previous: >>43456163Goal of the thread: Work on one skill you wish to be better at. It can be as simple as reading a small paragraph of a text book on the subject.Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!>What is this thread for?Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone.Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc.>Why is this thread /lgbt/?Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices.>Notes to consider:Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly:WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION>Note on adviceGeneric advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know!Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!## RESOURCE LINKS:Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07General advice from Anons: https://rentry.co/sig-tips-2024-04Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://rentry.co/sig-posts-2024-04
Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!- prepare 1 load of laundry- do 1 load of laundry- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish- eat a meal- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes- make your bed- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)- do the dishes for 3 minutes- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)- Open your window for 10-20 minutes- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)- take out the trash- drink a glass of water- put one item of trash in the bin- reach out to an online contact(perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/:IRC: presently defunct afaik.Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2
>>43487320i used to react like the person in the comics to trivial compliments whenever i received them (which was more frequent when i was younger, obviously) but then i realised it makes you just look like a massive attention seeking faggot looking for affirmation so i learned to just quickly say "thanks" and to try and change the subject and move on
>>43487420Kind of same, I still don't like accepting them, but I try to just deflect away from the subject whenever possible.
I've been sleeping a bit better lately. I wonder how long I'll be able to keep it up. Been playing a few more games instead of just bedrotting to YouTube too and I've been keeping up with my journalling, I've also been showering every day or every other day. It's only been for a few days, but I hope I'm able to keep it up. Still slacking on more productive activities, and my studying, and I think I've fallen behind, I'll have to do an effort to catch up.
I fucked up and made a thread because I didn't see this one. Please ignore it.>>43457502>I feel like he'd call me a whiny retard.Think of it this way, even if you struggle to believe that they won't judge you (at the same time, would YOU judge other people for the issues you have the same way you judge yourself?), maybe it is more convincing to remember that they would actively punish you for seeking out their help if they did that. Would be very self defeating, right?>>43457578>I'll practice it tomorrow. Thank you OPMy pleasure, Anon! I am always happy to provide.>>43459757>I need two more SIM slots.In that case you can always get a cheapo second hand phone which you can gift/resell to others later down the line. Sure you won't make your money back but you also won't create e-waste.>>43461153>how well does it fade?I don't have the best eye sight but nigh perfectly on my arms, and still extremely on my belly area. Of course the texture is different but.. eventually you will age and your skin won't be perfectly even no matter what you do. I am sure it can be further improved with skin care. I understand that you miss it, though.. it's difficult to accept changes for the worse, but what helped me a great deal is finding a partner to whom these things are completely inconsequential. It changed my own outlook, being constantly exposed to that kinda .. affirmation, one could say?>>43461560Happy for you, Anon! Sounds like you've made a lot of progress recently. You're not bragposting at all.. we're rooting for you, too!
i sould be put down lik a good puppy...i dont wanna suffer anymroe hahahahnathis is fake ignore
FUCK! I tried to make Mexican-style rice and black beans but the rice didn’t cook evenly. There were undercooked crunchy grains.I’ve always had trouble cooking rice on a stove. I think I didn’t toast the rice evenly or long enough.And I might have rushed toasting the rice because I tried to do too much in the kitchen too fast. I should have done more prep work before I turned on the stove and not tried to cook the beans and the rice at the same time.At least I picked the right time to try a new recipe I might screw up, since I still have some food in the freezer, and I have another recipe to try that should go more smoothly (Korean-style egg salad and BLT sandwiches).But I hate fucking up when I cook, but I know that’s a major trigger for me so I’m just trying not to get too upset. I’m glad I have some idea of what I did wrong, or what to do differently next time.So I definitely needed to vent. Uncommon cooking L.
i got chilli oil and an ice tray today. quality of life upgrade :3
>>43489712pats pats i get it because same. i hate having cooking Ls and anytime it happens i have to destress or vent.you got this fr! you have some idea what went wrong i believe in your cooking abilities <3(i've tried out your tips and they're always very slay)
>>43489855>(i've tried out your tips and they're always very slay)Holy shit, that’s my favorite compliment I’ve gotten in a long time! Thank you. On a sunnier note, I do have a couple of recent Ws to share. I finished reading my first graphic novel of the month earlier this week, and I’m halfway through my second. And I didn’t get fast food the last two nights my mom offered. I need to eat out less often, primarily for money reasons.
i learned how to thread my brows this week and it has brought me great joy
>>43489712finish cooking rice then add a dish towel between the lid and Pot and let sit for 14 mins off heat.
>>43489712>I’ve always had trouble cooking rice on a stove.What I do:Add rice to pot, season, add water (2x as much as rice)Heat until boiling, uncovered, and let it go, stirring occasionally, until enough water cooks off that I can see the grains through the cloudy liquidCover, lower heat to near-minimum, wait 15 minutesRemove from heat (should be no water left with very plump rice), fluff, re-cover, wait another 15 minutes, re-fluff and serve
>>43490040>Holy shit, that’s my favorite compliment I’ve gotten in a long time! Thank you. ^-^ love your cooking updates fr fr! i've been cooking more often and your food updates help find more stuff to try
Good night
having a rough night
>>43492832Whats up?
detransitioning due to lack of youth and especially egoim just a manthe end!Cya later bozos
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>>43495956does kitty want a biskit?
i'm really not doing well again, I'm almost done my first year at college and haven't made a single friend in the time. I botched my 4.0 that I could've had just because I was lazy. I'm 6'2 160lbs and know I'll never pass. I try not to doom about it when I can but honestly some things just cant be fixed.I wish I could lose face fat, it'd help me pass a little bit at least. I've always heard that manmoding and boymoding crushes the soul, and I get it.How do you deal? just in general? also any tips to not look as ugly would be welcomed loll
I'm extremely unhappy every day and I don't know why
>>43496292nvm I think it might just be this, but risen to a pretty bad level
>>43495986yes please mreaow!
i really regret transitioning, i deluded myself that maybe my life is just this kind of nightmare that im going to wake up from with time and effort, but thats not happening and in a way has kinda gotten worse, more confusing. im no closer to being comfortable in my skin than i was 5 years ago. i guess this is normal, not everyone gets to like who they are.
>>43496213>How do you deal? just in general?I have accepted that being a woman =/= being beautiful, and that sadly trannies get scrutinized far harder than women, which is saying a lot because society already scrutinizes tf out of cis women as is, I have seen cis women get harassed for "looking trans" the past few years, which is awful, but has shown me that a lot of passing really is a meme.Other than that, frankly life has required so much effort the past couple of years that I've barely have had time to worry about my appearance...
Check in to remind all the other trans women, trans fems, whatever, that OpenGatelabs is shutting down, and they have heavily discounted vials for sale.I've been going into /local city/ just to go wander around and do stuff like sit and read, etc as a way to get myself away from my computer on my days off.Other stuff, waiting for a quote for FFS, waiting for my dysphoria assessment back, waiting to actually start my life, etc, etc.>>43465805>real question, but what is stopping you all from blowing your head off?Just because you stop existing doesn't make the pain go away. Or the source of it.>>43495956Mrrp.>>43457502>>43489369Just to add to this, therapists will have seen worse before. Like I literally went to a therapist for vidya addiction (covid lockdowns, pre-HRT actually).>>43496508I'm kind of speaking from a place of not knowing yet (but being doubtful in my ability to transition successfully anyway), but I'd rather try and know than never try and never know.Some may remember my lore with the Royal Marines. Well, part of the reason I did that is that I had to know if I could have before committing to HRT. I think it is normal to have discomfort, but the tragedy is to have discomfort and never know if you could have resolved it.
>>43496457surething, pusspuss*hands you biskit*
>>43497356Ivy is such a cutie pie.
>>43456247Imagine a room renovation running for 6 months now and hasn't been finished, carpenter literally ran away/MIA with a cupboard still not finished.>Hm, I understand. You feel like you didn't develop as a person, but especially then it might be important to journal and critically pick apart what it is that is unresolved within you for this long. But to me it seems your big issues are on the outside.I hope to get something to journal down, I used to keep handwritten notes but I need something to journal on the go>Yes, self deception is a huge issue with it. The issue is: you will not escape this without discomfort. One thing you will find is that, unfortunately, discomfort will in all of this be a compass for you to point to progress. You will have to unlearn some things, and it will take you to do things you do not "want", even though you do want their outcome.II am just so tired.>I think I am getting a sense of why now, yeah. You want to have a space of respite, and frankly you need it. I think your sense of progress might be off, yes. Should we try make a checklist?The last time I had a space of respite, I achieved, exactly nothing...>>43489369>In that case you can always get a cheapo second hand phone which you can gift/resell to others later down the line. Sure you won't make your money back but you also won't create e-waste.I have to learn to take imperfect solutions instead of not able to do anything because the solutions have some flaws/might fail and blow up in the future (already did)
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>>43487320Any of you lovely people got any plans for the weekend?Or next week maybe?>>43503885pg8 again
