i was talking to this cis guy i met from here. at first i liked how we had similar interests in books and stuff. and we had a bit of banter going. but from the outset i was already constantly paranoid that he wouldnt want to be fully platonic with me bc hes a cis guy on the tranny board talking to a tranny a lot younger than him. and in general the whole thing about women and men friendships being a little difficultso he would say or show or ask some things that would bother me. maybe that make him look a little chuddy, or strange little jokes. and it would keep building up because i was too focused on trying to "fix" what i saw as his boundary pushes instead of just closing discord and not burying myself deeper and giving it some time for me to thinkbut ive been accostumed to talk exclusively to queer people, trans women mostly, who r also more sensitive and have had knowledge of what they can and shouldnt say drilled into their head, out of extreme fear of bothering someone else. but that same pressure is what sadly makes a lot of them fractured individuals with underdeveloped personalities despite having a lot of potential.[1/2]
i think our brief day-long interaction was , on my end , a bunch of little misinterpretations . even if he did say weird things.. make weird jokes that i cant influence becauss thats how he was socialized as a man, he still told me to make sure to tell him what triggers me so he doesnt upset me. so he was being genuine in some way, and thats what really bothers me. because people can be well meaning but still hurt others without meaning to, and theres hardly anything u can do to make them more bearable without sacrificing a lot of mental energy. if someone repeatedly bothers me, then im allowed to leave, but i know what its like to hurt someone on accident and feel like shit about itsorry this is really vague and overly long, ive just been trying to think about this with a clearer mind since i blocked him on discord yesterday as to relieve my pent up frustration. talking about friendship is difficult, if no one responds thats okay but i wish i could get a few diff view points maybe from both men and trans women and whoever else so i could mature a little bit and feel more sure about my interactions with a gender that literally makes up half of the population and that i therefore i cannot section off from me, a gender that i am still attracted to even if clearly i have a lot of issues with talking to them[2/2]
>>43502977>i was talking to this cis guy i met from here.Retard.
>>43502989it was on frengen retard smd
>>43502977>>43502980Terezi as an opener image is certainly a mixed first impression for the reading to follow, but I digress. If you two didn't get along, you didn't get along, as simple as that! You blocked him or whatever, now you can move on, as will he.You're thinking too much about it, and it's not like you'll never come into contact with another guy, let alone one who is perfectly fine keeping it platonic (read: me).
>>43503018thank u for the simple reply, i needed to hear that too x3 sometimes shit gets wicked and fucked up
>>43503071We live in a wicked and fucked up world as it so happens!I hope that regardless of that, the world treats you wellIt'll all be okay, NonaPwomise
>>43503137its a dog eat dog world out here.. which is why im a cat
>>43503018esp online people are so much less restrained and considerate. There are billions of people, the kind that are going to be found online are much more likely to be the kind who have spent so much time plugged in that they've permanently rewired the way they interact in dms. Lurking is the norm on every single platform, the best friendable guys are probably scrolling through forged in fire YT shorts and deleting the comment they got baited into. There's no script or secret trick, your eccentricities are a peculiar shape and it's going to take some doing to find someone else with the same kind of character. It's not a failure on your part that they act this way, they best you can do is stop expecting them to act any way at all. They're not promised to be nice, or pissed, or anything at all. Except maybe degenerate, you'll still prob have to wade through legions of perverted e-dorks unforch
>>43502977I’m a dude. I have a hard time believing that most guys from this site can have a plutonic friendship with a chick. But I think you have to have patience with someone if they are well meaning unless of course those jokes were something that genuinely upset you and then you shouldn’t have someone in your life that upsets you. How long did you know him?
>>43503152gosh you described exactly what i think so well.. so many different people, yet so much difficulty.. took the words right out of my maw>>43503157thats the thing. i dont know if they were actually upsetting or if i should have just closed discord earlier and take a breather and come back to talking to him with a fresh mind. only talked to him for a day haha but spent a few hours on it because i was enjoying our convo in the morning. as i said we were talking about our interests and being a little silly but then idk somethin happened :l
>>43503175It’s only a day I doubt anyone would really feel any type of way about that. Maybe in the future just try to have a little grace with someone and take that few minutes to think if the person is being intentionally upsetting sometimes people don’t explain things the best way and there can be miscommunications. But if you just drop someone at the slightest sign it’s hard to get close to people. All this said it’s discord which isn’t real it only feels real but it’s text on a screen
>>43502977ok
>>43502977most likely you don't live in the same place so nothing will happen but yeah if you talk to a guy he's almost certainly thinking of how to get you to have sex with him
>>43502977terezimoder i recommend that you find a furry. furries are like the only guys willing to date trans women that arent directly antisocial and evil. but also be prepared for them to like ... reveal that they like fucking baby pokemon or something. if you can play ball theyll be very nice to you usually
>>43506330my body is a temple and the only thing that enters it is my nightly prog in my butt also the occasional urge to post in hornygen anonymously>>43506351i used to be a furry pre transition >8D i mean theyre also a community of queer ppl but they yearn about being gay anthro twinks instead of being trannies that want to be beaten or have heroin injected into them by another transbian
>>43506392i found a pretty decent masc guy who couldnt stand the idea of that weird gay submission thing. but yeah i get ur point
>>43506407i mean if (mostly) cis straight guys r on the tranny board theyre gonna be more likely to be attracted to me and have the underlying motive of wanting to 1) wife me if theyre nice and just stumbled onto the wrong entitled tranny with too much self-worth (me) 2) fuck me if theyre weirdoskinda like how its hard to have a friendship between guy and girl without feelingz .. if someone is compatible interests and personality wise its gonna follow that u might think abt dating them , that goes for anyone not just guys >8]
>>43506463always be careful with 4chan ppl but i get u. see u in the rumpus room
>>43502977Honestly thats just something you'll have to navigate on a case by case basis. There isnt a fit all way to approach the situation and if you are that sensitive it'll happen often. But it gets easier. Don't feel bad about drawing a line though. You don't have to be a bitch (unless you feel its warranted) but if you do draw a line that they(he) constantly crosses or questions in a way that makes you uncomfortable just walk away. Some people aren't worth wasting energy on.
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