonna be fine, just treat her like a girl and try to communicate well
>>43459892treat her like a girl, compliment her shoes, don't bring up her being trans or her penis or anything unless she does first
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>>43460903>>43460869Is flowers too try hard? I ask because when we were texting she would usually send hearts that were purple so i figured I'd bring her some purple flowers?
>>43460915do it, transgirls never get flowers
>>43460922Alright will do.I think typing this out helped somewhat.I just don't want me having identified as gay until now to be a thing that would make them feel bad, or that i don't view them as a woman.
>>43460939dont bring up being gay either, at least not at first
>>43460958I mean I'm not planning to lie to her, but I wasn't gonna lead with it
>>43461003at least wait until she brings up past partners. You might want to let her lead on anything that brings up lgbt topics
>>43460939>thembruh
>>43459892call her handsome and ask her to fuck you in the ass
>>43461036That's more or less the plan. Im fine either way with it coming up or not, just don't want to offend her.>>43461058Sorry! But this is super helpful! I 100% used them absentmindedly there.
>>43460915wait this is really sweet. depending on how it goes, i think its potentially worth explicitly mentioning that you chose purple for that reason. she might make the connection right away but i know for sure i wouldnt cause id be too nervous and in my own head lol but if i were in her place it would make it that much more touching to know that u were thinking of me and paying attention like that. i trust you can read the situation on that one. also yea plsss be super careful about saying ‘them’, it could make or break the whole thing. if you say it on accident itll probably be ok she will understand as long as u dont make it weird. u seem really sweet and thoughtful, just keep your brain on and dont go into autopilot and im sure it will be a great time for both of u ^^
You should tell her you think she's hot but still consider yourself hard gay. Tell her you think the fact that she has is a penis is sooo sex to you and you'd love to suck it. Also tell her you need to go to the mens bathroom and ask if she wants to come with because you think she'd fit in fine and you wanna have gay stall sex with her
>>43459892You chose the worst group of trans people to ask, most of them are incel adjacent basement dwellers. Try a different website/platform if you're being genuine.
>>43460822>I think maybe because in past relationships we've bonded in part over being gay and now in this one that option is sorta not there anymore?Yet another underage faggot who makes their orientation their entire identity. Please get a fucking hobby.
>>43460193eternal torment was made up like 400 years ago in some italian fags Christian fanfiction dude its not even a canon part of the religion you larp as loool. hell exists as a continuation of pagan beliefs unable to be quashed by catholicism which does not officially recognize hell as anything thing other than 'not being with god'. this is true for orthodoxy as well
>>43459892Just look up regular old advice on how to treat women. We're all weirdos here, either trannies ourselves or chasers. Trans women want to be treated like women. That's all there is to it; treat her like the woman she is.
>>43459892OP Im sorry for all the pos poltards ITT, please enjoy your date. by her flowers, hold the door open etc. there's nothing wrong with being bi or loving a transwomen. the whole chaser thing comes from fetishizing and shit that you obviously aren't doing. the reason we hate chasers is because 99% of them are repressing transwomen who skinwalk ur transition to get off and you exist as a vehicle for their narcissistic self pleasure instead of as a partner
>>43463379Thank you for the feedback!The overall message I'm getting seems to be to relax and that my impulses seem to be correct.I think the shitty /pol/tards help too because they just remind myself what a lot of trans women experience on the internet/in real lifeI imagine being with someone who is trans I"m inviting it into my life so I need to be mindful of it.(Also this is a question I've always had and never been able to get a good answer, is the correct term "trans women" or "transwomen"? I've seen people say the term should be "trans women" because they are women, where the term "transwomen" is more othering, but that's the one in your post?)
>>43463735no difference between them.
