>be me>engaged troon>fiancé is very tall and German>yay>his mom loves me>always pulls me in the tiny ass German kitchen to help her with weird Europe food>also for girl talk B)>take German mom home with fiancé to meet mom classic>back in America>mom classic is kind of weird>gets more visibly upset as the evening goes on>starts crying>german mom consoles her>”it is a different sort of love, but it makes them happy and as mothers-“>”YOURS isn’t the wife!”>I start crying>Fiancé takes me outside>german mom keeps talking to mom classic>fiancé apologizes to me for some reason and helps me calm down>i stop crying>it’s okay>we come inside and everyone apologizes >still really weird vibe>still stuck in America for 2 more weeks>still the wifeI want to kill myself why couldn’t German mom be my real mom it’s not fair. My mom doesn’t even want me she’s wanted me to just be a completely different person since I was a little kid. That isn’t even love that’s just obligation
>oh no im getting married with a person who loves me and joining a new supportive family oh woe on me I want to kill myselfselfish cunt.
>>43463071How am I selfish? What?
>>43462995Nigga you have a hot aryan fiance, and his loving mom, so you are clearly a passoid. GTFO here with this brag disguised as a sob story.
>>43463115Okay I thought people here might be able to relate and help me feel better. My fucking mistake.
>>43463107Literally take your mom on a fishing trip then or something, wtf is this blogpost you have spawned.
>>43463126I would snatch your weave hoe
>>43462995kill her
>>43463139secondedKill your mom, OP
>>43463127It won’t help. She doesn’t like me
>>43463144No I mean like a big greasy italian fishing trip.
>>43463150What does that mean
>>43462995My mom is the same, I can tell she still has this lingering idea of me as a child and being a young man and it upsets her. I genuinely think it's a bit delusional but she just built this entire reality of who I shouldve been and can't seem to accept me fully. Im glad you found a new accepting family though
>>43462995You have to take into consideration that it’s best to become estranged, embrace the new and rid yourself of the old
>>43463229this, your mom is a stupid attention whore crybaby ruining what should have been a celebration of love.embrace your German family who seems way cooler.
>>43463163Whatever, anyways, I mocked you for the brag here, but your mom is still a bitch. I am sort of on your side... hoe
>>43463240I think a lot of people forget that parents aren’t obligated to give us unconditional love, and we aren’t obligated to be tethered to them. I grew up with conditional love and it’s fucked up, I’ve spent maybe like 36hrs total with my family since I left home like 18 years ago Op it’s not gonna be easy but it’s probably your best bet for a better life later
Apparently my sister kinda perceived that my parents wanted a boy and felt sidelined by me and she was happy when I came out as trans because of the irony
>>43463126>Okay I thought people here might be able to relate and help me feel better. My fucking mistake.People here struggle to find anyone that sees them as who they are, let alone find a person that wants to marry them.Hope that helps putting things in perspective.
>>43463272if you have kids you should give more or less unconditional love (that doesn't mean excusing bad behavior). I believe that strongly, children deserve love, emotional support and mentorship even as adults. this leads to better outcomes for their lives and as a parent that should be your entire goal. and ESPECIALLY meeting your future son in laws parents. like, that's not about you. its the couples day, they are meeting because they are becoming family. if you need to voice your misgivings maybe at the table meeting the in laws for the first time discussing the wedding isn't it. it just shows the mom isn't putting her daughter first, her own transphobic feelings are more important than her childs happiness = FAILURE AS A MOMjust my 2 cents I do want kids one day but I see it as a lifelong commitment
